How can I stop this that I get jealous when she talks to other men?

[scottie]

I feel uncomfortable when my girlfriend talks to other guys but I am hesitant to tell her. How can I deal with this situation?

[ohsheeT]

Well first of all you need to take two steps back and pull your balls back down

And understand who she's with she's with you isn't she

You need to learn how to love yourself and get your confidence and understand that no matter who you're with they are either with you or they're not and there's nothing you can do about it so you have to believe in her you have to believe in yourself first of all you have to love yourself first of all to understand what she's doing

Because see she knows herself she knows that she can go talk to any guy that she wants to and she knows that she has the strength in the willpower to either put that person in their place if they get rude

Or walk away if they get rude because she knows who she wants and she's with that person right

The reason why you do what you do is because you don't know if you could walk away if it was turning around

So that's the first thing is either commit or walk away because it looks like she's already committed to you

If you don't learn how to have confidence within yourself and actually commit to her you're going to ruin everything jealousy will destroy your relationship faster than fast

A relationship is 100 100%, it's not 50/50 cuz there's moments that you're always going to give more it doesn't even matter

You have to have the confidence in yourself if she was to do something how strong are you can you walk away with a broken heart

Are you man enough to give her everything you have within and say well I gave it everything I have.. because if you're not you need to walk away now

You cannot control anybody you cannot make anybody love you and why would you want to do that if they don't love you on their own they're never going to love you

She's confident in her heart on who she is she knows she could walk up to any guy talk to him and walk away no matter what and she knows she's going home with you because she believes in you and she believes in herself you need to do the same thing

If you think every time she turns around and she's talking to another guy that she wants to go home with him or he's going to try to pick up on her guess what she's going home with you if a guy tries to pick up on her she's going to put him in his place you have to understand her you have to respect her because if you don't you will lose her and that will happen

And the reason why you think that is because you don't know what you would do in that situation if a girl started talking to you and started picking up on you you don't know what you would do because you're not committed to yourself you're not committed to her commit 100%, or get out of the relationship don't break her heart

So this is going to be a growing moment for you either grow up or get out don't break her heart find your balls find your heart give them to her and have the confidence within yourself to believe in yourself that you would not do what you think that she's doing and believe in her because she believes in you

See she already believes that if a girl was talking to you that you would know what to do and you would walk away and say hey sorry I'm in a relationship that's the reason why you cannot do what she's doing because she found her balls she had her balls in her hand before you even got in this relationship she knows what she wanted if you don't want the same thing like I said get out don't break her heart you need to believe and trust in yourself
Before you're going to believe and trusted her you know what I mean if you can't even believe in yourself how are you going to believe in anybody else

And if you can't love yourself and believe and trust in yourself you're never going to believe and trust into her and it's never going to work so commit or get out it's that simple

[michalpl00]

From my experience talking about it with her will make you seem very insecure and jealous so don’t do it. You mention that you are uncomfortable with her talking to close guys but what I would do is I would start talking to a lot of girls and see how she feels because if she starts getting very jealous, then you have a double standard. Then you can just both talk about it and both stop problem solved.

[Finchie40]

Start talking to other girls ‘ and see how she feels never tell a girl you are jealous , because she automatically assumes you are insecure , when clearly you aren’t , you are just being disrespected, so disrespect her by talking to other girls ‘

[JesseP1nk]

I'm not saying you're wrong. But does not that bring more issues? I mean she will
definitely get jealous and start an argument and if you say she was talking to other men then she thinks you did it for revenge and at the end of the day you will be the bad guy. No?

[Radiate143]

@JesseP1nk it does. This is warped advice.

[Finchie40]

It’s not really revenge , you are just treating her the way she is treating you , if she says something to you about it? Just play dumb and say you didn’t think it was a bad thing considering you talk to other guys’ so I talk to other girls’ , so if you want me to stop doing it , you need to do the same for me

[fairytale]

It’s perfectly normal to feel jealous sometimes, but it’s important to remember that trust is key in any relationship. If you’re feeling insecure, try focusing on building your own self-confidence and your faith in your partner. Talk openly about how you feel without blaming them. Sometimes, just having an honest conversation can help ease your concerns. Also, instead of letting jealousy take over, try to focus on the things you love about them and your relationship. The important thing is to balance your feelings and understand that the reason they’re with you is because they value you.

[scottie]

Thanks, I really appreciate your advice. You are right, trust and communication is everything.

[flower]

Jealousy for something like this seems a little childish. Trust is everything in a relationship, and if you constantly feel insecure when she talks to other guys, it could be a sign that you need to work on your own self-confidence. It’s important to remember that her talking to other guys doesn’t affect her relationship with you. If she’s with you, then she’s chosen you. Try to focus on the bigger picture: your relationship, your bond, and building trust. If you feel like you can’t control those feelings of jealousy, have an honest conversation with her. But in reality, trust is the foundation of every solid relationship, and jealousy only undermines that foundation.

[scottie]

I know what you mean, confidence should come first and I don't want to let insecurity ruin everything. I will work on my self-confidence and communicate better with him.

[dream]

Okay, I get it, it’s hard not to feel like a jealous ninja when she’s talking to other guys. But here’s the thing: It’s totally normal to feel a little weird about it, but maybe relax a little. She’s with you for a reason! Just remember, being jealous is like holding a grudge, but with extra drama. Try distracting yourself with something fun, like a hobby or counting the number of times she makes you smile. And if you’re still feeling like a jealous mess, maybe just ask her about it. She might put you at ease.

[scottie]

Haha, I loved the "jealous ninja" part! You're right, I need to calm down and trust that he's with me for a reason. I'll focus on the good things instead of overthinking it. Thanks!

[Texaskid1]

Under what context?

Do you mean she is having personal conversations with guys that she is not related to on the phone or in person? Or do you mean when she has a meeting at work and she has to talk to her male boss/co-workers about work stuff? Or do you get jealous if she makes small talk with the male check out clerk at your local grocery store?

The devil is in the details.

[lorenzomichael]

Just get over it. I mean she’s yours right? Then what’s there to get jealous about unless she fucked around on you in the passed. And I if that happened I wouldn’t trust her in fact, I wouldn’t even be with her. But if that’s not the case, like I said, just get over it.

[Miristheiss]

What are these scenarios where she talks with other men? Is she flirting with strangers in public? Does she hang alone with friends? What is occurring?

[Anonymous]

Do NOT tell her. This is YOUR problem. You need to get the fuck over it. Because if you tell her or if you show it without telling her, you're going to KILL the attraction she has to you. Fucking MAN up, dude!

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't. If she doesn't realize what she is doing is inappropriate, move on.

[massb]

Why does she talk to other men and in what context? Tell her how you feel

[Anonymous]

You collar her and place her in a chastity cage as well

[jahaims]

If you don't trust her don't date her.

[Anonymous]

It all depends how she's talking to them.

[chocolatetwopointo]

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