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How do I get him to stop pushing me away?

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I met this guy at group therapy and we really bounded over are experiences.

We have bouth been through some traumatic stuff that's been really difficult to speak about and for myself I've found it so hard to accept what happened to me and open up about, I'm not sure I even feel comfortable talking about it on here to people I don't know.

But here goes I was basically kidnapped and for this guy I've been talking to he was stalked to the point it ruined his life.

His stalker is now getting the help they need but she would turn up to his elderly grandparents house and claim to be pregnant with his baby and harassed his then girlfriend and scared her away from being with him. It bought a lot of distress to him and his family and he actually got sectioned at one point because she was threatening to make flase SA claims about him and he thought his life was over as the police had not listened to him before and ignored him.

Me and this guy have become extremely close and I feel like he's the only person that can comfort me and I can open up to right now. It's been a really long time since I've felt like I can trust anyone like that let alone a man. He's been so amazing to me and has been there for me none stop. Whenever I feel scared at night he's just a phone call away.

He's opened up about his feelings for me once before and told me I've really helped him get his life back together because he feels like he has to be strong for me also and he genuinely cares for me and that's great because he makes me feel so safe and protected. l

I told him how I felt about him and that I think I might be falling for him and he suggested we stop talking for a while because we shouldn't become dependent on each other and he's scared but if he gets into a relationship again my safety will be effected from his stalker if she over gets out of prison.

Now he keeps pushing me away and it's hurting so bad and I'm getting all these negative thoughts again

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7 mo
All I care about is what makes me happy from now on and he's the only person who makes me happy. Everyone else i feel to ashamed and embarrassed to talk to because they saw how bad I was and know what I went through and they don't treat me the same anymore and treat me like a victim whilst this guy makes me feel as if I'm not alone
How do I get him to stop pushing me away?
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