Anyone just tired of trying?

[Anonymous]

Anyone just tired of trying?

Every time i try to make deep meaningful connections with anyone, not just romantically but also just platonically it seems something always happens and they disappear from my life. Especially trying to meet people online is just exhausting because of ghosting. Originally everything hurt and each time it would sting a little but im finding now I am just tired and will not even go through the effort of trying to meet new people. I wish i knew what was wrong with me, I'm not ugly, I have hobbies, and I try to be kind to people but... in the end no matter what I do theyre always gone and I'm left alone not knowing if I would care if I fell asleep and never woke up.

[Nikki1989]

Ghosting is a common issue, often stemming from people's own insecurities or difficulties with communication. It's not a personal attack, but rather a reflection of their own limitations. Keep trying. Life has so much to offer.

[ProbablyClueless]

I used to be tired of trying, but then I figured out something super simple and super life changing. I figured out to only give women what they actually ask for. And if I'm not clear about what they're asking for; I ask them to clarify and then do that.

As soon as I did that; everything got better.

Because if she doesn't ask you to do something, it's because she didn't actually want you to do it. It's not her idea. If she didn't actually want you to put in effort, she's not going to feel any desire to reciprocate your effort. A lot of guys seem to get that wrong.

[msc545]

Except of course the many women who expect men to be telepathic and read their minds and get offended when we can't...

[Asker]

The difference is that they aren't interacting with me and I'm not interacting with them cause they're not interested enough to stick around.

[msc545]

How do you get rid of them so fast or avoid them to begin with?

[ProbablyClueless]

@msc545 I've heard a lot of men complain about that. I guess it's really common. Thankfully, I haven't run into too much of that in my own life

[msc545]

This happens a LOT on Valentine's day. Whatever you get them is not what they wanted, and they go crazy because even though they didn't tell you what they wanted, you were somehow supposed to "just know".

[coxoabean]

I feel that, yes. People these days just want everything easy, hookups, or even just friendships. Nobody tries in any kind if relationship anymore.

[Deadpool99]

Been there several times.