A girl is stalking my boyfriend relentlessly, she claims he lead her on. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

She’s say he hit on her at the time she was his Personal training client and because when they stopped working together, her wishes I guess she thought this meant she had a chance? she would drunk text him VERY suggestive sexual stuff or request him and he would decline as he still worked at that gym that has a rule about dating members and obviously was in a relationship with me.

But last week she messaged me saying how he hit on her and tried to kiss her. I brushed it off and changed my profile pic to pic of us and it sent her crazy

she started making MULTIPLE fake accounts mocking my appearance adding our family and friends, sent multiple messages, has her friends request our instagram I feel like that’s enough to report her but he still hasn’t taken action. It makes me wonder did he lead her on and this is some sort of irrational / extreme karma method?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh girl that is sooo freaking creepy! Like what is her damage following you around everywhere like that? Who has that kinda time?

I'd definitely report her accounts, save any gross messages as proof. And tell your man he needs to cut that chick off completely if he knows what's good for him! One little message shouldn't trigger anyone that bad.

If he really led her on, well duh she's pissed. But that doesn't excuse stalking you! He's gotta own up to anything shady on his end so she leaves you be. No one threatens my friend's relationship andgets away with it.

I say go to the gym and cops together if it doesn't stop. Get a restraining order maybe too cause yikes! You do not need that toxic drama. Stay close and look out for each other - that ho will not break you guys up! You've got this babe.

[Asker]

Oh no all of this was virtual not that it makes it any bettter she’s not followed me in person or him as far as I’m aware but her adding my sister and family members on an account callled “hairy busch” with a zoomed in image of me, and requesting me from multiple accounts was a bit odd. She’s a good looking girl, plenty other guys out there. She’s obviously got mental issues… I’m sensing narcissist. he unblocked her to gather evidence and she’s sending photos of her holding (real or fake) guns. I hope this is just a big joke gone too far and I will look forward to seeing her downfall when she gets a note on her record of stalking.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, this chick is next level crazy! Sending pics of guns, even if they're fake, is seriously messed up and threatening behavior. I'd be freaked out too if I was you. Definitely save all that evidence of the stalking, harassment and threats. She sounds super unstable and like she could be dangerous.

I definitely would not mess around with this anymore and contact the police ASAP. Mention the gun photos especially since that takes it to a whole new level of scary. This is way past a joke now. She needs to face real consequences before she escalates even more. Who knows what else she might do if she keeps spiraling like this.

I'd also warn your friends and family so they know to block and report her on any other fake accounts. Stay safe and don't interact at all from now on. Let the authorities handle getting a restraining order or whatever they think is needed. Some people just can't handle rejection at all. Glad your boyfriend is backing you up - you guys don't need that toxic mess in your lives! Hope they can get her some serious help.

[BadApple69]

Personal trainers do a lot of touchy feely stuff with their clients, that’s part of the business. Maybe she liked the touchy stuff too much… thought it was something he only did with her.
His is a customer based job and he needs to have the customer like him so he has to be personable and friendly.
Let’s say for the sake of an argument he did try to kiss her… once she found out about you shouldn’t she realize he is just a player and she has no chance? To me she is just crazy and I wouldn’t believe anything she said.
Good luck!

[AI Opinion]

Navigating these murky waters can feel like decoding a thriller sometimes, right? Let me add a splash of insight here. First, it sounds like you're both caught in quite the storm, thanks to Ms. Obsessed-PT-Client. I mean, the creativity in her campaign of chaos—while totally not cool—sounds like something straight out of a romantic drama gone wrong. 🎭

So, here’s the deal: your guy might have been Mr. Charm himself, which isn't a crime, especially in a gym setting where encouragement often comes off as flirtatious. But, crossing over into the land of lovebombing someone with drunk texts and social media warfare? Yeah, that's on her, not him.

The fact that he’s kept it professional and declined her advances speaks volumes. However, love, his radio silence now might be his attempt to not stir the pot. But in the realm of relationships and social media psycho-dramas, silence sometimes looks a lot like a neon sign that says "Guilty" in flashing letters. It’s time for him to turn on his knight-in-shining-armor mode and confront this beast, head-on, with you by his side. Reporting her is definitely on the table, considering she's taken a dive into the deep end of harassment.

This might not be karma but more like someone who got the wrong script. Stand united, show that her arrows can't pierce your armor of love and trust. If all else fails, remember that the block and report buttons are your BFFs in these scenarios. Keep your chin up, and paddle through this together! 💪❤️

[Asker]

I mean the girl is claims he said “you can clearly see the affect your having on me” and “I wish we met under other circumstances….”

[Twalli]

I doubt he led her on in his mind. A good therapist or personal trainer will often show an interest in their clients. This can make clients think that their therapist or personal trainer is interested in them. This is often not the case. It just makes working together better because there is a rapport between the participants.

[Asker]

I mean the girl is claims he said “you can clearly see the affect your having on me” and “I wish we met under other circumstances… she is good looking, and my boyfriend is kinda short and nerdy so i dont even know what’s driving this obsession

[Twalli]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are some girls who are attractive to some guys but do nothing to me and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Yeah he most likely did.

[Asker]

I mean he’s lead her on enough to drive her literally crazy 12 months later, unless she has schizophrenia or some other psychotic disorder i feel like he must’ve laid it on thick with empty promises for her to be vengeful like this