Is it wrong to feel jealous if your partner succeeds in ways you haven’t?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

A total of 18 votes were cast: 10 girls and 8 guys. See detailed results

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Feelings are feelings. They exist and are neither right nor wrong. How we act on those feelings is where the rubber meets the road.

It's good to acknowledge what we feel, and accept it. We can say to ourselves "Man, I hate this feeling. But it's there. I'm just plain jealous. Being jealous is a normal human response to feeling inadequate or insecure. I think I'll explore where I feel insecure and get curious about it."

We have to be willing to challenge our own thoughts about ourselves and our definitions of success. We may find that we are slacking or not working as hard as we thought. Or, we may find that our strengths lie in other areas and we are being too hard on ourselves. Whatever it is, it's important to recognize so that it can be worked through in a healthy way so that we don't develop resentment over something that isn't as big as we make it out to be. A lot of the time, we have preexisting assumptions that we've never really questioned that affect how we feel about certain situations.

[HawkPerception]

She's done it again. Words of gold as always Ms. Potts 👏🏼

[Dongie]

You make bitter jealousy seem like it's so innocent. I think I'll cry.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Thank you so much; I genuinely appreciate the kind words every time. :D

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@Dongie That's hilarious! This is me, trying to make the world a better place, one opinion at a time. :D

[HawkPerception]

@TheRealPepperPotts All I know is your kids are gonna be raised right. You're extremely thoughtful and your moral compass seems to consistently point true north. Not northwest or northeast. True north. If everyone in the world thought the way you do, I guarantee the world would be a much better place. I still think you should take up influencing. You'd do a lot of good for the world and help guide a lot of lost souls.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@HawkPerception That's so good of you to say. I appreciate the encouragement! :D

[Cutea]

No, not when you are together. It is not one sided. If you are in a good relationship each one should help each other to succeed

[Finchie40]

No feelings are feelings, we all have jealous feelings , but if you can control your jealous feelings and be supportive of your partners’ achievements , you will realize you had nothing to be jealous about especially if they are still choosing you , to be by their side , if they don’t choose you to be by their side , then be jealous all you want and walk the other way if you have to LOL , But a loving partner will stand by your side no matter what , whether they achieve or not or whether you achieve or not , all that matters is you both support each other , if they see you trying and making an effort that’s all that matters. That’s Love

[NimbleOcelot]

It is not wrong to feel jealous. Everyone feels jealous at times, and it's hard to control how you feel. However, that does not mean you act on it. You don't have to hide it, but you can be like "I'm so jealous you are doing so well. You are so amazing!" And otherwise try to be supportive.

[Dongie]

Wow!! I'm shocked!!!

[NimbleOcelot]

@Dongie are you going through my profile now?

[Dongie]

Why do you ask?

[NimbleOcelot]

@Dongie I wonder

[Dongie]

But what gives this idea? Hawk sends me question requests every time if this is the reason. I surely did not follow you here.

[Jupiter1]

We should all be proud and supportive of others we’re supposed to care about instead of being jealous and/or envious of them.

[HawkPerception]

But what if you ARE happy for them, but still jealous?

[Dongie]

Yes. You should be feeling overjoyed for their accomplishments.

[Dongie]

Ignore the jealous feeling like a good boyfriend.