How do people of different religions make their relationship work - what's the key?

[SnowyOwl]

Especially, how do they raise kids and maintain a healthy family dynamic?

[ohsheeT]

They are just like everybody else in the world some moments are good and some moments are bad we don't get to watch everything that everybody does everyday

If you know exactly who you are and if you can become one with yourself one with others and one with this universe that means love yourself love your neighbor and everybody help them succeed and love this universe God God is this universe is everything the couch you're sitting on the window your house is everything the fabric of this world of the universe if you can love all three of those

Stay away from everybody that creates drama and brings it to you or judgment or ignorance that means you will smile everyday cuz you don't have to deal with anybody like that and you understand these principles and understand that you and only you are the only one that lives inside of you that can make you happy or sad at any given moment but it's a choice you get to either explode something happens or you get to just think about it for a minute ago you know what I can't do anything about that or I'll deal with it this way and look at everything differently in life because that's the way we're supposed to be living and like I said keep all the garbage out of your life and you can have one of the best lives ever you will start to Glow you will start to feed other people energy you have to be happy you have to smile you can't let things get you down because think about it everything that you've ever been down about or thought negative about guess what you made it through it right the reason why this stuff comes up in your life is because in that moment it's a learning experience if something negative happens don't look at it as being negative look at it as being a learning experience and you're going to make it through it it's not that we fall down it's how we keep going it's how we get up and make it work that's what life is all about that's why people are happy cuz they know that secret and it's not that hard to do it really isn't it's a choice

When we are born we are all giving a gift that gift is choice
we get to choose who we want to be in life by the things that we say and do

There's always going to be somebody bringing drama to you you know why because they want you to turn into them they want to take you to the dark side but if you keep it out of your life and never go there you don't waste any more time you don't have a heartache you don't have to think about nothing and you're happier it's your choice

[abc3643]

This isn't a hard question to answer...

If religion is really important to you, you likely will not marry someone who is not of your religion because what the other person's religion is ("Is it the same as mine?") becomes an important factor in determining if you are going to even have a relationship.

For mixed religion relationships, either:
1) Neither of the two people have made religion important in their lives.
2) If one of the people considers religion important, then the other one doesn't and will consider converting to the same religion, thus making the relationship be two people of the same religion.

[Anonymous]

My mom is a Christian from a deeply religious background and my dad is an atheist. There have been a lot of arguments over the years from everything from prayer over dinner, to forced religious practices, to is there a god. Some of it, my brother and I have been caught up in, but ultimately the key has been above all respect for one another. My mom might disagree so hard with my dad, but he will still show up for her and hold her hand and sit next to her in church on some rare occasions when she really wants him there and conversely she will "let an argument go," if my dad fiercely puts up the "freedom of choice," hand to the sky. If you're not someone who can imagine living a life with someone who disagrees with you on religion, then don't date someone who is going to upset who you believe you are or want to be in life, but if you know life is more than just what you check in the what religion are you box, then you can work together in all things as a couple, compromise, and learn to raise your kids in ways you're both happy with.

[SnowyOwl]

It's so nice to see people who actually try to do the best they can even if it means going out of the comfort zone 👏🏻 wish you all the best ❤️

[SnowyOwl]

Personally I'm not religious, but spiritual and I'm open to dating religious people, if they are open to dating me as a spiritual non-religious person..
And I say this, because ideally I would date someone who is also spiritual and not necessary religious... But they're hard to find 😅 also I'm a pretty structured person in my beliefs (since I was raised with Christian beliefs) so I appreciate structured people.. and some people who are only spiritual are still pretty loose on values and boundaries... So I guess I've made my life challenging in a way, but I truly am just choosing what has truly felt right so far 😄

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I once knew a couple of a catholic woman and an atheist man. They had several children together, both raised with the shared values each parent had, the values of integrity, honesty, and kindness. These are not exclusive to any one religion and the kids knew that growing up. They were also allowed a choice on which they wished to practice. If they wanted to join the mother at mass on Sundays, they could. If they preferred to stay home with Dad, they could. Each parent respected the other’s beliefs even if they believed them to be inherently wrong because of their deep love and respect for one another. That’s really the main key: finding the middle ground and building on top of it with an attitude of good faith and respect. Even if the husband disagreed with the actions of the Catholic church, he knew that didn’t reflect on his wife. Likewise, she knew the same about him, the actions of other atheists didn’t reflect those of her husband.

[Jessica405]

The only way is to respect the differences and then put your relationship before your religion.

Put your religion first, and it won't last long

[midnightmoon05]

We respect each other and don’t fight over it.
as well, most religions teach basic goodness of respect and love.
I support my hubby to attend church and help out those who need.

[SnowyOwl]

Sweet!

[CuriousMoonFox]

I guess it depends on the particular religions is question. The three Abrahamic religions (judaism, islam and christianity) are pretty much incompatible with each other despite sharing the "same" root. Christianity in particular is difficult because of its more or less explicit order to convert everybody.

[SnowyOwl]

Doesn't Islam also say to not marry other religions?

But from knowing Christian and Islamic people, it seems their knowledge aligns pretty well.
I would think it's a matter of the couple rising above all the cultural division, being more mature about it, and understanding that in the end they do not contradict their beliefs

[CuriousMoonFox]

All three have their rules about not mingling with people from other religions but the mission to actively convert the rest of the world is a uniquely Christian thing. Muslims and Jews don't have the sense of mission to make every one like them.

As others have commented, people with different beliefs can only realistically coexist if they distance themselves from their religions enough to tolerate and be tolerable to other people. That is especially true for the three Abrahamic religions but maybe less so for let's say Buddhists.

[SnowyOwl]

Yea, I really believe you can lead a life inspired by God, even if you don't listen to everything organized religion tells you. It's there to give most people structure which is good, but sometimes the will of the universe/God diverges in some cases.

In the end, in Christianity there are 2 rules above all others. To love others as you would love thyself, and to love God above all things.
And because we are all creation of God, even all of the natural world, that means we should treat everyone with love and care regardless of all else.

Even organized religion fails to do this at times. So it's really up to the individual (s)

[Zack-Bann]

Either by both not being religious or by one party converting


I know this first hand


You can’t go halfsies on your beliefs
Believing in a religion means by default believing other ones are false
It’s not personal of hateful it’s just how it works

[Daniela1982]

I can't see that coming out well unless neither of them is serious about their beliefs. It would also depend on what religion they follow. For Christians we are told to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. One may draw the other away from their faith.

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

[Garud]

Just ask that person, do you think my religion is true or false
Then ask, won't my religion take me closer to the Almighty like your religion
If you get negative answers then don't waste your time with that lunatic

[katiesmuff]

Fortunately it's getting to where that is not such an important issue with modern adults. Most of us don't really practice our religions as it is.

[David5668]

They act grown-up and accepts their partner’s faith without condition, and for all its faults and strengths.

[es20490446e]

Embrace that is normal for people to have differences.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Understanding the partner's religion and accepting its differences and similarities.

[Ladsin2]

The key is a firm wrist.

[rachel776]

@Ladsin2

[Ladsin2]

@rachel776 I think I do.

[SnowyOwl]

Ah yes, our old and trusty violence ☠️

[Ladsin2]

You got it as well. Good. Good.

[SnowyOwl]

Yes I understood I should never date you xD

[Ladsin2]

One more Canadian I will never date. That's unfortunate.

[paledreams]

Probably some people are superior to others because relationships aren't just religious values

[Anonymous]

It rarely works.

[CarolinaGirl5]

U talk to the person you're in the relationship with

[msc545]

The key is to not discuss religious differences and let children figure it out on their own when they grow up...

[ehatsham_hussain]

Respect and understanding and space...

[Jennz6]

be evenly yoked.

[SnowyOwl]

funny word to use xD

[Anonymous]

just don't be friends with liberals

[Kelly6]

Happens very less.

[Agape93]

Respect