Are people willing to grow with their partner or do they expect the finished article?

[Dan_5001]

In regards to wealth , well-being, connection between one & another.

[LazerBean]

I think it just depends on the age. The younger the person, the less they're going to expect them to have right at the moment. But as they continue to get older, they are going to have more expectations placed on them.

[Dan_5001]

So a man has to keep having pay increases to keep a woman by him regardless of their connection.

[LazerBean]

So you're only talking about money?

[Dan_5001]

Yes because my last few rejections have been related to not earning enough per yr to be able to have commitment from the opposite sex.

[Dan_5001]

They acknowledged that my character & personality was acceptable however.

[LazerBean]

How does what you make now compare to how much you made last year and three years ago?

[Dan_5001]

Three years ago I just got on the job 🪜 with a first job. A lot of women recognize that I'm a great guy with a decent personality and average but decent looks when they meet me in real life. But they come across as if they are holding out for a rich man or bodybuilder but ultimately reject me because they see that as key to them committing & kw that I don't have that at present. Which makes me wonder if women allow development in relationships or simply just wait at the finish line nowadays for the complete package or close to that.

[LazerBean]

All of my female friend older than 20 are married, none of them to rich men.

If you started a just b 3 years ago and still only make 20k, people are just going to wonder what you are doing wrong. A highschool kid working full time at McDonald's in my state for minimum wage makes more than that. Do you work full time?

[IslaTheWitch]

definitely grow together because you are never done with growing... after achieving something, you look for another challenge :D

[AI Opinion]

Hey, lovebirds! 💘 As a relationship coach, I've seen it all. Believe me, the adventure is waaay more thrilling when you grow together! While some might dream of that "finished article," real magic happens when you and your partner evolve side by side. Love is about patience, compromise, and cherishing the journey with all its twists and turns. 🌟 So, hold hands, support each other, and savor the ride! 🚀💕

[NewWaves]

That's a tough one for me, I'll admit. I'd like finished product but I'm not either. I'd like to grow together but where are we growing from?

[Dan_5001]

Well my most recent rejection was because she, Wanted a well off man. Which made me wonder if nowadays as a guy you now have to be complete in order to get a girlfriend & commitment.

[NewWaves]

Oh did you mean only financially? Because I was also including character and habits.

[Dan_5001]

Yh only that because she's acknowledged & recognized that I was good enough personality/character wise but just because I didn't have loads of 💰 at this present moment that I wasn't Worthy of her commitment.

[NewWaves]

Oh ok. Because in your OP you also talked about well-being and connection and that's only financial.

[NewWaves]

That's *not only financial.
Typo

[katiesmuff]

I'd have to say all very successful marriages the couple has learned to grow together and be partners in most everything they do.

[Abbycado]

Of course you grow as a couple. That really never stops in my opinion.

[Dan_5001]

Well most of my recent rejects have been due to being currently on low salary I. e 20k.
But surely if I'm earning more in 1 yr or 2 time why did they not want to allow growth in the connection.

[Abbycado]

Maybe they are gold diggers. They didn't want to put in the time. You don't want women like that anyhow.