If you ever cheated on a partner, did you think that your cheating would remain a secret forever?

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I've never cheaated on anyone, but been the victim of cheating twice in 53 years of dating, relationships and marriage. The first time, my girlfriend confessed the affair to me shortly after it began. The second time, a mutual friend told me as I was already in the process of a divorce.

If you cheated on a partner, did you think that you could keep it secret forever, did you not care whether you were discovered, or did you not even consider the possibility of getting caught?

texascollegegirl · Accepted Answer

I cheat on my boyfriend with big dick Blacks all the time. I make it obvious because that's what turns my boyfriend on - also because I enjoy it. But then his fetish is having to bend his mind and believe all my lies and let the Blacks who are hung bully their way into my being alone with them all over again. I also do it with a lot more big dick Blacks than he knows about and it feels great. TBH I can't say no to them so I'd cheat on him even if he didn't want me to. I also give a lot of oral to small dick guys of any race who have the same fetishes my boyfriend and I do. I'd never have sex with small dick guys other than my boyfriend. That would be cheating on the idea that my body should belong to the big dick Blacks. It's good for my sexual pleasure and for their sexual and racial healing. I'm sure I would be caught if my boyfriend really opposed it, but I'd do it anyway and I wouldn't feel bad about it at all because he's so small and I really need those big dick Blacks for sex. Plus he's the one that got me into it in the first place with his trying to get me to act all racist to this sweet big dick Black boy at school, only to find he had a huge porn collection including pics of me surrounded by pics of big Black dicks. I definitely think attractive white girls naturally want to cheat with the biggest dick Blacks, and we should whether or not it remains a secret. The expectation we won't is insane because of how desirable they are and how good in bed.

WowGIrl4ever · Accepted Answer

No I haven't , I knew if did it would someday come back to haunt me. Also, I'm sure I'd feel horrible inside about doing it

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No, I cheated once when I was younger and I immediately ended my relationship , I knew by my cheating was my answer that I didn’t truly love and care about my girlfriend at the time , people that keep cheating a secret are only hurting themselves by thinking they actually love and care about their partner , when really they only love and care about themselves. The can have a relationship all by themselves because they have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. So if you truly love and care about your partner , you wouldn’t be keeping secrets from them and you would be honest with them not lying and continuing a fake relationship with someone

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I had a long distance relationship and one night I met somebody at the graduation party of one of my friends. I never had sex before and I did not know when I would ever get the chance again so I did it. I knew that there would be no way that she would ever find out.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Hey there! Diving into this juicy topic, aren't we? 😏 So, in my experience as a relationship coach, it's wild how many people think they can pull off the perfect disappearing act with their little secrets. But let's be real, lovebombing or ghosting won't cover up the traces forever. Human intuition is sharp, and secrets have a funny way of surfacing, often through gut feelings or those sneaky red flags. If someone cheats thinking they'll never be caught, it either shows a naiveté or a not-so-great understanding of consequences. Cheating isn't just about getting caught; it's about breaking trust. Remember, rebuild trust before it all turns into a soap opera! 🕵️‍♂️💔

AviatorTom · Answer

I've never cheated but if I ever did, I'm sure she would find out.

Yannae · Answer

No because I think cheaters are the lowest of the low. I already get sad just thinking about it, the blow to her face.
A good and kind person who does what you expect a partner to do, caring about you. And then picturing throwing her efforts all away. The betrayal. That's sad, man.

Cat67 · Answer

Well I have three sisters so between them and they're very little of dating that I did very little. And what I overhear at work and sometimes would they just tell me things anyways. That yes probably a good 80 70 percent of the time. Women will always get away with it more not always but mostly of the time 80 to 70% . Guys think white men mostly black men I think they think they are the best players. HELL NO WOMEN ARE THE BEST PLAYERS

just_a_potato · Answer

I couldn't ever see myself doing it, but if it happened anyway I wouldn't be able to keep it secret. My conscious would eat me alive and I'd spill the day of.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

My wife has had a boyfriend for several years. She was upfront when we started dating that she would still see other guys and I agreed. It's took a little getting used to but now I'm fine with it. I know it seems cucky but it's no big deal.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Because when you're 24/7 intoxicated in high school and college you never think you're going to get caught let alone be held responsible for your own behavior! Life comes at ya fast, you can learn or persist in futility...

asarjam · Answer

I imagine most think it will remain a secret... maybe some sub-consciously hope they'll get caught?

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Never cheated even if it was gonna remain a secret forever, i have to sleep comfortable at night on my pillow knowing that i didn't do anything wrong behind someone's back!

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

I cheated so that I could tell her I cheated on her. It was dumb but at least honest ig?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. Not to say a thought hasn't crossed my mind. But not sure i ever would do anything

Anonymous · Answer

I thought I could keep it hidden, but it turned out she knew from the start and just pretended to not know.

Kelly6 · Answer

@olderandwiser i have cheating on hubby but thought to keep it secret but never stays secret

Stephanie2004 · Answer

No it come outs eventually. My friend found her then B/F turns out to be her brother. Her father had double life. They met at college.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Lots of married men and women do and they never tell each other

Anonymous · Answer

Its actually in some cultures to have affairs or to cheat.

Graptemys79 · Answer

Things don't usually remain secrets.

msc545 · Answer

In many cases it was and still is a secret.

Sabrina_Caleri · Answer

If i really wanted, yes

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