Why wouldn’t a man marry a woman despite claiming to love her?

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V_Injector · Accepted Answer

Because marriage is fucked up. Love is still love... the same as it was long before we invented marriage.

Marriage in general is a very perilous venture for a man to undertake. Here in the United States, just moving in together could have the same pitfalls depending on the state. 'Common-Law marriage' is what that's called if you want to look it up. ... I mean imagine moving in with a chick, you never had sex with or had any sexual interest with and then she gets the courts to take half your shit a couple of years later. Shit that you've worked for 20 years for... one of your cars, and takes your dog too... half of your bank account. Now you have to sell your house because you won't give it to her, and split the money with her. Do you think that's bad?

It only gets worse if you really get married, with the sex, and the possible kids that will be taken away. Disclaimer: I'm only giving possible situations here and other situations may be different (This is for some solipsistic dumbass that might read this and claim I'm wrong just because that didn't happen with them)

With that said, it could be bad for him... I'm not fucking joking. Not only does it strip him of an easy out as she ages and starts growing a mustache, gets fat and ugly, cheats, and generally starts taking him for granted and treats him like shit, but it's equivalent to asking him if he wants to jump out of a plain with a 3/4th's chance that his parachute will not work...

I can already hear some retard in the back trying to haggle me with "Not that many marriages end in divorce rape!," so allow me to address that. For some men, it's easier to let her hen peck you all the time, put up with her shit, and be completely miserable for the rest of your worthless life as you live and work to give her shit she wants and maybe you'll get a mancave or someplace to retreat to for some sort of brief reprieve from basically becoming a domesticated animal in her cage just like the cats or small dogs she probably took in.

Facts are still facts though... most marriages are fucked up. You might not see it from the outside, but if you hang out long enough... you're gonna fuck around and find out.

Why wouldn’t a man marry a woman despite claiming to love her?

I believe I have stated my case and will conclude my dialog at this point. Have a great day ☺

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because sadly a lot of guys’ do not want to get married these days because of all the nonsense they hear about marriage so they are pretty much against it , until they know for sure a girl is in it for the long haul over the short haul. So you don’t have to be married to someone to show your love for someone. I honestly was nervous to marry my wife even though we were living together 5 years before I put a ring on her finger , we made 2 kids together before we got married as well. If I can go back in time , I would of stopped myself from marrying her selfish ass because she sadly changed on me when she decided to start being selfish and no longer caring about or relationship and marriage , so for me to even consider marriage again , is going to take a long ass time for me to even go down that road ever again. The next girl has a lot of walls to climb for me to even consider marriage again. And honestly I don’t want to do that to a girl whatsoever , I plan on eventually meeting someone else but not rushing into anything , especially with the way this world is today with selfish people

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

As someone else said here, it is about building a life and family. My husband wanted that with me. I wanted that with him. We got married. It is a commitment to building that life together. Traditional marriage is also a huge risk for the wife bc she gives up a career path to make a home for her husband raise his children. I provide a refuge from the world for him and for our children and he provides financial security for me to be able to do that. We both do what we do for love of the other. We both show respect and appreciation to the other for their contribution to the good of our family. It works for us. It is love.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Because marriage is not only a commitment to the person but to the traditional lifestyle they’re told it represents, AKA the nuclear family dynamic: Hubby is the sole provider, working hours on hours to make money for his stay-at-home wife and their 2 and a half kids. It’s exhausting, and they won’t make that commitment if they don’t believe the woman can care for them as much as she mothers their spawn. So basically, she’s gotta raise 3 kids and a husband too and they won’t commit unless that’s involved and honestly? Most women can do better anyway than someone who leads them on for 7+ years with no ring in sight.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, the mysteries of love! 💘 Sometimes, even when a man is head over heels, there might be a few reasons he's holding back on putting a ring on it. Could be fear of commitment, financial woes, or maybe he's just not ready to take the leap into forever land. Other times, it might boil down to personal beliefs about marriage or unresolved issues in the relationship. Love is a complex dance, and sometimes, it takes a little longer for both partners to hear the same tune. Remember, communication is key; a heart-to-heart might just unlock the mystery. 😏💍

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Because marriage is a loser’s bet for men. Even if she actually loves him in return, it won’t likely last. If she has so little as a single moment of regret, the government becomes her daddy and completely destroys him for her benefit. The reverse simply hasn’t been true for generations.
Vote for politicians to eliminate no fault divorce and/or split literally everything 50/50 or abide by prenups like ironclad legal agreements and men MIGHT have cause to reconsider. Until then, only idiots and masochists are still marrying, where men are concerned.

razelove · Answer

If there is no plan to have a family it's all risk and no benefits.

thatshydork · Answer

Marriage takes a lot more than just love. In order for a marriage to be successful, it takes hard work, commitment, loyalty, trust, love, and communication on top of the other stuff that makes adulting hard.

Sometimes two people who love each other are at two different points in their lives. One could be ready to settle down and maybe start a family while the other might not be ready to. That doesn’t mean that the person who isn’t ready for marriage loves the person who is less, it just simply means they’re not ready for that phase in life and it’s possible they might not ever be ready.

BetaBucks · Answer

Here's a list of possibilities:

Concerns of her mental health
Inability to see benefits from marriage
Concerns about divorce laws
Concerns about either person's ability to be faithful
Not loving her ENOUGH
Not seeing her provide value to a relationship
Some other red flag

Berethor · Answer

Religious men tend to marry fast, secular men have sex without marriage so why marry?

Nirmroth · Answer

Because there's no reason to, you can stay toghether with someone without needing to marry them.

Love can go away, a marriage doesn't protect from that and makes the break up or in this case divorce even harder and complicated than if you dont marry.

Kelley1 · Answer

Because the risks of marriage is very great for men.

jojouzumaki · Answer

He is probably not yet financially settled. Men will marry her when he is ready knowing that he could provide the best for her.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Many men don't have what it takes for marriage.

DrPepper12 · Answer

There's a million different reasons to love someone and not enter into a legal and economic union with them!! I love some family members but I just can't be with them due to their toxicity.

nawtee_me · Answer

You can truly love someone but not want to marry them. They can be attractive with the right personality and funny but also be lazy with poor housekeeping skills because they were never taught or were pampered growing up.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

He's not confident in his ability to provide or simply doesn't want to.

BadApple69 · Answer

You could love someone and not be able to live with them.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Economic reasons. Pressure from family or friends. Fear of commitment.

ABC1x1x · Answer

Because they make bad financial and life decisions. Marriage has ZERO to do with love. It has everything to do with building a life and family.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Because marriage have nothing to do with loving her. I can also ask if, if the woman really loves him, where would she still demand marriage?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

He might be worried about his ability to provide for her.

JoeRob67 · Answer

Many reasons. Is he ready? Being in love is great but Is he ready can he provide? Is his career stable etc

LiamJHayden · Answer

One can love another without granting ownership rights to his or her assets.

msc545 · Answer

Marriage is financial suicide for men. Prenups are worthless, guys.

NathanDavis · Answer

does not love her enough

slatyb · Answer

What does love have to do with marriage?

Radiate143 · Answer

Men don't marry for love.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

bc he doesn't wanna get married

renodnol32 · Answer

Kyun k maa baap nahi maan rahay

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Because he don't. It's all bs.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

If he loves her he'd marry her

Pterodon · Answer

Doesn’t love her enough

TheCaller · Answer

A man may love a whore but not marry her

eagle1951 · Answer

maybe it's not true love

MrGSpotHer · Answer

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