How do I get over a girl I used to love. How to stop thinking so highly of her?

[subwayperson]

She did many bad things to me but still I am not being able to stop thinking so highly of her. I want to see her as a normal human being , as an average looking girl who can be replaced. I know there are other girls in the world who are prettier than her. But still I am not able to get over her probably because of old times when she was so nice to me. I still keep thinking good things about her wishing her success and being friends with her some time later. But I want to stop doing all this and never think of her again and focus my energy on some new girl who will actually love me and care about me. How can I stop thinking so highly of her and see her as an average replaceable girl?

[Finchie40]

Understand she doesn’t love you , if she did she would still be with you and trying to fix what is broken between you both , so if she isn’t doing that for you , you are best to walk away and focus on yourself and realize you deserve someone that chooses you the same way you choose them. We can’t force anyone to love us all we can do is love someone the same way we want to be loved in return , Someone that actually loves and cares about you isn’t going to walk away and do things that hurt you on a regular basis , only users do that to people. So you are holding onto something that is no longer there , Move on and find yourself someone that chooses you the same way you choose them

[Simslover92]

The problem is you are stuck on the idea of her. You love what she represented to you in your life and what she could have been but not really who she was if she mistreated you in the end. I know it's hard, believe me I do. I have been where you are pining over the idea of him but the truth is that's all it is is an idea.

When you think back to all the times when things were not great, can you really say this person was really for you? That you were really meant to be with this person? If it was meant to be, then you would still be together and she would not have mistreated you.

Perk up. There will be better days ahead and you will meet someone else who will be truly meant for you.

[Nikki1989]

You meet someone else. Moving on is the easiest thing in the world to do.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Bro, been there when I was your age or younger. She’s average af to other guys, but she made a conscious decision to do you wrong and to keep distance from you. She doesn’t want you. She’ll never truly want you because she doesn’t find you attractive. You gotta accept the truth and find peace within yourself. You will meet a much better woman than her in the near or far future. She a whole waste, but don’t waste your life for her, because I can promise you that she’s not even worried about you one bit. Thats a fact

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, my friend! I get where you're coming from, and I'm here to help. The key to moving on is transforming your perspective. Remember, she's just another human capable of making mistakes. Start by shifting focus to yourself and engage in activities that bring you joy and confidence. 💪 It's totally normal to reminisce about the good times, but it's also important to acknowledge when someone wasn't good for you. Understanding these red flags will guide you away from past love traps. Time to embrace new opportunities and connect with someone who truly values you! 🎉

[AviatorTom]

Simple... find a new girl go love.

[GoodEnoughThen]

As part of a reak up, we are not always thinking of the actual person but more about how we felt about ourselves within the relationship. We project parts of ourselves, like our relationshio hopes, into the relationship, onto the significant other. Maybe explore these projections and compare to the realities of the relationship ("she was mean to me"). Also, you may have self esteem issues to work on; we all do.

[MK1997]

You can't. You are indoctrinated by women to believe they are right wherever are whatever they do.

That's why you hate older men and support female pedophiles. You need therapy.

[GlowUpGirly5]

You're insecure is the problem because what normal healthy human being would long for someone who mistreated them? You two are done, accept it and move on

[cinema75]

Just realize that they don’t care how you feel. Once you understand that, it is easy to remember the experience, but not obsess over it and tricking yourself into manifest.

[Anonymous]

Give it some time and maturity, and some self respect. There are plenty of pretty girls but the key is to find one with strong values and a warm heart.

[KrakenAttackin]

There is no easy answer, you just have to move on.

[Anonymous]

Well why do u like her?

[UrsulaY]

Distraction.

[In_Trance]

Find someone else