Why Do Married Men Cheat?

[Anonymous]

Scenario:
Man and wife have been married for about 3 years, been together for about 7 years.
Man meets a single woman that lives about 6 hours away, they met at a work function.
Single woman and married man exchange numbers, start texting everyday, their texts are explicit.

Single woman knows that the married man will not leave his wife for her and she doesn’t expect him to.
She knows that she wants someone who will be faithful to her and that’s not him- she’s having fun with him.
They have not been physically intimate with each other but they have professed their desires to each other.

Why is he interested in this single woman when his wife is gorgeous, successful, kind, devoted, and they have an active sex life together, etc?
He has everything he could ask for at home, so why step out on her?

[Anonymous]

For exactly the same reasons women cheat. And at your age, women cheat more than men, after which men tend to cheat slightly more. But even between age 30 and 50 the difference between men and women is only about 3%.

People tend to cheat more when they have the most power in the sexual marketplace. For women, that's between ages 18 and 30. After that age, it's men who have the power.

Women cheat more than men before age 30.

But it's not just about power. It's about feeling satisfied, fulfilled and appreciated in their relationship. There is this myth that men cheat for sexual reasons and women cheat for emotional reasons, which is complete nonsense. Both cheat for emotional reasons, but what fulfills women emotionally is different than what fulfills men emotionally.

No one who feels satisfied, fulfilled, respected and appreciated in their relationship cheats. If someone feels grateful for their partner, they will stay loyal.

[Anonymous]

See the issue is a lot of people like you described think that everything is perfect on their end. The way you described her, she’s this, she that’s, etc, etc. When in reality she’s garbage. She doesn’t do the things she used to. Don’t cook or whatever the case may be. Women don’t stay the same as when you first met them just the same as men don’t stay the same. Maybe she complains too much. There’s a lot of reasons. I’m not justifying cheating, just saying there’s a lot of reasons why a person would cheat.

[IslaTheWitch]

expressing desires is one thing, in my opinion it's more in the fantasies area... so I don't think it's cheating yet... it can be crossing boundaries though, if such were defined in the relationship

another aspect is how he feels in his relationship; his wife can be the best, but if they don't communicate well, there can be grey areas of not fulfilled needs...

but of course the relationship depends on both partners... if one or both don't want to or don't know how to to talk... it's more or less doomed to fail...

[Nikki1989]

Most men are cheaters, or have thought about cheating, and the worst offenders are married men. Every time tries chatting me up they are almost, always married.

Of course, they will always try to shift the blame for their actions.

[saraupstairs]

Who are they cheating with?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of the wandering heart. My aim here is to help unravel this tangled web. Sometimes, it's about the thrill of something new and forbidden, like sneaking a cookie from the jar 🍪. Emotional novelty can feel exciting, even if everything seems perfect at home. It's not always about lacking something in a spouse; often, it's about seeking an ego boost or filling a void of excitement. Flirting with danger can mirror his own deep-seated insecurities or desires for variety. Lovebombing meets curiosity, right? But remember, stepping out is a red flag 🚩 and often causes heartache. Embrace communication to unravel these reasons with care and empathy. ❤️

[Finchie40]

Because he is a selfish POS that only cares about himself , he wants his cake and wants to eat it to pretty much , If his wife finds out what he is doing behind her back , she more than likely will dump his ass if she is wise. He doesn’t truly love his wife , he just likes the convenience of her

[MrOracle]

Nearly all men have a DESIRE to sleep around - to spread their seed. In order to be monogamous, this desire has to be controlled/suppressed. Most men can do this, and it's much easier to do when the relationship between the couple is good. Men need certain things in a relationship: they need to feel RESPECTED, they need to feel DESIRED (including but not limited to being desired sexually), and they need to feel APPRECIATED. If any of those are missing, it's going to be more difficult to control his desire to sleep around.

Some men don't even TRY to control this desire - they feel entitled to sleep around simply because they want to. Most men do their best to control this desire, but some will slip if they aren't getting those things in their relationship that they need, because he will feel starved for those things, and if some other woman will give those things to him, it's very difficult to maintain your morals and walk away. Most men can do it, but some can't, and some won't even try.

[Quigly]

Ahhhh, The carefully asked Generalized question to not expose the truth.

The real question is:

Why do guys with money cheat?

Since women tend to go for guys with money. Let's put the blame where it really applies. When women get with a guy that has money they are rejecting the idea that Marriage has anything to do with love. Greed is what motivated them to get Married When a guy with money gets into a relationship with a woman that Rejects the idea that marriage has anything to do with love. They seek out love someplace else.

And it's not difficult for them since. A lot of women would rather be with a Married guy with money, Rather than a single guy just making by on basic necessity.

Again, Because women Reject the idea the Marriage has anything to do with Love. It's all about Greed..

And the cycle continues around over and over again.

[overlord337645]

men cheat because they lose intrest in the women they are with and while it is bad to cheat i feel like they have a point in the fact that they get tired of something now this does not mean i condone cheating in any way however i think they should find ways to work around this by makeing life fun with there spouse mabie even haveing kids or going out on dates regularaly

[phraseology]

Well obviously things aren't as perfect and rosy at home as you think. Half of marriages end in divorce. Only 5% of married people claim to be truly happy. Nearly 40% of women have been diagnosed with depression and they dump that on their partners. A third of women have some sort of mental illness. So while a lot of people pretend everything is great at home, clearly it's not.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Maybe boredom.

Maybe his gorgeous successful wife hasn't had sex with him in a long time.

Maybe he just enjoys the thrill of the chase.

Maybe he wants proof that he's still "got it."

Maybe he just takes whatever he can get, from whoever will give it to him.

It could be lots of things. Everyone is different.

[ProbablyClueless]

Cheaters are often trying to fill a void within themselves. It generally has nothing to do with the relationship they're in.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Answer to this question is to be found in therapist's office. Or in priests' ears, possibly. Both are sworn to secrecy though.

[Crazzyyworld]

My investigation about men conclude, all men are thief. White men playboys Asian/latino cheaters, black rapists. I think they have more fun having an affair than having a sex as a single. Someone’s suffer is others pleasure

[WhitneySnow]

He wants both. And she’s setting herself up for heartbreak.

[slatyb]

Some certainly do,. So do married woman, and at about the same rate.

[genericname85]

that's like asking why people steal or murder. there's bad people who do bad things. it is what it is.

[paledreams]

They're men, the filthy males 👿 same as butch women and there is no spell error there 😕😉

[CarolinaGirl5]

1. Why do you care?
2. Mind your business.
3. If you're not going to leave him stfu and let him cheat in peace. Stop asking is lame qs

[Anonymous]

Men and women are wired different sexually. Men were designed to impregnate as many women as possible. They get bored of sex with the same woman no matter how attractive she is.

[Anonymous]

Same reason married women cheat, to find your answer, one need only look in the mirror at your own gender

[Nikki1989]

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

[Opinion Owner]

A loyal husband who has been married for over a decade, which is longer than most women on here can say they have been married or in a relationship for that matter.

[nawtee_me]

For the same reason married women cheat. Because they are not getting it at home….

[Anonymous]

A better question would be, "why do women marry cheaters"?

[FunkyMonkee]

Probably the same reason married women cheat!

[LiamJHayden]

Selfishness and lack of integrity.

[jahaims]

Anyone who cheats, cheats to cope with self hate

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why married women cheat

[saraupstairs]

Agree. When did people become this stupid?

[In_Trance]

For the same reason women do

[Anonymous]

Every hole is a goal.

[Anonymous]

Variety.

[Anonymous]

Everybody cheats