Are you familiar with the concept of "emotional cheating"? What are your thoughts on it? Have you ever experienced it/done it?

[KostasKouvalis]

I was talking about it with someone last night after they made a post about it.

I've felt like this for some time. There is something about developing an emotional connection with another person, that just didn't feel right. I thought I was unique, because I've never heard of this before, but apparantly this is a really thing, and not as uncommon as I thought.

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/emotional-cheating

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20221005-emotional-infidelity-the-flirtation-that-undermines-couples

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

My first thoughts are that popular press was terrible already, it was not better with internet and now, AI, ofc, base their data mining on that. Terrible idea because it constantly tries to push this concept that one's spirit is just a collection of strategies and counter-strategies, like some sort of defined coding to update or fix.

I understand the need to be a responsive Windows system when BSOD is striking, but I really don't think any of this has to do with humanity. Or one's spirit. Or one's feelings.

To me it's just brains talking about brains. When what I see is that we have a spirit, originating from this brain. Which makes things, in relation to spirit, far more complex than what a brain is.

On topic now.
The combination of the terms emotional and cheating are already blocking comprehension right from the start, it's an association of two different areas, feelings on one side, morality on the other side. Combining them creates some confusion about what we're talking about. Feelings don't need morality to exist. Feelings are feelings. Morality is something else. I think it's utterly important to identify what is felt outside of what is believed good or evil. From there, it puts things on another track, it allows to meditate in a better, clearer way. That's my belief at least.

[molonski2]

I have never heard of it , and I think frankly the entire thing is quite ludicrous , its simply having a very close friend of the opposite sex , where you have a connection , its non sexual big deal. I still have some relationships like this with many things told to me in confidence , which of course I hold close , and remain only for me.

Many of these details are extremely complex and initiate , its ridiculous to call it cheating.

[DollAlone]

I was emotionally cheated on with porn. My boyfriend was so obsessed with porn to the point where he no longer could"get off" from sex with me , he had to watch porn later to be satisfied. It caused major trust issues in our relationship, i wish he actually had physically cheated with a real female rather than hurt me for fake fantasies that he could never get in real life. I was made to feel inadequate, fat, undesired,, ugly, etc. It ruined the whole relationship

[Abbycado]

Yes, I know what it is. I have not done it nor have it been done to me, to my knowledge.

[KostasKouvalis]

You're American? Where did you hear about it?

[Abbycado]

Not sure what being American has to do with anything. I know what it is because I'm not a nitwit. Most sensible people know it isn't okay to lust after someone else while in a relationship, for example. That is called common sense.

[KostasKouvalis]

Then why do I see so many people who are in relationships, but they are still looking for opposite sex friends

[slayxme]

attractiveness to me is not purely physical, but I also meant you must be really attractive in a variety such as personality, intelligence, interpersonal, and more. :)

[slayxme]

oops wrong conv due to using the website version...

[IslaTheWitch]

cheating is cheating... if we are together, it means we trust each other... a physical or emotional breach of this trust is still a breach of trust...

[slayxme]

Sadly it’s very common…. Def been through it with an ex who emotionally cheated…

[KostasKouvalis]

He did? Damn

[slayxme]

Mhm… it’s always…. The co-worker who they see on a weekly basis forreals. Sometimes. I hear it could be even your own friends or his friends. You just never know…

[KostasKouvalis]

Damn. Have you moved passed it?

[slayxme]

Mmmm I would say so since it has been a long time, but it was hurtful… it’s always the guys who say “you don’t trust me” and then does it behind your back anyways. Wbu?

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, that's the worst. Not really, no, at least not in a relationship

[KostasKouvalis]

There were girls who were emotionally cheating on their boyfriends with me though, sort of.

[slayxme]

Lol you were the other guy? Did you like them that’s why?

[KostasKouvalis]

The girl? Yeah.

[KostasKouvalis]

Well not always

[slayxme]

Do you ever get with them after the break up? You must be really attractive…

[KostasKouvalis]

They never break up. The ones that do aren't interested in me. I don't think it's about attractiveness. Maybe sometimes it is, but not always.
But thanks

[slayxme]

attractiveness to me is not purely physical, but I also meant you must be really attractive in a variety such as personality, intelligence, interpersonal, and more.

[KostasKouvalis]

Well that's a nice thing to say. Thanks for the compliments

[slayxme]

Your welcome 😊

[KostasKouvalis]

I seem to have caught your interest

[slayxme]

Hmm, do you want me to be?

[Anonymous]

I have. Not necessarily with the intent of doing so, but it's very difficult to step out of once you build such a relationship.

[noohair]

I see this emotional cheating concept as a way that women isolate men and control them. It is like saying you can have no friends. My ex wife isolated me by criticizing all my friends and driving them all away.

[LiamJHayden]

To me giving anything that rightly belongs only to a partner to another is "cheating." Others have their own definitions.