It is bad I'm happy that my girlfriend miscarried?

[Anonymous]

I didn't want the child but she didn't want to get an abortion, two days ago a miracle happened, she got sick and miscarried. I'm really relieved, but I also feel horrible seeing how miserable she is now

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I'll be close with her as a friend but I want to end our relationship

[misfittoy]

are you happy or relieved? there is difference and if you dont wan children wear protection. your wording is really horrible, unless you intend it that way. but if you feel bad just try to talk to her you had a part in it, she needs support, its the least you can do now for her

[Asker]

Relieved because I didn't want to stay with her actually

[misfittoy]

so you aren't jumping up for joy thats a relief to hear. just try to be there for her emotionally, if you can you said you feel bad, she's really going through it just try to be a shoulder to lean on you know? put yourself fin her place. like if you were her how would you be feeling you know?

[Asker]

I would feel horrible and broken

[misfittoy]

you have a conscious, and thats a good thing. i wish others had simply asked you about your wording. but just be there for her if she needs to cry let her, scream yell, go to counseling just be there

[misfittoy]

and also look at it this way if you had a daughter going through this? she is someone's daughter, you cared enough for at one time? just be there, if she chooses to push you away thats her choice all you can do is man up how she takes that is up to her, i wish you guys luck

[AssholeNumberOne]

I can see why you were happy, and also why you feel horrible.

[jjj101010]

It’s not great, I mean she’s probably really upset, if u don’t want a baby, stop blowing your beans up her

[Asker]

I wanted to break up with her actually

[jjj101010]

Brutal, still give it a minute, she’s probably pretty messed up at the moment. Next time bag it up or nut elsewhere

[Asker]

I'll be there as a friend

[musicbrain5]

Yeah that’s horrible. Don’t be a dick.

[Asker]

I wanted to break up that's why I did not want the kid

[musicbrain5]

Okay, so then if you didn’t want any kids, why are you not using birth control or condoms? Her body is now flooded with pregnancy hormones and trying to get back to normal levels.

[musicbrain5]

Regarding update: you either stay with her as her boyfriend, or you break up and not see her again. Don’t break up and then come crawling back as her friend. That sends so many mixed messages and emotions, and at such a vulnerable state to boot. You can’t have it both ways.

[Asker]

She didn't want for me to use one, and we had sex because she would cry when I say no

[Asker]

It was her idea to get together
For me it was a mistake she's better as a friend

[AssholeNumberOne]

She convinced you to have sex or she would cry? Thats terrible. Sounds like you were guilt tripped into doing something you didn't want. In that case, its entirely her fault. And she wouldn't let you use condoms either? I think she wanted to get pregnant sp that you wouldn't leave her. Dude, i think you've got a toxic girlfriend on your hands. If what you said is true, you should leave her. She doesn't deserve you.

[LazerBean]

That is actually disgusting.

[Asker]

Well I didn't want the kid so
But feel bad seeing how she feels now

[Anonymous]

Not bad no…normal

[SmokinAces2000]

I wouldn’t suggest you feel her that

[SmokinAces2000]

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