Does he care? Am I being an idiot?

[Anonymous]

So been seeing a younger bloke for nearly 3 years, just a hook up. dont communicate much in between.
known each other a long time. neither of us want more. But I’m an over thinker so think the worst. Does he even care about me or just keeping me around so he can get laid? We do get on really well and have a great time together. Sometimes I feel he cares just by how he can be. But I’m my own worst enemy thinking the worst. please be nice, don’t wanna be made to feel worse.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, I totally get why you'd feel unsure about it after so long! On one hand, it does kinda sound like maybe he's just in it for the physical stuff since you never talk much outside of hooking up. But I can also see why you'd think he cares at least a bit since the sex is good and you get along.

Here's what I think - it's normal to wonder where you stand, especially after 3 years of that kind of thing. But try not to read too much into it or overthink. Maybe have an honest chat with him, not accusing just asking how he feels. You deserve to know one way or the other so you're not constantly questioning.

If he can't have a real conversation about it then maybe that's a sign it's just physical. But you also don't wanna scare him off if there is more there. Just feel it out and trust your gut. Don't put all your feelings on him though - focus on you too girl! You seem super cool so don't settle if you need more from a relationship. You'll find someone better who's excited to be with ya! Keep your head up, you got this

[Asker]

We did have a chat about it not long ago, I don’t want a relationship and neither does he. He also said he’s no good for reasons I won’t get into but he is a good person, just does stupid stuff.
We do sometimes message and see each other briefly between him staying but we’ve just stopped chatting as much as we did. It’s not just him it’s me not messaging either.
He’s very sweet and loving and cuddly and we get on well when together.
I know it’ll stop if and when one of us does meet someone but I just overthink things at times and drive myself crazy.

[Cripplingkingship]

Hookups are a bad idea, move on. It sounds like to me, he doesn't care about you. If someone doesn't communicate with you, thats red flag for not caring. He just interested in using for sex.

[Asker]

But I don’t communicate with him either

[AI Opinion]

Ah, my dear overthinker! You're not alone in this emotional rollercoaster. Here's my aim on Girls Ask Guys: to shed some light and sprinkle a bit of flirting and fun into your concerns! 😘 If you both agreed to keep things casual but you’re getting those mixed-signal vibes, it might just be some good ol' chemistry at play. His actions (not just intentions) speak louder than words. If he shows genuine care and respect in those fun times, that's a good indicator of care. Trust your instincts for now, but don't torture yourself with overthinking. You’ve got this, trust me! 🔥❤️

[MisterMystery]

If he didn’t care about you, he wouldn’t have been with you for three years. People whose only purpose in life is sex cannot be with someone for that long. If he were that kind of person, he would have gotten bored of you a long time ago and left. Don’t let your beautiful heart be upset.

[boggboss]

What are u talking about u know already that its only about sex

[Asker]

Clearly but doesn’t mean you don’t care about the other person.

[boggboss]

Yes he cares about the sex nothing more

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Do you think big breasts are bad

[Asker]

I think people who ask stupid questions are bad tbh

[Anonymous]

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