Girlfriend suddenly broke up with me after miscarriage?

[hellomyname1234]

Been seeing this girl for a year and things got pretty serious shortly into the relationship. She had a daughter (9 year old) but didn't mind. We did everything together and she definitely was in love with me and I was in love with her, but recently she said she felt like she was being pulled apart by me and her kid. I did my best with the child but she blow hot and cold and started to be more cold. We had a talk about it but then I proposed and she seem excited and was even looking at wedding dresses etc. She then became pregnant and we were excited. Then she called me to say she had a miscarriage and that she doesn't want more children and that she wants to be single and concentrate on her child. Felt like my life just got destroyed in a day. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry you experienced this, I know you must be devastated. This is all new, so for now I’d say to let yourself go through the motions. Unpack everything and deal with it, so that you can heal and start your life again without her. It’s hard to lose such an important relationship especially once your lives become so integrated, but you will adjust. Take it a day at the time, reach out to the people who really love and care about you and let them support you, don’t be hard on yourself. This too shall pass.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

A miscarriage, while common, is still devastating to go through. She may not be processing it well or maybe she felt like she wasn't being supported enough. It's hard to tell but try talking to her and see where she is mentally with the whole thing. Maybe you can work things out or at least help her deal with her emotions about it.

I know some people shut down when things get rough. I'm like that. I start feeling like I should be alone and start pushing people away. It's very possible she is the same.

[genericname85]

wow man. what a story. rejoyce! you dodged a massive bullet there. you're only 35. you can still find a better partner and have a family. your life isn't "destroyed". like clearly she ruined her life alreaey and probably that of her daughter too. be happy that this is no longer your problem.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to help you navigate through the ups and downs of love. It sounds like a whirlwind of emotions and heartbreak for both of you. Miscarriage is incredibly tough and can shift perspectives intensely. She might be processing profound grief and mixed emotions. Give her space for healing and self-reflection without pressuring anything. Focus on self-care and support as you navigate this tricky time. Time has magical healing powers, love. Keep communication lines open if she reaches out. Your heart and hers are both worthy of compassion. ✨

[Selene1600000]

What happened is a massive emotional shock for both of you, and miscarriages can change how someone feels about relationships, parenting, and their future almost overnight. Her pulling away does not automatically mean the relationship was fake or that she stopped loving you, it may mean she became overwhelmed, grieving, guilty, scared, or emotionally exhausted trying to balance being a mother, partner, and now a loss she may not even fully understand herself. Right now the healthiest thing you can do is accept what she said without chasing or trying to convince her, give her space, take care of yourself, lean on friends or family, and let the grief settle before deciding what this means for your future.

[LiamJHayden]

Move on.