Did my boyfriend intentionally embarrass me (bodily function fart story)?

[Anonymous]

Mad at my boyfriend for making me fart lol :P He cooks for us on most days and he knows I have a really sensitive tummy and he still proceeded to make food with lots of dairy and I didn't realize that until after I started having an upset stomach. At first I kept slipping away to the bathroom because I didn't want him hearing my farts but he still heard it and I'm mortified! He admitted he did it on purpose because I've never ever ever in the history of our 3 year relationship ever farted in front of him lol! He said he wanted me to do it already so I can be more comfortable around him. I feel like he didn't respect my wishes to keep that stuff private and I'm so embarrassed I could literally cry. I have a habit of laughing hysterically when I'm embarrased and so we were both literally rolling around in a fit of laughter and couldn't catch our breaths :P I don't think I can see him again for at least the next few days because I keep thinking about this incident and it was literally a nightmare. Like I farted more that night than I ever have in our 3 year relationship :P

Why would he do that to me? He knows I can't eat certain things and it feels like he intentionally wanted to humiliate me. He kept teasingly bringing it up and saying it was really cute because it's unexpected with how pretty I am and people wouldn't expect that out of me. And he kept imitating the sounds I was making and saying he would tell guys so they would stop flirting and hitting on me. He also kept calling his friends and acting like he was gonna tell them but I kept covering his mouth with my hand and giving him pleading eyes so he wouldn't! He seriously kept going with it for so long and I kept begging him to stop making fun of me :( I was supposed to meet him for a drink tonight but I backed out and made up an excuse because I really can't face him now. What do you think I should do?

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to sprinkle my expert relationship advice with a little flair! 🎉 Let's start with a deep breath, and consider this: he might have wanted to break the ice, too. It's totally normal to feel embarrassed, but it sounds like he was trying to show you that he's comfortable with all parts of you—even the less glamorous ones.

It seems he saw this as a fun bonding moment, not realizing how uncomfortable it made you. Talking to him about your feelings might clear the air (no pun intended 😜). If you can both laugh about it eventually, this could just be a quirky little side note in your love story! Remember, love is amazing with open communication and a good sense of humor. 💑

[Orion84]

I suppose he could have been a little more sensitive about it, but it sounds like he just wants you to be more comfortable around him.

It's actually a good thing, from a guy's perspective. When you're in a relationship for the long haul, you're going to go through some gross stuff together, and it's the partners that deal with it together that usually have the strongest commitments.

This is his way of saying he wants to be there through the good stuff, as well as the bad stuff, and he just wants you to be as comfortable sharing the gross stuff, because it's going to happen eventually, anyway.

[Asker]

That's a sweet way to put it! Yeah he tells me constantly that nothing could gross him out about my but he thinks I'm too prissy and princessy about these things lol 😂 trying to loosen up but always grew up hearing girls shouldn't do that and watched so many women in my life avoid it at all costs so was trying to do that same lol 😂

[Asker]

It is bound to happen and he does it all the time but up until this moment, I had not! 😛 Hate him for it but also it made us laugh so much and it is funny in hindsight lol 🙈😂

[Orion84]

He probably loves you all the more for it, because women don't usually let the "fart guard" down until they're serious about a guy, and the first time it happens is like a special event.

When a girl is comfortable enough to let a guy see that side of herself, then we, as guys, know she's really serious about us, because girls don't fart around just anybody. 🙂

[Asker]

"fart guard" 😂😂 I know what you mean though and he was literally saying how much he thought it was an overdue event lol 😛 he does it so freely and openly and now if I yell at him to stop, he'll just bring up this moment in time lol 😂 Anyway I'm glad guys don't pretend that girls are perfect angelic fairies who don't have bodily functions 😛

[spartan55]

You should lighten up and learn some humility.

[Asker]

I'm trying! It's just being constantly told that girls have to be ladylike and the fact I always said he would never hear me do that lol 😂 That humbled me in a major way but it also makes me so embarrassed! But we laughed our asses off so it made for a funny bonding moment at least 😂

[spartan55]

EVERYONE farts (repeat as, necessary)
Even pretty uptight women fart.
FYI, we know why you are going to the bathroom so much.

[Asker]

What are you talking about 😛 We only go to the bathroom to freshen our makeup and brush our teeth and hair 😂😂

Just kidding! But I was waiting until we're married for him to experience that lol 😂😛

[spartan55]

It was bound to come out (figuratively) at some point.
I remember I had a girlfriend when I was like 19 that had your mentality. One day we were messing around tickling each other or something, and when I tickled her she ripped this huge fart...😂 😂 😂 😂 It was the best

[Asker]

Oh my God 😂😂 yeah in one other relationship that happened to me through tickling and wanted to murder him for that too 😂 It's usually that it happens on accident with girls and we never mean for it 😅 And the guy ALWAYS without fail reminds her every second and never lets it die down 😂 I don't know why girlfriends put up with it 😛 You're mean for doing that lol 😂

[spartan55]

Well, I think as long as you are in the appropriate setting there is embarrassing about flatulence.