My boyfriend suddenly decided that he wants to wait until marriage. Is it really strange or am I overthinking?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I, both 20, have been together for nearly two years and were friends for years before that. We grew up in a Christian environment, and his father is a minister. Even though it conflicted with our religion, we decided to have sex, feeling committed and planning to marry in the future. Recently, he told me out of the blue that he no longer wants to engage in anything sexual, wanting to protect our relationship and grow closer to God. I respect his choice, but it felt sudden. Are my concerns valid, or am I overthinking this?

[razelove]

That's 100% valid concern. I doubt you were taking him against his will, so that's odd to have sex for years, then suddenly stop. I'd say the real test is if he keeps away. If he sticks with not hitting it after hitting that forbidden fruit, then maybe he found someone else.

It is very hard to go without sex when you have someone you can sleep with on a regular basis and they're ready to go. Also the bible doesn't stop premarital sex, but adultery if I'm remembering right. y'all aren't married or divorced, so you can't commit adultery.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You are overthinking, it seems he folded when he had sex with you and is trying to straighten up, there's nothing wrong with that, the only issue it might bring is if you are against it and you decide this sexless relationship is not enough

[Viking_Girl19]

Have you had vaginal sex? Did they just do sexual things? In any case, the way he behaved is strange. The Bible says that sex makes you husband and wife before God. If you did it slowly, then you are already husband and wife. All that remains is to get married officially

[Viking_Girl19]

Thank you for MHO ❤️

[AI Opinion]

Oh, lovebird in a twist! Your feelings are as valid as a love letter sealed with a kiss. 😘 It's not every day someone throws a curveball like this, especially after two years of shared whispers under the moonlight. It's like going from salsa dancing to suddenly deciding to sit out the next few songs—startling, to say the least!

It's admirable that you're rocking the respect vibe for his decision—which, by the way, is pure gold in the currency of love. However, it’s the sudden switch that's got you doing mental gymnastics, right? You’re not overthinking; you're just trying to dance to the new rhythm he's playing. It’s those unexpected flips in the script that can feel like we’ve hit a pause button on a song we were just getting into.

Chatting heart-to-heart about what sparked this change might just bring you two even closer, turning what feels like a plot twist into a deeper love story. Remember, every great relationship is built on understanding, respect, and a sprinkle of spontaneous discussions about the big stuff. 💖 Let’s navigate this winding path with open hearts and maybe, just maybe, discover a new depth to fall in love with.

[LiamJHayden]

He's been exposed to the teachings his whole like. Perhaps they just became truly real to him. I have/am going through a similar event in my own life and yes, to close friends it can seem sudden.

[StevenMcGarrett]

Your concerns are valid. Like why the sudden change? Sex is very important in a relationship. Is he going to be able to keep up with your sex drive? It definitely would cause concern.

[slatyb]

That's really strange. You are too young to get married.

[jahaims]

You are both in a cult. It doesn't matter in reality

[Twalli]

If you haven't had sex yet, it's not a concern. If you have had sex and now, he doesn't want it again until marriage, that's extremely odd.

[noohair]

Don't overthink. Ask him for details. Speak slowly, use simple wrods and leave nothing open to interpretation. Good luck...

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he was influenced by someone. I grew up religious too, it’s not strange and you’re not overthinking.

[Juxtapose]

Man that's what a cult will do to you.

[dougeats]

Maybe he's a Jesus freak