How to stop knocking him down? how to get him to want to be with me?

[Anonymous]

hey everyone i need advice. my fiance and i have been together for 8 years. we haven’t done anything fun in 2 years. we haven’t gone on dates, we don’t hang out much and we barely talk these days. i asked him if the reason we don’t hangout is because i knock him down everyday and he said “kinda” so i asked if he can please tell me what it is and he said “how if all you do is laugh at me” so i said “ok so you’re not going to tell me how to fix the problem” and he said “i will but in person” and i said “wow you have the audacity to tell me that im the reason we don’t go out or do anything fun but yet you can’t tell me how to fix the problem” i love him to piece but im exhausted of just not doing anything. i really don’t know how to not knock him down? like if i tell him that im proud of him or something nice through text he ignores it and doesn’t respond and when i tell him in person he just tell me that im lying and it’s fake. I don't know how we will ever be happy. I don't know what to do. any advice.

[PeachyPie93]

Guys show resentment towards you by pulling away from sex, not going out as much and not spending as much time with you. If you want to make things better just be nicer and if he can't accept compliments then don't give them but don't tear him down either because that will make him dislike you. Just have fun together not say anything about him personally except that you love him. Like just put yourself in his shoes how would you want him to talk to you.

[Asker]

this is a silly question but what are some things that can knock down a man? like i want to know where i went wrong

[KrakenAttackin]

You have lost respect for him so you treat him poorly. He doesn't feel respected so he stopped giving a fuck about you.

[Asker]

then why be with me

[KrakenAttackin]

Men have a harder time breaking up than women do. He probably wants to get rid of you.

[Asker]

hmm, i didn’t answer his phone calls Thursday and he went nuts on me asking why didn’t answer. that to me doesn’t sound like he wants to get rid of me

[KrakenAttackin]

As I said, men have a harder time breaking up. He probably thought you had another guys dick in you.

[Asker]

why would he care if i did? you said he probably wants to get rid of me? why would care what i do

[KrakenAttackin]

He would rather you respect him.

[Asker]

he doesn’t tell me how. i have zero clue what i do wrong. i honestly don’t even know that “knocking him down even means”

[KrakenAttackin]

And this is why you fail. You completely lack empathy.

[Asker]

no im being for real. what does knocking him down means?

[KrakenAttackin]

I am being for real, if you don't know how you are knocking him down it's because you completely lack empathy.

Don't feel bad, most women have very little empathy.

[Asker]

i do not feel bad. but okay thank you. you’ve been so kind

[slatyb]

Why are you still together? Do you want to spend the next 30 years like this?

[AI Opinion]

On Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to sprinkle some relationship magic ✨ Your situation could use a sprinkle of empathy and communication. It sounds like a classic case of both of you feeling misunderstood. Try to show genuine interest and appreciation in what he does without overthinking it 🚀 When in doubt, surprise date night! Laughter is great, but a bit of tender honesty can work wonders. Keep the love flowing, and remember, relationships thrive when both partners feel seen and appreciated ❤️

[Anonymous]

What do u mean by knock him down

[Asker]

I don't know. i have no idea what that even means