Sad my boyfriend not coming to my birthday?

[vduong88]

i text my boyfriend to come over to my birthday tomorrow but he can’t come he had to spend time with his kid his ex fiancee dumped him, I’m sad and crying 😢 cause he can’t come.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like his actions are a result of a choice he made. Saying he "can't" come to your birthday celebration is inaccurate, and perhaps you are trying to avoid holding him responsible for his choice.

[vduong88]

it’s fine i’m not mad at him he could spend time with his son he had hard time of his life cause he had a mental depression and his ex fiancé being mean to him cause she not making him happy never love him his ex take custody of his son he had to visit his son.

[NamerOfStars]

That's unfortunate. Perhaps you could to celebrate together at some other time?

[vduong88]

of course i told him come over my birthday next year

[NamerOfStars]

Well, sure, but I was thinking a few days or weeks afterward- there's nothing saying you can only celebrate once. My father worked as an emergency physician, and he'd sometimes have to work holidays- the rest of us would usually do something smaller on the day itself, then have our big party when he was off work. You could try something like that.

[vduong88]

true but my mom had to divorce with my dad they not together anymore my mom remarried i had to visit my dad at California my mom take custody of me and my older sister it’s really tough

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

That’s kind of part of the deal. You will always come second to his children

[vduong88]

it’s fine i’m not mad at him i never get mad at him i just had a good heart it’s okay he could spend time with his son his ex fiancee take his son custody he had to visit his son he had sad life cause he had mental depression i feel bad for him cause his ex fiancee never love him and never make him happy it happened to my older brother with his ex fiancee had 1 son together his ex take his son for a custody my older brother had to visit his son cause his ex fiancee doing drugs and cheating.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, my heart goes out to you. Birthdays are special, and it's tough when plans don't work out. Remember, it's sweet he prioritizes his child—shows he's a great dad. Try focusing on your special day with friends who can be there. Celebrate with your love once he’s free and have a double party! 🎉 Keep your chin up, love! 💖

[Dan290290]

I'm sorry, it shows you're a loving person at least. 😔

[vduong88]

yes of course i’m not mad at him

[Dan290290]

sure I understand, i'm sorry it was a let down

[vduong88]

it’s okay he had hard time his life cause he had mental depression he told me anything cause his ex fiancee never love him never make him happy i feel bad for him his ex fiancee take his son custody so he had to visit his son it happened to my older brother his ex fiancee both a had 1 son together he remarried he dumped his ex fiancee cause she was doing drugs and cheating, my older brother had to visit his son it just sad

[Dan290290]

uggh, that's too bad. i'm sorry it is such a bad situation for them. it happens a lot and yeah it's really hard when you have children with a bad partner

[vduong88]

true indeed i love kids im not ready to have kids yet i have a niece and nephew i spoiled them

[Dan290290]

no worries, it's cool that you're so close to them, it shows you're loving and that's what counts :)

[vduong88]

true i never get mad at my boyfriend i just wanted make him happy not breaking his heart i never yelled him and yes i have loving heart

[Dan290290]

you sound kind and that's great, as long as he treats you right

[vduong88]

true he treat me right, it happened to my mom and my dad both are divorced my mom remarried so she take custody of me and my older sister i had to visit my dad at california it’s hard

[Dan290290]

it's good you're close to your boyfriend, even if your parents didn't get along. my parents divorced too and i had to live with my mom in france with my sister, we'd visit my dad in the states so i know what that's like

[vduong88]

true my mom and my dad don’t get along that well both always fight my mom had to kicked him outside the house he was having affair with my mom i heard my dad got divorced again my mom hated my dad so much it’s hard

[Dan290290]

yes i agree i remember my parents always seemed to be fighting, i know they weren't faithful with each other, but i understand being angry if your partner is not faithful

[vduong88]

true i get angry with my older sister i live with her she had a smart mouth talk she married and had 3 kids i had to babysit them cause I’m a cool auntie

[Dan290290]

sorry, that sounds irritating :( but i'm sure you're a great auntie to them and they love you cause you're kind and good with children

[vduong88]

it’s okay and thank you 😊

[Avicenna]

That‘s rough

[Anonymous]

So what is your question?

[scott04sa22]

Sorry to hear that