My Girlfriend talks to herself a lot. Is it just me?

[Anonymous]

We've been together for close to 3 years. I don't think I ever noticed it in the first year or so, because we weren't living together.

She'll talk out loud very often throughout the day. If it's 'I'm going for a smoke', 'I'm going to do this', 'I'm going to do that', etc...

I know that many people are like this, but it's constant. It's difficult to concentrate on things I might be doing and it affects my energy and mood quite often.

I don't know what to do.

[lightbulb27]

girls process a lot verbally and their chatter minds never stop.

talking to self indicates a lot of unresolved stress, confusion... lack of commitment. she's "spinning". smoking is addition ontop of this. that smoking started in some other stress.

so resolving all that, getting to where live has goals, purpose... hope and dreams and mainly... progress, while being guided within your respective values and morales will get her to better place.

she's a human, with a little girl inside. the little girl may need to slow things down a bit, shrink the world and complexity, to something she can manage... and grow out of that.

[Asker]

Trouble is, I feel like I've tried every conceivable way to explain to her that it's confusing. It's confusing to know whether she's looking for a response or not.

Often, when I do ask her, she'll just say "I'm just talking to myself".

Today has been nonstop.

Obviously it's normal for her, but it does get on my nerves.

[lightbulb27]

I'd go see a therapist or psychologist. not that it's wrong, I know of others that do this. But is there a healthier way. This will drive others nuts and stress out kids, animals, especially if it's negative talk.
Whatever is repeated is what's ingrained.
But, girls will do that... it's an extreme personality... issue is if there is a hidden problem and healthy way to be better.
Church may be a good outlet to take in positive message.

[Garud]

yep, it feels weird like there is something wrong with them, their mind is weak or something.
are they scared or are they just feeling anxious with a noiseless room or they are doing some practice for some reason in this weird way.

ask her love fully what's the reason without making her feel that it is annoying for you or you want to stop her from doing this,
otherwise, she will keep on doing that more discreetly

because some people do that to organize themselves better, they are clumsy and this is the way they choose to use somehow.

listen carefully sneakingly what she is saying out loud without her knowing that you are listening, just to be sure what's going on.

if there is not too much weird reason behind it then tell her your intentions honestly and ask her to talk to you instead of talking to herself loudly,
cos it will become very annoying when this goes way too much

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I have an employee who thinks aloud a lot and it annoyed many of us in the workplace until I told her that it's bothersome and I'd like her to try working on that.

When she was trying to practice restraint, she was getting nervous and began getting cold sweats.

So, I introduced her to our company Therapist and assured her it wouldn't cost her a penny since I'm charging her therapy to my business.

After just a month, the Therapist completed their sessions together.

That employee, appears happier, works more efficiently and, more importantly, no longer expresses her thoughts loudly.

[On_cloud_wine]

Wow.. that’s awesome

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

She came from a family where it was normal to announce what you were doing so someone could find you. There’s no real issue with that, my family does the same thing.

[Asker]

See, you're speaking from your experiences and how you're like that, too.

I will talk to myself every once in a blood moon, especially if I've cocked up. I don't spend my day reciting what I'm doing out loud. It's bothersome.

Today has been nonstop.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

First of all, it’s once in a BLUE moon, not blood moon.

Secondly, if it bothers you that much, ask her why she keeps telling you everything she’s doing and see if there’s a reason she’s doing it moreso than normal

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of solo conversations! Let me assure you, talking to oneself is pretty common and can actually be a sign of a vibrant mind. It might just be her way of processing thoughts or keeping herself focused. If it's disturbing you, try having a gentle chat about time and place for this self-dialogue. Maybe find a cute compromise, like certain 'no-convo' quiet hours. 💕 It's not a red flag unless accompanied by concerning behaviors. Hang in there, and embrace her quirks with love! 😊

[exitseven]

Maybe it is the only intelligent conversation she has all day.