Why does a girl stays with someone that won't commit while a man would ditch her?

[SeleneSecret]

''Oh we've been together for 7 years but my boyfriend said he needs more time, when is he going to propose, should I wait till next year''

''Oh my boyfriend told me I'm not ready for marriage, oh what do I do now, how to convince him''? Me thinks: and you're still calling him your boyfriend, good grief. Why is he still your boyfriend after that?

Even with the obvious fertility timeframe against her and more to lose the longer she continues waiting (more reason to break-up and find someone else), she's still hanging on to him, still hoping, still wasting time.

Meanwhile vice-versa... a man's girlfriend has just rejected his marriage proposal and...

Man immediately opens the door, ditches her, make her an ex girlfriend and can even block her. It's an ''ok get out of my life then, bye''. Even with the luxury of having kids at any point and limited timeframe, he isn't going to ask again nor hang on to her. He does exactly what the women in those stories fail to do.

Why that difference? Why is the gender with the biological clock waiting the other breaks up fast?

[PeachyPie93]

It's all generalization.. but I assume because men are good at lying.. she holds onto the dream that one day the guy she is madly in love with will marry her.. only to find out nope.. if he doesn't want to after 2 to 3 years he never will. There is also a difference between one day we will, im just not ready yet, to a woman full rejecting a proposal lol.

[SeleneSecret]

yeah it doesn't take over 3 years to know if you're going to get married or not. If they need more time, chances are they're full of excuses and don't love her enough to make her his wife.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not sure, but I’d love to read the answers

[SeleneSecret]

yeah, it's like the more you got to lose the more time you waste. Ironic isn't it.

[noohair]

You are 17 and together for 7 years? I am not buying this...

[SeleneSecret]

I'm surprised you can't even tell this is a general question about the different reactions of both genders when it comes to someone not wanting marriage. I'm not talking about myself. I'm talking about what each other does.

[SeleneSecret]

Those are examples I'm referring to. I've just finished reading about a woman whose boyfriend told her she's not ready for marriage and she's still keeping him, referring to him as her boyfriend. Meanwhile, if vice-versa, the man is already ditching her immediately.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the mysteries of love and commitment! 🎭 Despite a ticking biological clock, some women hang in there, hoping love will blossom into commitment. Fear of ghosting, lovebombing, and having invested so much time can keep them stuck. Meanwhile, men might bolt to avoid complications or chase freedom. It's about emotional investment, fear of change, and, sometimes, those pesky red flags we choose to ignore. 😉 The key is open communication and knowing when to move on if goals aren’t aligned. Love bravely, but don’t lose yourself in the waiting game! 🌟