Whats wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

literally i'm very extroverted, i'm funny and fun to be around. i would say i can easily be an 8, men always flirt with me and say i'm pretty (so decent looks iguess). Yet somehow i only meet guys who want something casual and i'm not the sleeping around and casual kinda girl
i seem to never meet someone decent. And im someone who's knows what she wants so i wouldn't go further with someone showing red

[KathrynTaylor]

Nothing. I’m much the same, but a seven. The best I’ve had recently as options are two cowards, two guys who won’t take no for an answer and four perfectly nice guys I just can’t seem to fall in love with. No matter how hard I try. My friend and I have a running joke about most of the people we’ve known over the years ‘Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right, here I am, stuck in the middle with you;’ from the song resonates with us. Alex is the only guy in our group who didn’t get a mention there. What’s a girl to do? Casual sex makes you look and feel cheap and used. Don’t do that. Boring, selfish, opportunistic or cowardly men aren’t the answer either. If you don’t meet someone in your friend group or meetup activities or online dating who is any good or right for you, forget dating. Until you meet a guy you really like. If you don’t, just go on like I do. Lots of friends, travelling, freedom. There’s something to be said for the single life, too. If you feel horny, we all know there are ways to control it. Definitely defend your reputation.

[Zandoval]

Well, you're past 30 now if that's your age, so it's best to stick to travelling and enjoy the rest of your life :)

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval totally agree.

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval it’s not that I can’t get men, rather that I can’t find one that interests me.

[Zandoval]

Yup. I feel like it's best people who know nice people, perfectly eligible to date and don't feel anything for them, to just keep themselves out of the gene pool y'know? Live your lives and just yeah. Have fun :)

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval I agree. I’ve had many bad experiences and feel a bit scared to let a guy into my life. Also, I don’t fall in love easily.

[Zandoval]

Yeah. You need therapy too then. It's more of a "you" issue. I'm sorry it happened to you. Bad people exist.

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval sorry what happened to me? How do you know? I haven’t told you anything of my experiences at life.

[Zandoval]

You literally said you've had bad experiences with guys and that's why you're like this.

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval oh I see. Yes. I also have trouble finding men I feel attached to. But I’m sure I can be happy single.

[Zandoval]

Have you had a hoe phase in life and is your body count in double digits? It might be why. Js.

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval maybe, maybe not.

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval but that’s not why. There’s so much more in life than sex.

[Zandoval]

It is not a maybe question. It is literally a yes or no question. So is it yes or no?

[Zandoval]

See? I've identified a problem for you. No need for thanks :)

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval I was away. I’m not broadcasting all my personal life on here. Under my name. Maybe maybe not doesn’t mean either yes or no.

[Zandoval]

Feel free to message me in private then. But I can guess the issues now.

[KathrynTaylor]

@Zandoval ok

[Makeushiver]

I don't think casual sex is tawdry.. I hate the word slutty used to describe a woman with a health sexual appetite. The most exciting experiences in my life have frequently been getting an attractive woman aroused and the helping her cum as many times as she can. I sometimes think that a depressing fact about the brevity of life makes sense it impossible to have an opportunity to experience that Ill be able to give every attractive woman I notice to the peak of physical pleasure. The only sex I find boring is when I'm people participating out of any people obligation beyond passion. Sorry if too raw/candid.

[Billlewis]

Yes, Ms. KathrynTaylor, I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna go ahead and say that it's probably just your age group. The older you get the more mature guys will be and the more often they will look to settle down.

[Anonymous]

Good luck finding many guys who are ready for a serious relationship with an attractive 18-24 year old girl. Especially when he just met her.
I'm not saying they don't exist, but they're few and far between.

Might I suggest you lower your expectations a little and give some of those guys a shot.
A meaningless fling can quickly spark into a long lasting relationship. It happens all the time and it happened to me.

I'm not saying just to go around fucking every guy you meet, but if you meet a guy who you're really into, it's not a bad thing to start off with him just playing around.
You never know what it could turn into

[Pyrofox]

The best tip I give a lot of women who are single but can't find a man atm. Is check your friendzone and see which ones are single. Who knows maybe you slept on the guy who's just always been there. You just assumed he was taken or not interested.

[Anonymous]

There are few really fucking great guys, and so are there few really fucking great women.

In addition, just because you're both perfect 10/10 awesome people, it doesn't mean you two are automatically compatible in every aspect.

There is nothing wrong with you, it may truly not have been the time for you to possibly meet one yet.

[Massageman]

Guys your age aren't ready to settle down, in my opinion. It's not a personal thing, just hormonal.

[Zandoval]

Maybe you give off the casual girl vibes so that kind of guys are into you more.

[Asker]

how do people give off that energy? i'm asking so i can avoid it cause i think i do my best not to look that way

[Zandoval]

Well, I'd need to know you more to see what symptoms you show in particular.

[Keishio]

Maybe you're just not as good as you think you are. Men calling you pretty and flirting with you but then only wanting something casual just says 'I'll say whatever I need to so I can get laid'

[Asker]

i didn't get your point. Could you please explain?

[Keishio]

'literally i'm very extroverted, i'm funny and fun to be around. i would say i can easily be an 8, men always flirt with me and say i'm pretty (so decent looks iguess).' This bit might not actually be as true as you think it is which would explain why people might not be seeing you as dating material