Having a loved one that’s an addict or alcoholic?

[Changebox00]

I’m in currently been in and out of rehab and currently in a halfway house. I hear stories all the time people in our shoes and problems with their significant other or immediate family. I’m not in a relationship now. But my folks and I bickered. I hate it. We are cool now, but I don’t get how one’s addiction causes this stir. Do you think we love being addicted to alcohol and other drugs? It sucks. Addiction hits you hard, just stopping completely isn’t easy. Yet we are labeled as horrible people. We’re human to right? Why are we so terrible? Is it fair for everyone to be treated like a human being?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, darling, addiction can be a turbulent rollercoaster, can't it? You're totally right—love and support are fundamental because, yes, you're human. Tackling addiction is no cakewalk. It's misunderstood and unfairly stigmatized. You don’t love the addiction itself; it’s often about filling a void or coping. Relationships struggle due to hurt and misunderstanding especially when red flags pop up, but recovery is a journey you’re bravely on! Remember, being treated with compassion is a human right. Keep striving, sweetheart! 🌟

[kylee2437]

I’m going to sound harsh, but the fact that you don’t understand that your addiction has caused harm to your family in order for them to feel like this about you, says you are a selfish person. It goes beyond the fact that you are an addict at this point. You lack accountability, you play victim, and you are the common denominator as to why your family feels this way. Harsh reality

[Changebox00]

Wrong. They taught us that the “Norm” folks like you will never understand it. Hence to why I avoid that type

[Changebox00]

But you’re one these that has a college degree so you automatically think you know more. While people with a disease are low lives. I think you need education young lady

[Lynx122]

Totally agree

[kylee2437]

@Changebox00 honey bun I’ve been in a relationship with an alcoholic before and have had a drug addicted family member. I’ve been a victim of how selfish you addicts can get. I think you need to stop being so selfish, and thinking your current life is something to be proud about.

[Changebox00]

Don’t call me hunny bun. And secondly if I was selfish then why am I in treatment? You don’t know me. I’ve had bad experiences with women I dated, played for a sucker etc. but I don’t judge all based on a few bad apples. You need to thank about that young lady.

[kylee2437]

@Changebox00 I can do whatever I want, and more importantly, no one has to feel bad for you. We all go through bad events in life, and it is your choice on how you choose to handle those bad events. Ask me about my year now if you want to hear bad events. And guess what? I Still didn’t choose alcohol or drugs. Your attitude is atrocious and I can see why your family has turned their backs. No one needs to soak in your negativity

[kylee2437]

Harsh reality and since your family may be afraid to tell you that, I’ll be that person. Do you really think your family doesn’t want you apart of their day to day life? They just don’t want this version around.

[Changebox00]

Like I said you don’t know me or my family. So kick rocks. Don’t sleep with your bosses spouse, don’t eat yellow snow. I think it leans towards you with problems and your decision on dating d-bag guys. Jus saying.

[kylee2437]

@changbox00 if you talk to strangers like this, I can only imagine how you talk to your family. Wanting people to feel bad for you, meanwhile you don’t have that same kind of energy towards other people is as delusional as someone can get. No wonder why people stay away from your negativity. They are far better off

[kylee2437]

@Changebox00

[Lynx122]

Well someone with an addiction will act incredibly selfishly and damage not just their own life but other people around them as well so it's only normal for people to protect themselves. If an addict makes a real effort to stay clean I think people will change their approach but if it's never really certain if this person is gonna relapse then it will be hard for people to trust.

[Changebox00]

I’m being selfish because my family are being whack jobs? Good one. I’m the one with the disease. For these “norms” it’s about control. You”lol never understand what it’s like. You need education.

[Lynx122]

You just proved my point you only see things from your point of view and anybody who gets in the way of what you want is a pain in the ass. Nobody needs education. You're an addict and you need to learn how to overcome your addiction and become a functional person that can interact with others without needing care or needing to be handled or being a danger to others. The fact that you're 43 and still have this primitive selfish mindset tells me your family is completely right and should stay away from you.

[Changebox00]

I’m trying to be on my own. You think I love rehab? I never harmed anyone. You don’t know me. So you say I should stay away from my family? Ok fine I’ll do that. by the way women in mode life tend to say harsh things like u did. Im sure a Dr can Prescribe something for you

[Lynx122]

I do hope you can reconnect with your family but you need to work on yourself first. Don't blame other people for your struggles, try and get right and then connect with people.

[Changebox00]

I’m not blaming others at all. It’s not their fault, not yours nor the rest of the world. The therapists in rehab taught us things on boundaries and everyone is different. Now I don”t know you, you maybe one to have 2 drinks and call it a day. Me? It’s total lift off. We didn’t choose to become addicted. I put myself in rehab. I wasn’t forced