How do you help someone with an alcohol addiction and is in a abuse relationship?

[mattclark242]

how do you help some one with an alcohol addiction and is in a abuse relationship? also they need money all the time

[Chazmatazz269]

If they’re not asking for help, there’s nothing you can do. You can attempt an intervention. Sometimes that helps people see the bottom before they hit.
Once they are ready to get help, refer them to a local chapter of Alcoholics Anonymous. If you are family or close friend, participate in Alanon. This will help you with resources to be more supportive to the addict. AA groups often have internal resources to help members find work and shelter. Don’t give them anything yourself unless and until you can see meaningful changes in their choices and behavior, lest you become an enabler. Addiction is a nightmare, but addicts are typically smart, clever and practiced at deception. They can’t overcome their disease alone and you can’t help unless you have similar experience. Know your limitations and don’t take their bad choices personally, especially when they backslide. It’s going to happen, and it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want sobriety or that they’re weak. We say “progress over perfection” for good reason.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

First of all, refer them to a specialized service - nowadays in every country there's specialized resourced for most kinds of addictions - drugs, alcohol, gambling.

Second thing, build up a support network made of friends, family and people who can be trusted are willing to help.

Third and most important, do not enable the addiction. They ask for money? And for what? Are you sure they'll use them for an actual need, instead of feeding their addictions?

If you can't trust them, don't give them money, but rather buy for them what they claim they need, or pay the bills they ask help with.

[CA4444]

If you’re helping an addict you’re also helping their addiction they can only help themselves and also the last things they want to hear is someone telling them to stop drinking cause they’ve heard it a million times and they know it’s what they need to do, actions just speak louder than words and if you ‘help’ them you also ‘reward’ their behaviors

[DollAlone]

Stop giving them money for one , then you won't be enabling them anymore. Then you can always express your concerns or do an intervention BUT until the person is ready to stop and until they hit rock bottom, all attempts will fail. So sometimes you just have to step away from the situation and practice the "tough love" shit

[CallmeTheKnight]

You can't until they want help.

Now if someone is receiving the abuse, you still can't until they want to get out of it.

It's all about willpower

[In_Trance]

Unless you're a certified addiction counselor there's probably nothing you can do

[jayhams]

They have to see what their situation is by being honest with thereselves and then be strong enough to break the cycle of abuse

[OddBeMe]

They sound psychopathic. alcoholism doesn’t create assholes it spotlights their behavior. So ask, do they deserve your help?

[Cedman]

They will need therapy and a place to stay. Basically that person will have start over again.

[panamared1]

They have to want help first