What is there to offer in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I literally have nothing to offer 🤷‍♀️

[V_Injector]

Be pretty, not fat, and kind is usually the trifecta of what a woman can bring and she'll be just fine in a relationship.

Now let's take that and shit all over it because feminism says you have to.

Government loves it because now you're just another taxpayer wage slaving your way through life and going into debt for shit like college and other things nobody but a group of cats will ever give a shit about.

Of course, I'm just being a misogynist by saying this and it's way worse 😂🤣

Did I say pretty and not fat? Oh no, you're not 'empowered' until you're fat and ugly justifying it as if packing on the pounds is helping you out like a sumo wrestler. Did I say kind? Pffffft, you can't be that towards a man! Haven't you heard of the patriarchy bucko?

You need to work and pay taxes. Kids? Fuck no, not for you, that's reserved for welfare queens and immigrants. I mean you don't want to be racist do you? ... and if you do have kids, make sure they start transing before puberty. What's the point of fucking you up if you don't let society fuck your kids up even more than that? But of course we'll try to get you to abort those kids first and then throw yourself an abortion party to celebrate.

[Asker]

Ok 👍

[morganherrel]

this is legit funny
I would add that a girl doesn't even need to be pretty, but just not fat, and suddenly they are in the top quintile of the dating pool and will do just fine

[V_Injector]

@morganherrel I 100% agree with this.

I myself, have overlooked many fucktarded faces because she had a hawt body... no gym work... she just wasn't fat. While males have to put effort into having a great body, women tend to be born with it, and all they have to do... is not fuck it up.

Too much to ask I guess, since they want to stuff their fat face with some of the worst food I've ever seen in my life and slurp it down with plenty of sugar treats and drinks.

[morganherrel]

@v_injector you are so based; literally, hotness and the desire of all men is the default if a woman just doesn't fuck it up by eating very much
In another country I've been to where some of my friends live, this is the norm (woman are thin)
In the U. S., it automatically makes a woman elite!

[V_Injector]

@morganherrel I know right... I lived in Japan for over 10 years, then I came back to the U. S. and I was just amazed by how many fatties are wobbling around looking for more to eat. By just not getting fat, they're already better than 95% of their competition here in the States... Sure, being kind come's into play sooner or later but I'm not eye fucking fat bitches that are just walking by.

[morganherrel]

@v_injector omg I couldn't have said it better
It's called the "fat acceptance" movement. Fat is actually beautiful, and if you don't think so you're not woke enough. You're bigoted or fatphobic.

[V_Injector]

@morganherrel You're right... the reason I put "Of course, I'm just being a misogynist" in my very first response... because I already know I'm just bigoted AND fatphobic by the standards of the land I came back to. Like this place made some rules that I haven't been playing by and I feel like they're on some bullshit. Why is diabetes type II supposed to be hawt all of a sudden... who made that rule? Fat chicks?

I mean don't get me wrong... I was feeling the same way when giant tits was a thing before I left America. (Early to late 90's) Who has giant tits? Fat chicks. I mean maybe it's just us... and they're going somewhere with this fat acceptance shit because they're making a lot of fucking dudes accept it just so they can give themselves diabetes type II.

[morganherrel]

@v_injector fr tell me about it

[morganherrel]

@v_injector actually, diabetes type II has been on the uptick in women ever since the body positivity movement began; it's a dangerous and misguided social experiment

[V_Injector]

@morganherrel This could be some Alex Jones shit... but what if that's a Government conspiracy to get rid of the chicks that don't make as much tax dollars for them to shove in their pockets? Or... To keep them on the workforce paying more taxes, to them by keeping them single and supporting their cats alone? ... and cat food equals sales tax. ... possibly more supportive of the government than a divorce.

[The_Confusion]

Cat food equals pay tax... lmfao

[The_Confusion]

Sales*

[V_Injector]

@The_Confusion Correctomondo! More cat food, more sales tax.

The conspiracy doesn't stop there. Don't they tax junk food as well? These fat chicks drinking all this boxed wine to go with their cats and junk food... I know they tax that.

We need to get into contact with Alex Jones!

[MrOracle]

I don't know you or anything about you, so I can't say for sure if you have nothing to offer or not, but regardless, it IS within your power to make changes in your thinking - in your morals and values and behavior - so that you DO have things to offer. It requires a different mindset - which means being willing to leave your old mindset behind. Lots of people struggle with that, but it can be done if you really want to.

Consider that, aside from a very small percentage of men lucky enough to have outstanding genes, most men have to start from zero and build up every single bit of their character and status in order to have any chance of attracting a women. We have to put a ton of work and effort and be willing to make big changes if we want to have even a small chance of success with women. So, we don't feel a lot of sympathy for the women who have to also do some work.

In your late teens and 20s, you had the incredible value of youth, and that would make a lot of men overlook your other shortcomings, but in your 30s, you actually have to bring real value to the relationship - specifically you have to bring things to the relationship that the man does not already have. He's only going to value things that he doesn't already have or cannot do for himself.

I suppose you have to decide how badly you want a relationship - and if you want it bad enough, you'll be willing to do the work, and if you don't, you won't. But if you are waiting to get a relationship at no cost to yourself, well, you're likely to be waiting a very long time.

[CrazyGirl2]

Love, meaning unconditional love. Friendship, companionship, a man who makes me laugh every single day that I’ve known him, yet he’s never really told me a joke. He’s just a really funny, truly brilliant man, who loves me! In a good functioning relationship, you get to experience true meaningful trust, and because of that you have one human being in the world with whom you can be 100% yourself. You can figuratively (and literally) strip yourself naked, and bear your soul to this person, because you know that you can tell this person all of the secrets that you've never been able to tell another human being! That's why I always say without trust there cannot be love! You get to share your life with someone who truly understands you, and spending that much time together only brings you even closer together. You get to go to bed every single night and cuddle up to the person you love most in the world, and you get to wake up every morning to a smile from that person. (and if you're lucky… a cup of coffee.). A good functioning stable relationship has more to offer than anyone could ever elucidate on, in just 2000 characters.

I hope this at least helps you answer your question.
Sincerely, Laura 🤗 🥰

[Lliam]

Great answer, Laura.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Lliam Thanks! I’m glad you liked a lot of my answers. I’l miss the beautiful ego boosts, whenever you, or someone else wrote something so complimentary after I close out my account.

Love ya sweetie
Laura.

[The_Confusion]

Looks like the "trump derangement" people, as opposed to all the troll candidates like myself, were the ones to drive you away from this community.

But I don't know what's surprising to you about that guy, i always thought since our first interaction that the person with a quote about "empathy" on his profile reeked with exactly what happened there / fake friend is worse than honest enemy.

[The_Confusion]

By the way the opinion itself can have far more than 2k, it's only replies with that short limit.

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The psychological "mechanism" if you will, of the trump derangement occuring to some people, seems apparently to me. They simply watch the news. This one thing indicates a couple other facts that are obviously evident. People who watch the news trust the news like up-to-date truths which are super important and can't be missed. And they keep rearranging their own views to line up perfectly with the news. It's a bit similar kind of mechanism to the popular term "projecting".

It is interesting how the same pattern plays out with any excessively right-wing cult-like fanatics. And even all who follow gossip shit in any form of mass media. Or even non mass media. We've all done it.

The way it goes is, people who constantly line up their views to match the "most up-to-date thing" expect other people to also line up to it, "accept the gospel", so to say. Like I said it's almost like projecting, just because you think that this is the most important thing to keep in the know you automatically expect others to want to learn this. And the news, media publishers are pros at making people gasp like that.

This happens automatically, similar to a religion, when people assign grandeur meaning to this piece of news, but it doesn't have to be a religion in literal way, it's just that religion OBVIOUSLY implies a life/death kind of importance, and so if news weren't of equal importance and trusted by the trump-deranged as religion is to some, then they wouldn't have the nerves to watch it all in the first place.

[The_Confusion]

Though sometimes such passionate research fueled by fear of missing out or whatever this is called, is a good thing, I'm not saying that this "mechanism" is a human flaw, just sad that shitty media leverages this "gasp" for their profits.

[WhitneySnow]

You’re pretty and you seem nice. That’s two things.

[ohsheeT]

A smile
Humor
Trust
Respect
Love
Compassion
Honesty
Friendship
being kind
Time together.
Becoming one with each other.

[Ironco]

Good answer

[lightbulb27]

you can give each other massages, watch movies together, make dinner and learn to cook together, study math together, walk the dog and de flea the cat together, go on vacation together, pickup and recycle trash together, talk, give him baby, etc.

[magiusX26]

for a woman, what most men will want aside from a sexual partner, include being someone who brings him peacefulness when with her, can run/hold down a household while he provides while not going crazy with his provisions, and control her emotions so that she is forever starting things with "i feel..."/can use some logic in it above feelings.

[magiusX26]

oh and not having her intimates shown to millions of others, especially for a price.

[Anonymous]

I've said that before. Then my sister's tell me all I have to offer the right woman. I think this is normal to feel this way some times. Thinking you have nothing to offer is human. But you have a mind, a heart, a body and a soul. So by that alone you have something to offer. You can work on the rest later. Because that's half of a relationship if you ask me, compromise.

[thearchjoker]

Love

respect

life

happiness

stability

support

loyalty

kindness

time

[Unit1]

I get it, you don't want a relationship. Nobody puts a gun to your head and says "you should get a boyfriend or else"

[its_amelia_c]

Absolutely it’s a very individual choice and no one should be made feel bad or judged for their personal choice and decisions!

[ManInChains]

Wouldn't know. Women haven't given me a reason to offer them anything in a relationship

[A_Wild_Redhead]

I was almost about to answer, but what do you mean you have NOTHING to offer? How is that possible?

[Asker]

Whatever a man needs or wants I can’t provide to him.

[A_Wild_Redhead]

Name me 15 different things a man wants and why you can't provide any of those 15.

[Asker]

Why does it matter? If I can’t provide it, I can’t.

[A_Wild_Redhead]

Because I judged from your behavior that you would dodge my question and not list 15. Seeing only what you wanted to see, not wanting to provide instead of being unable to. But I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt.
If I am wrong in my assumption you should have no problem naming only 15 things that men want in a relationship plus good arguments as to why you "can not" give them.

[Asker]

Do I have to give you a list?

[Asker]

Because I really don’t want to

[A_Wild_Redhead]

Do you have to? You are free to do as you please. But I have taken a look at your question history and it's not all flowers and sunshine. I don't want to just see those questions pass by but instead take your seriously and try to understand you better, so it would mean a great deal to me if you were to make a quick list.
And it's about this very topic of what there is to offer in a relationship. It'd be a shame to just post a question and not explore it deeper.

[Asker]

I’m not going to make a list

[A_Wild_Redhead]

As per my prediction, this outcome does not come as a surprise, but I still wanted to give it a shot.

Then if you don't want to engage further in these topics you post, why do you proceed to ask them?

[Asker]

Because I can 🤷‍♀️ I can post whatever I want just like everyone else.

[Asker]

Also, you waste so much of your energy caring about what my thoughts are. You need to stop doing that.

[Asker]

And, if you predicted that I wasn’t going to give you a list, why bother asking? You just wasted your precious time.

[A_Wild_Redhead]

I don't see it as a waste. I'm quite enjoying myself. I'm just trying to understand why someone would ask a question, but then not really want to discuss the very topic they wanted to post.

[Asker]

Well, it’s annoying and you need to stop.

[A_Wild_Redhead]

Sorry :(
But I really want to know... Why do you ask a question that you don't really want the answer to?

[Asker]

And why can’t you just leave me the fuck alone?

[A_Wild_Redhead]

It's just saddening to see someone who has forsaken herself and I wanted to help you out of it.

[morganherrel]

Everyone answered this question mostly

But one more thing: physical attraction, which is more in your control than you think ;)

[Asker]

Then I really have nothing to offer.

[morganherrel]

wellll I bet you can find ways to improve on that dimension
And after that, you can be kind and caring and empathetic and a best friend

[paledreams]

I also have nothing to offer - it's all just hormones and brain desires lol 😂

[Jennz6]

I don’t have anything to offer either except sex

[ohsheeT]

Without all the above then the sex wouldn't be any good so I would say that you have a lot more than that

[Anonymous]

You can offer as much as you choose to offer. The problem with today's women is they choose not to offer the things good men want from a woman. And I'm not talking about sex here.

[its_amelia_c]

“That’s the problem with women”

That there is a whole problem in itself! A nasty judgmental overarching blanket statement!

[its_amelia_c]

Ps! Women or anyone for that matter are not mind readers!

If you want something voice your opinions!

[Opinion Owner]

@its_amelia_c The problem I'm speaking of doesn't apply to all women, but sadly a majority. And yes, I do speak up about it, as do many other men. Look around you, it's everywhere these days.

[clampfan101]

Love at the very least, which is also the most important.

[LiamJHayden]

I disagree. You see through the BS of life. That is rare.

[noohair]

Really, everyone has something to offer. You have magic eyes.

[eagle1951]

that's not true, you have yourself. and it's the best thing anyone can offer to someone else. don't sell yourself short

[snowboarder720]

Enjoy living with cats 🐈 lol

[Asker]

I have a dog. Also, at least I’m honest. Doesn’t that count for something? 😂😂

[its_amelia_c]

That’s why I’m not in one and don’t plan on being!

[Med_guy1978]

😥😞

[Anonymous]

My love and companionship.

[Iron_Man]

You don’t care and you don’t like men

[Asker]

Well, men don’t like women so why like them? 🤷‍♀️

[Iron_Man]

They do

[Asker]

Yeah only for sex

[Asker]

Anything beyond that, they avoid.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t I care

[Asker]

Those are just words to me. They don’t mean anything 🤷‍♀️

[Iron_Man]

No I’m not like that

[Effie1997]

Compationship. Which is nice.

[rebeliouse]

you have lots to offer

[Jmmmfi4]

VERY POSSIBLE WHY IM SINGLE