Why does he push me away every time we get closer?

[jewel418]

A year ago I met a guy. We both have kids (single parents) and our daughters became friends. We have a lot in common and started hanging out with the children very frequently (going to swimming pools, parks, playgrounds, etc). After 2,5 months he finally asked me out, but surprisingly cancelled the day before. Contact suddenly became a lot less. I never knew why and didn't understand it because I knew he was attracted to me (could tell by the way he looked at me and how he threatened me). Months passed and I bumped into him few times, had a short conversations nothing more...we moved on and I put him out of my head eventually (was difficult...). Three months ago I met him again and he was really enthusiastic, wanted to hang out again, so we did. Eventually it wasn't about the kids anymore, we had interesting conversations, lots of good laughs en we also ended up sleeping together. Which was an amazing experienced cause I wanted him for so long. It was a wonderful weekend and I was convinced he felt the same way about it. But after that day things went downhill...he's not enthusiastic anymore, I even get the impression he's avoiding me and I don't understand why. I'm sure he feels attracted to me, he did last year and now that we were back in touch I felt the vibe, the magic between us once again...I want to know so bad what's going on in his mind...he's running away, every time we are getting closer to one another...I know I will get to talk to him again...but I wish I knew what he wants from me. He's a good guy, mature enough, but maybe afraid to be attached? Maybe it's because of the kids and therefor more complicated? Maybe it's needing space, but why does he need space all the time? Why is he pushing me away every time we get closer? And what should I do, ignore him too...wait a while and give him the space...or just ask him what's going on?

[justaskin8888]

you could confront him in a non threatening way just to get closure for yourself. But...life is too short to struggle to get someone to be with you, to treat you right, and to want to get close. If he's not all in (and there is nothing to suggest he ever will be); then you're really in this alone. No matter how much we love someone, it doesn't mean they will feel the same way about us. No matter how much we give, it doesn't mean they will do the same. You have to accept people for who they are and the behavior they exhibit. Then ask yourself, "Is this something I want in my life? Am I OK being treated like this?" If the answer is "No," then as a responsible, sane adult, you need to walk. And never look back. Sometimes, the hard choices we make in our life, looking back, are not nearly as hard has the tormoil we would have endured had we stayed.

[izzy716]

if you see him again find away to make him feel comfortable talking to you and confront him about it because that's very strang and if he doesn't then he has a lot more issues then you think