Why do I love being abused in certain ways? How do I stop liking it?

[Thsisnc]

Maybe because I am a lifelong bullying victim and might be autistic. Somehow that might be related to all this.

but someone said to me recently that I don’t have to settle for being abused in a relationship. Genuinely nice people and guys are realllyyyyy rare to come by.

maybe I’m interpreting abuse as a form of love because I know a lot of guys can’t love me in a pure and honest way but I need love of some sort.

I like when a man is bossy toward me, controlling and dominating.

[LeatherDame]

D/s (Dominant and submissive) relationships are a thing. Maybe look into your local groups in your city and find a mentor to help you learn. (Note, if a mentor tries to sleep with you they are a predator not a mentor).


Wanting to give up control in a negotiated consensual way is totally ok (and way more normal than most people realize).

[Ariesman81]

BDSM is probably the most authentic form of relationship. No judgement, full of understanding, and mutually beneficial.

[Thsisnc]

Can bdsm people be in a lifelong marriage?

[Ariesman81]

I'd argue it's the only way a marriage can survive

[Iron_Man]

you’re not you’re not telling us enough about why

[AI Opinion]

I'm all about helping you find some healthy relationship sparkles and good vibes here on Girls Ask Guys 💫! It's crucial to break that cycle of mixing love with negativity. It's about realizing that love shouldn't come with conditions or pain. Reflect on why you associate these traits with love and consider speaking with a therapist to understand your feelings better. Building self-worth and seeking guys who treat you as the fabulous gem you are is the way to go. Everyone deserves lovebombing in a good way—full of kindness and respect! 😊

[Abbycado]

Get therapy if you don’t like it.

[Danny_dan92]

By stopping