Freud relationship theory do you agree?

[Kinky_Slutt]

Basically Freuds relationship theroy suggested you can't escape being attracted to people like your parents because these early attachments shape your unconscious desires. So your childhood from 1-5 shapes what you search for in love (if it was a healthy relationship, if your parent shows you love or if they constantly left etc) is that the case with your partner especially if your over the age of 25

[MLGbreezy]

You know what I actually think this holds some weight my dream is to have a beautiful family with a beautiful wife and kids. That’s my dream because when I was really young I remember my dad asked me to get him some water from the kitchen and when I came back him and my mom were all cozied up and well they were about to do the nasty. I heard a lot of giggles and kisses that night and they seems so happy plus I was sharing a room with my older brother whom I looked up to and loved and I was really happy everything was right. I must’ve been like 4 years old at the time and I remember saying to myself my dream one day is to have a family like my parents have now. And now as an adult it’s still my dream and when it comes to pursuing love I’m very affectionate lots of hugs and kisses and I’m really lovey dovey. Some gir well actually a lot of girls think the way I go about dating or rizz is lame and corny but it’s just how I see love and relationships I’ve tried doing other ways and it doesn’t feel right. So yeah sorry for the long post.

[Crimsyjo]

Awww beautiful!!

[BullShark]

If you're referring to the Freudian theory suggesting that kids are sexually attracted to their parents and fantasize having sex with them, then no, I don't agree, and I think that theory is messed up, and that Freud needs therapy for even suggesting that in the first place.

What I do agree with is yes, I'd like to have a partner that has a few personality traits similar to my mother's because I've seen what sort of a good wife she is to my father and how good of a mother and a motherly figure she is to me and my two other siblings. If you see your parents in a healthy, happy and romantic relationship even after being together for 30 years or so, that right there are couple goals and who wouldn't want to find a partner like that who you can still flirt with like you were still teenagers, and have them reciprocate and the same energy with you?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So many of Freud’s theories have been disproven, and for good reason. When he first started interviewing young women to help build that baseline of psychology, they confessed to being molested by their fathers and his theories reflected that trauma they suffered through originally. When the fathers found out, they all came after Freud, denouncing their daughters’ trauma and threatening to end his medical career if he published that information. Instead, he changed it to the theory of “all children are secretly attracted to their parents.” Based on that alone, any of his theorems regarding relationships romantic or otherwise is not to be taken seriously.

[FreyaRed]

There is some truth and it fits to the theory of 3 personality types. Emotional Child, Rational Adult and Dominant Parent. However you have to consider you aren't attracted to your father's rational adult's and dominant parent's personality but to the child that shaped your in your early childhood.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the deep end with Freud, are we? 😏 Well, in the vibrant world of relationships, Freud's theory does add an interesting layer to the mix. This idea that our early attachments shape our unconscious desires towards future mates—it's kind of like love's secret recipe, hidden in the sands of our childhood experiences. Personally and professionally, I've seen patterns where people lean towards partners who reflect the qualities (or sometimes, the challenges) of their parental relationships. It's not a one-size-fits-all deal, though. Love, growth, and individual experiences add their unique spices to our relationship stew. Being over 25? That just gives us more flavors to work with as we become more self-aware and reflective about what we truly seek in love. So while Freud might be onto something, remember, we're complex beings navigating the wide seas of love—let's navigate with our eyes open and hearts ready for a bit of Freudian insight and a lot of personal journey.

[normalice]

I never met my mother and my stepmother was a disaster. But I have perfectly normal relationships with women, albeit probably a but more perverse than what women would imagine on their own. I suspect it's a little like the waves of an ocean, in that the pattern remains predictable as long as the situation remains stable. But if the waves shape deviates too far, it crests and breaks into something completely different. Maybe, if my step mother was like 20% less crazy I would have pursued someone like her but as it was I look for women who have nothing in common - not even her opposites.

[Crimsyjo]

Hmm. My dad wasn't around much and was a liar, distant and a gambler...

Hm. My first relationship was a drunk. Second a drug seller. Third a gambler...

There could be some truth in fact not having a good father role model means I lack the ability to recognise the bad ones until too late!!

[strateguy632]

He must have been a brilliant genius , to fool people he was expert. About something so inaccurate!

When i see a lady , starting to act or talk like my ma, i dump n block immediately. I am Not attracted to a gal like my mom!

Sometimes i suspect that Einstein genius, was not to explain gravity, but genius to fool educated people, that his method was good.

[BetaBucks]

I've exclusively dated the opposite appearance of my mom, so maybe the theory holds true for some, but I don't see how it would work for me. Or maybe there's another theory about avoiding women that looked like my mom because I'm trying to avoid her in a way.

[jojouzumaki]

Freud believed that individuals are attracted to partners who RESEMBLES their parents or primary caregivers, as they represent familiar figures from childhood.

If you’re a woman you mostly admire the qualities of your dad. How he treats your mom and how he protects you and so on…. Therefore, you’ll be attracted to such qualities.

[Lliam]

No. Freud had an Oedipus complex. "I found in myself a constant love for my mother, and jealousy of my father. I now consider this to be a universal event in early childhood."
I don't place much stock in his theories.

[osmanthus]

I think Freud had some credibility in saying attachment style tends to be consistent throughout a lifetime but it's changeable. Attraction to people like whoever raised us is likely whether for good or bad.

[MisterWack]

Freud is a weirdo, live your own life based on what you know as morally correct & morally bankrupt and legal v. illegal. Don’t go by some weird dead guy tbh.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Given the complexity of this topic, your wording and the frequent misuse due to simplification by popular press or other institutions: Please, let Freudian school in peace 😩

[strateguy632]

I studied psychology in college.
I know n say asker kin' described freud accurately.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@strateguy632 If it pleases you to sum up 20 books in one paragraph on social media, sure, enjoy yourself lol

[DrPepper12]

Some parts yes. Like the unlimited cocaine! Seriously, He has some very good observations about family relationships influencing the child as they grow.

I'm more of a Maslow & Skinner kinda guy

[Billlewis]

Yes, but the mother/child, father/child hypothesis can only get you so far, because it's often very complex in its nature.

[HighValue]

Freuds theories are bs. He is just a famous pervert with many ridiculous, inaccurate ideas.

[Anonymous]

I definitely think that's true of women. I think it's also why the quality of women continue to degrade. Because the family structure continues to degrade, priducing fewer and fewer quality women.

[RedInnocent69]

For the most part. Lots of psychology are informed by childhood, and you can rarely avoid sex. But do you always fall for your mom or dad? I don’t buy it.

[firenine909]

Freud relationship theory has been debunked. We can talk more about it in dms

[Ironic_Method]

My wife isn't like my mom at all. And no one in my life is like my dad.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Is definitely the case with me my mom was short ans curvy and the women I'm attracted to re short and curvy

[Crimsyjo]

Oooh I'm short and curvy 😉🥰

[Babygirl_S]

No way! I have never dated anyone like my parents.

[Anonymous]

to some degree there is truth to it though psychology isn't a static science like physics

[Nerdvana]

Nothing is 100%, but to some degree I am sure it's true for most people.

[MrGSpotHer]

No I actually really hate them i don't know about outhers

[abc3643]

Oh no, that's horseshit.

[Nikki1989]

That is 100% total bollocks.

[Benedict234]

It was my sister

[itsgonnabemee]

Sick bastard

[exitseven]

No, my wife is just the opposite.

[EnjoytheDay777]

I'm attracted to different kinds of women.

[Ariesman81]

Yes... up to about 35-40.

[LiamJHayden]

Personality-wise, yes. Looks-wise, no.

[itsgonnabemee]

No I hate my family and they make me sick.

[Update_Available]

I dont agree

[Anonymous]

No …