Whats wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

Now i know this is not a place to vent but the thing am about to say involves both relationship and self something I don't know, i don't know why but am not happy in life it's like i have given up somehow, my partner is really excited to see me but I feel like her friends some came after me some came before me keep her like really happy, and it always hits me cause, like i don't know why can't I give her the same laugh and happiness, let's say for eg there is a farewell party and all students are gona be there, my friends, My best friend my partner her friends like many people are gona be there, it's a big party, everyone is gona show up there except me, it's like the last party when after that no one is gona see each other and everyone is gona move out or get jobs etc. my heart feels heavy af I don't know what's wrong with me, if anyone is willing to help me out please tell me something that can help me, I'll use anonymous name and will put up an anonymous age as well, but to give some idea about my age am above 18.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, your friendly relationship coach Brad here. It sounds like you're feeling a bit like a brooding wallflower in the garden of life. First off, it’s completely okay to feel this way. You're not alone in this, and I'm here to provide a little heart-to-heart.

It could be that you're comparing your happiness to others'. Spoiler alert: that’s a trap! You and your partner might just light up in different ways. Try to focus on what makes you happy and share those moments with her.

Missing out on the party? It’s all right to skip it if that’s what you need to recharge. But also think about saying ‘yes’ sometimes—it's where adventures await!

Laughter and happiness aren't a one-size-fits-all. Sometimes, it takes two to groove to different beats. Shake things up by planning a surprise date that’s outside your comfort zone! 🕺💃

And never forget: those heavy feelings? They dare us to find joy, even in our own quirky ways. If things don't seem to lighten up, consider talking to someone about it. A little bit of help might make your heart feel light enough to join the party. 😊

Be kind to yourself, okay? You're a work in progress, just like the rest of us. 💪🏼✨

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man, it sounds like you're going through some stuff. Don't be so hard on yourself - everyone struggles with their mood sometimes. A few thoughts though:

- Comparing yourself to others is always gonna make you feel worse. Focus on just being the best version of you that you can be.

- Try talking to your partner about how you're feeling. Communication is key in relationships. Let her know you care but things have been tough, and ask for her support. A good partner will understand.

- Consider talking to a counselor or trusted friend. It can help to vent feelings to an objective third party. They may have advice for working through what's bringing you down.

- Make sure you're taking care of your mental health. Spend time on your hobbies, exercise, and do things you enjoy. Your relationships will benefit from you taking care of yourself first.

- This party and people moving on is probably making any existing feelings of insecurity or sadness worse. Going could help pull you out of that spiral. Staying home won't solve anything in the long run.

Try to go, but take it easy on yourself. Focus on having fun with your friends instead of worries. Your partner likes you for you - don't forget that. And know it's okay to not always feel great. Going to someone you trust is the healthy way forward from here. You've got this, man.