Could you forgive your partner if they cheated on you?

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Unpopular opinion but I  could  (not guaranteed that I surely would) forgive getting cheated on, depending on the circumstances. Obviously she'll be sleeping on the couch (if not on the carpet or the doghouse) for months, and she'd have to do the bulk of the job to win me back, and at the first misstep she's out on her butt. But I could be willing to try to forgive - of course I wouldn't ever forget, and if it happens again she'll be out on her butt before she can even blink.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

When my husband cheated on me it was over immediately because he broke my trust in him and I couldn't deal with being married to someone who I could no longer trust. I filed for divorce right away.

Now, I did have someone who I was very much in love with that I had been warned that he's a great friend to have, but that he does have a wandering heart. 💜

I knew he was with two women when I meet him. But he and I had so much in common and he admitted that he was falling in love with me.

We were together for six years and during that time, he didn't live near me and I didn't see him much. But he did call me every single day for years and always said "I love you" to me.
Then after about 4-1/2 years he moved in with me and it was wonderful!! We were finally together and rescued from the phone.

Unfortunately, I had become ill during those years when we were unable to see each other.

So, he had to make a decision to finally be with me because he did love me or not move in with me because I was so sick.
He was gone for one entire day and night and didn't even call me. He was deciding what to do - move in with a sick lady that he loved or say it was nice knowing you.
He chose to move in with me and take care of me and love me at the same time.
Unfortunately, after a wonderful year and a half he died suddenly and unexpectedly.
I cannot express how much I miss him and how thankful and grateful I am for finally sharing our lives together. I will always love him and I will always miss him and remember him everyday. 💔

Elliegirl · Accepted Answer

I could forgive, but I’m not sure I could trust him or look at him the same way again. I hope, and seriously doubt, it’s something I’ll have to find out.

KennethNoisewater · Accepted Answer

I have always said no. I broke up with two girls because I had that gut feeling. I asked them about things and didn’t like the answer so I ended those immediately.

Then my last girlfriend happened. She cheated on me. I booted her out the house. A couple months later she shows up saying that he hits her and stuff. I tell her to get out of there. Tell her if she needs a landing spot she can stay at my place temporarily until she finds a spot. Well, she never left. Then I get myself in a relationship with her again eventually which was stupid AF. Guess what happened. She cheated AGAIN! That girl fucked me up after that. She didn’t have to work the entire time we were together. She got whatever she wanted. She really had zero worries. After she cheated twice I couldn’t wrap my head around how anyone could do that to someone who cared so much for them.

My point is, I will never trust a cheater again and it has giving me general trust issues with females.

Med_guy1978 · Accepted Answer

I think if it came to this you would have found out and then it would be normal to sit down and talk about why it happened. I think if it was something that could have been fixed but hadn't I'd be a lot more upset but if it was something we tried to fix but couldn't, then I'd asess the relationship and where we see it going and want it to go. Problem is, from what I see.. relationships seem to be Tyrannies not friendships. Possessiveness and jealousy seem to rule, where's the friendship aspect... Like two friends sharing and talking, doing things for one another to strengthen the relationship? Relationships seem to be based on power and sex...

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Forgiveness is a tough cookie, isn't it? 🍪 I get where you're coming from, and it's all about those circumstances and trust vibes. If she's got a VIP ticket to the doghouse, it's clear she's gotta work that lovebombing magic to earn her way back. Being cautious is wise, and I sense you're balancing your heart and head here. Just remember, forgiving doesn't mean forgetting! Stay true to what feels right for you. 🌟

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The memory of my partner cheating would prevent me from ever being happy with her.

Finchie40 · Answer

I could forgive but I will never forget , I no longer take cheaters back period , I tried once before and it was the dumbest decision I ever made

ShellyB · Answer

I don’t know. I don’t think so.

RingOfFire · Answer

No I don't think I could. My last relationship was with a woman much younger than me. She had some prankster family members who called me one day to tell me that she was cheating on me.

I could not believe it. I immediately contacted her and she denied it, but of course that's what cheating is so I had to determine if I could believe her.

She said it was her immature family members playing a prank on me.

I wanted to believe it but investigated it myself and in fact it was a prank.

If it had been true I probably would have ended the relationship. Trust is at the core of any relationship and with a severe breach of trust like that it is lost forever.

Orion84 · Answer

Nope, I can't, won't, and didn't.

Cheating is unforgivable. There is no redemption, no explanation, and no second chances. Cheat, and you are dead to me forever. We are instantly done.

I can't look at them anymore, and have no respect for them. I want them completely and totally out of my life.

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope, I'm gone.
My ex-wife cheated, hence the ex-part, and I had a girlfriend that also became an ex for the same reason.
To this day when I walked in on my now ex-wife doinking the landlord, now it is kind of funny, he was trying to back into the closet pulling up his pants, and she asked me what was I doing here and I told her I used to live here, and turned and walked away.

RageBabe · Answer

I consider cheating one of the ultimate betrayals.

Purpleronnie · Answer

No , not ever. There is simply no excuse or reason for that level of betrayal and disrespect

bolverk · Answer

NO - I have been cheated on twice, when I found out about the cheating the relationship ended the same day, they were blocked on phone/text/social media, all my passwords where changed, everything they had left at my place was boxed and left outside the front door.

You never give a cheater a second chance, if they've done it once they'll do it again.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Forgive, yes. Maintain relationship, no. Forgiving someone who violated you does not mean you have to leave yourself open for more abuse.

caitycat21 · Answer

Absolutely not. My last partner cheated on me but they manipulated me and gas lit me to the point I didn’t know what was what, I’ll never let anyone do that to me again.

__Nikki__ · Answer

It would probably depend on the situation but I don't see how I could ever trust them again, even if I could forgive. Also, there's something super hot about the picture you chose!

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I can forgive but not trust again, so we won't be together anymore

Lilbit84 · Answer

Forgive but never forget but there wouldn't be no relationship afterwardsre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I mean I did lol
My husband cheated on me 7 or 8 years ago. We broke up for a month or two before I decided to forgive him. He has not cheated on me since…as far as I know lol. He knows that if it happens again it’s over for good

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely! I can forgive but I won’t forget & if I had a partner & she cheated on me I will forgive her & after we part ways I will forget her.

ronandamberspencer · Answer

The nature of our relationship matters a lot when answering this question. Cheating is usually unforgivable, and there is no turning back, however, there are a few exceptions and it can depend on the situation. If we had a previous agreement, then it would be fine. Or, If I got carte blanche to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, forever, then maybe. Usually it's the lies that are most detrimental. A lie is about the worst thing you can do. Lying is the most unforgivable sin.

Account · Answer

I am unable to forgive someone for cheating. I would be extremely disgusted and they would lose my respect. There is no going back from it in my case.

douride2 · Answer

I forgave a cheating partner once. The pig went right out & cheated again. It will never happen again.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Forgive yea, remain with them no, I'll forgive them if they ask for forgiveness but I'm moving on after that as the trust would be broken and irreversible.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I could neither forgive nor forget when it comes to the violation of the only thing I hold sacred: loyalty.

sawno · Answer

If she had a good reason on why I should ever trust her again and I believe the reason. I don't find it very likely.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Depending on the person and how much I love them and the circumstances and the person they cheated on me with.. I probably could..

Jessikaah91 · Answer

I've made the mistake of forgiving partners over the years for that but they never changed. I'd never forgive any partner for doing that now.

MicahRaine · Answer

Yes I could, but there would be a LOT of rules going forward. And I'd leave if she stopped self regulating. No point in staying with someone who says they want to improve but actively chooses not to.

Pohjolan · Answer

Whether I could and whether I would are two separate questions.

If kids aren't involved then its over. A woman will no longer fully respect a man who stays with her when a higher quality man would walk away.

Dinoparx · Answer

No, I couldn't. One thing I take very seriously is loyalty.

genericname85 · Answer

yeah sure. i could forgive. she's only human and humans make mistakes. however i'd still break up, cause i can't be in a relationship with a person who's not trustworthy.

NathanDavis · Answer

yeah, no doubt I can always forgive but the relationship is still, over

Babygirl_S · Answer

If he’s next level handsome and always comes back to me, I can!

Shamalien · Answer

Tried to, couldn’t, will never try to again. She had so many excuses and made me feel sorry for her, but at the end of the day idgaf. Unless it’s rape, you’re gone.

Heyhey0 · Answer

I think it would be too hard to ever trust someone who did me like that. Like, they did it once, what's stopping them from doing it twice? There's no 'winning me back', because the relationship would never be the same.

HighValue · Answer

No. Once trust is broken, things can never be the same.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Yeah of course. That doesn’t mean I’ll stay with her though, people seem to get that confused. Or just not know how forgiveness works

Unit1 · Answer

Nope. I am uncuckable.

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

Hell no, why would I start now? Would be hypocritical of me with the no contact I have with the cheaters already from my life

shades777 · Answer

Well there's self respect and then there isn't. Any man with self respect will leave. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Radiate143 · Answer

Yes, especially because I would be broken up with them.

Nikki1989 · Answer

That would depend on many factors.

Anonymous · Answer

They can be open but I don't need the same If they go behind my back then they're out

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No. It's over immediately. And she will pay. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Never. If a woman cheats if she doesn't respect her man. If you "forgive" her she will only respect you less and cheat more.

Juxtapose · Answer

No, I'm not stupid. If they cared about me they would not have done it in the first place.

art84 · Answer

Definitely not especially if children were involved.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope we'd be done immediately and permanently

Anonymous · Answer

As a high value male, my partners understand that I can cheat. If one of my partners cheats, then obviously that is not okay.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

If your partner cheats you , it is your choice to keep him or kick out

ThebestIndian · Answer

Forgive : Yes Forget : Nope, not a chance

Slim57 · Answer

I'll never forgive my dirty ex no, or anyone who cheats on anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single so I was never in such situation, but if I had a girlfriend, maybe I would forgive her.

Ariesman81 · Answer

Forgive... yes. Tolerate it... no way. She's out!

scott04sa22 · Answer

If my partner cheated on me, she's out the door!!

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Forgiveness is a privilege not a right.

Kori1236 · Answer

Nope, instantly done and never again

Pupweb · Answer

Yes, but I would not stay.

worldscolide · Answer

Nope, never. They would stop being human to me.

PsychicBoobs · Answer

They already left.

jahaims · Answer

No, I have self respect

admles · Answer

Nope, instant break up.

Ladsin2 · Answer

No. Not if I want to keep any dignity.

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