How would you feel if the person you were seeing was actually married and you didn't know?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Back then I was young and stupid, and had a short relationship with a woman who was an associate of my father. She was attractive and (claimed to be) separated from her husband and on the road of divorce.

What she actually meant by "separated" is that he was abroad for a year or so. In the end she wasn't even that interested in me, she just used me to get some advantages and at the end of it I kept quiet for the shame and worry about my father's reaction about it - only to discover after he passed that he knew, and the woman's husband knew too.

[Finchie40]

I experienced this a handful of times with married women that claimed they were single when really they aren’t’t I dated one for 6 months not know long she was married , her husband was apparently away on business trips , giving her plenty of time to see me , she treated me like Gold and was the sweetest girl I have met in a long time , she pretty
Much catered to me and rocked my world , the sex was absolutely amazing and there were no hesitations , things were going amazing until her husband knocked on my door , So sadly this sort of thing happens and why so many guys’ today are scared to get into a commitment with girls’ So I was honest with her husband and told him the truth about everything and I told him if I was you, I’d kick her ass to the curb where she belonged. He then walked away and that was the last I saw of him , I did call her and had words with her , she was crying to me and saying she loves me and told me her husband treats her like shit and gave me this whole story as to why. I could hear it on her voice that she really wanted to be with me , but I told her not until , you divorce from him do I want to see you again. I didn’t see her again , her husband apparently took her back , I just shook my head and thought WOW

[OlderAndWiser]

I am living with a married woman, and she even got married while she and I were living together. Fortunately, the guy she is married to is me. :)

Dating someone who is married to someone else is one of the most inflexible boundaries/rules that I have. I have never pursued a married woman.

In 1981, I was propositioned by a married co-worker. We all worked the evening shift on an inpatient psychiatric unit and several of us went out for drinks after work. The others left and it was just me and her. I was very much attracted to her but had no intention of having any improper relationship with her. When I walked her to her car, she kissed me and asked me to take her back to my apartment. I told her that I was very flattered but that she needed to go home and work on her marriage. I recently learned that they remained married until her husband died last year.

[Kelley1]

That is highly unlikely to happen as my dating range is 19 to 23. Moreover, I am not going to have intercourse unless engaged with the approval of both families. I think it unlikely a married man would date a girl more than a half dozen dates that he cannot have sex with. However, if, in spite of all that, it was to happen, I would feel that I wasted my time.

[jazzy34]

Separate myself from the situation as soon as I found out. 👋🏽✌🏾

[AviatorTom]

That's never happened to me. After my divorce, I did date a woman who was in the final stages of divorce, and I was well-aware of her situation. We only dated for a few months before she moved away.

In hindsight, had this happened... Back when I was single, I would feel very disappointed. When I found out she was still married, we'd have one last sex session, with me in control, and then I would dump her... hard.

[NathanDavis]

this is why I usually take my time before "seeing" someone

first, I make sure that I really get to know them, and about them... way better

[exitseven]

No, I dated somebody who was recently divorced and I was over st her place one night and the ex husband came by. He started banging on the door. i am sure he saw my car out front. She told me to just ignore him and he will go away. But now that I think about it, what if she was still married?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Unfortunately, I experienced this. I was talking to a man for 3 months. He told me he was single. Later, he regretted it and told me the truth. I felt very bad and broke up with him immediately.

[Nikki1989]

It happened to me a long time ago. I learned my lesson the hard way on that. Never believe a word men say until you have some solid proof they are just not spinning you some BS.

[Agape93]

Ohhhhh I'd be fucking livid. I'd find their partner and tell them what's going on. I don't abide betrayals or cheaters

[AliceGregory]

I'd end it right there and tell that person they're a piece of shit.

[Sharkstealth]

I had that happen in my 20s. A girl i was friends with was in the airforce but pretending to be another person entirely.

[Malwi93]

lol. what was she looking for, an escape from married life

[Sharkstealth]

@Malwi93 females just love attention.

[Jamie05rhs]

That would never happen. Because I thoroughly investigate all of my dates.

[RichieJoo]

Oh my... I'd be furious. He needed to let you know on your first date. No buts...

[Kelly6]

@Sun_Kim-Ai I wouldn't care

[LiamJHayden]

Dump her immediately.

[Malwi93]

hmm id feel very bad