You're 17 again, what's one piece of relationship advice you'd give your younger self?

Question

For me, choose the nerd in your 20s and not your 30s. He's the one you should be with. Not the bad boy who is only going to break your heart.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well I will say focus on quality of attention not quantity. Sometimes many people wanting you can be more of a curse then a blessing. Some people pretend to be someone they’re not to get something from you, some people just want sex, some people just aren’t good quality people, and some people maybe are great people who aren’t meant to be.

Rejection even though it hurts be glad that if she was kind about it. Be glad she was direct as well as didn’t waste your time. If she was a bitch about it then be glad she didn’t pick you she did you a favor. You would be absolutely miserable with her.

Remember that not everyone is meant to be. Some people are great people but aren’t compatible for a romantic relationship. Don’t waste your time and don’t waste someone else’s when it’s not meant to be it’s not meant to be. Don’t try to change someone into something else and never let someone try to change you either. Yes, push one another to be the best version of yourself. But don’t ever try to change one another.

Some people just aren’t worth it. If a relationship starts off one sided just assume that will be the remainder of however long you’re together. You have a lot to offer and you deserve someone who has something to offer in return.

Every relationship has a reason some only for a season while others last a lifetime. It’s like the Garth Brooks song. Some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers. Some people were taken out of your life for a reason. Some people aren’t who they used to be for Whatever reason. Let them go

zombiewoof · Accepted Answer

Mistakes happen, have fun

SweetJoyGirl · Accepted Answer

Don’t trust men.

I am literally very naive when it comes to men. So, someone definitely needs to tell her not to trust them. Especially if they just say they are your “friend”. No, they either want to date you or sleep with you. No two way about it. They always pull the same shi. Like back the fudge up…🙄

Anyways, that is what I would tell her. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Fruitcrush34 · Accepted Answer

Try not to get attracted to useless guys who are toxic in their behaviour and also deceptive by their looks.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, if I were 17 again, I'd tell my younger self to cherish the value of mutual respect and communication. The bad boys might seem thrilling, but the real thrill is building a balanced, understanding relationship. Choose the one who celebrates your quirks rather than just patiently tolerating them. Remember, love isn’t a race; it's a journey meant to be savored. 😉✨

ShellyB · Answer

Never date anybody named Mark!!! Other than that the advice wouldn’t make sense to me at the time and it would be a waste of time trying to give it, I was not ready to hear it.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't wait for her to tell you she's into you. You'll be waiting till judgement day. And ONLY give her ONE chance. If you put yourself out there and the answer is NOT and enthusiastic yes. Then walk away and NEVER give her another shot.

Too m a NY guys make a mistake in both directions. 1. By choosing women who are entional vampires ghat suck energy from every guy they meet. But also by putting themselves out there to women who simply do not know what they want. And a lot of these women are find to keep thier options open and treat all men like a buffet until they decide. This is where a guy needs to know his boundaries and put his foot down. It took me too long to learn this. Let her find herself on someone else's dime (so to speak).

One thing I learned very clearly in life. The women who try want to be with you let it be known and there is no equivocation in it. Not surprisingly these women are generally the best women because these women realize it's not just her feelings at play here. Unfortunately because of this a lot of these women take it on the teeth if they choose a man who doesn't value this.

Keyboardkat · Answer

Oh, boy, that's a biggie for me! They say the 11th commandment is, "Don't be a fool." I sure did violate that one, until experience taught me better. So, the advice is, first don't let your sex organ rule your mind! If you are in what seems to be a good relationship, and then she starts to change and ends up dumping you, while swearing there's nobody else, as hard as it may be, tell here where to go and at least walk away with your dignity! And, it doesn't pay to wait endlessly for someone. I had one girl say to me, "Can you be patient until I know whether I "like" you?" She rang my chimes so I hung on for a while. But then I wised up. I don't want to be someone's second or third choice! Neither do you!

AManOnTheWeb · Answer

Women are just people. Treat them more like your friends and less like you're a respectful gentleman. Women say they like it, but don't believe what they say they like. You're not a passive person, but your inherent kind nature will read as passive loser to lots of women at first glance who are miscalibrated and won't be able (or aren't going to put in the effort) to notice the difference. That's not their fault. They're approached guys all day and night and they don't owe you a thing. That doesn't mean being an asshole, but don't go out of your way to be nice either. Call women out on their bullshit instead of letting it slide. They respect that more.

Be more aggressive and playfully flirtatious and understand that women are just as horny as you are, young lad. Also there's lots of women in your class who have a crush on you right now. They'll later confess this to you when you're an adult.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Matthew 6:33

''But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.''

Realizing this has changed my life forever. Any young person that realizes that will have the most wonderful life.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Slow down, get side tracked a little more, work with more people. It's easier to do work you enjoy when you know a lot of different people.

I let my opinion of myself stop me from working with people who could have helped me in ways I was too young and inexperienced at life to see value in.

Chillguy53 · Answer

if i was 17 again I would have said to myself…

I need to grow some balls and approach girls now and talk to girls, because if i dont I will still be a virgin.

Being shy and scared to talk to girls resulted in me getting no pussy.

Wien1938 · Answer

I read a joke many years ago of a conversation between a group of young women, one of whom is dating a geeky man and is asked why she is dating "that dork".
The reply comes "You should all try dating a geek. They're SO grateful for you having sex with him that you know he'll never look at another woman!"

Sour-rose · Answer

"Trust us. You may think you'll be alone forever but things will break. You don't like how it will happen but it will break for the better."

jazzy34 · Answer

“Don’t be desperate for boys who don’t want you. He’s not interested in you. In fact, he thinks you’re a pest.”

WhitneySnow · Answer

That sounds like good advice. I’m only 18 rn, do I don’t really have any advice for my 17 year old self.

Potteplante · Answer

Listen to everyone for fuck sake and do NOT get married.

NoCour · Answer

That was about a week ago! I'd probably tell myself to be more curious and more open-minded, take more risks, have more fun. But then i still wouldn't do it!

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

"You'll never be with Harry Styles, so stop imagining and just focus on Algebra. And take his poster out from your room!" 🤪 Hehehe.

LadyBecks · Answer

This advice is specific to one boyfriend I kept taking back - "walk away".

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I completely agree with you. And if you get with him when he's younger, you'll boost him up several levels. So he won't even be a nerd anymore by the time you're both in your 30s. So it's a win-win.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Press pause. "Expect the unexpected." Press play.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

The instant you think you have no one to impress; step up your game, because that's when people are actually watching you the most.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

"Stop being picky and just take the girl who's into you" Unless things work out with my current crush.

mstbooblover · Answer

"Tell the girl you fancy how you feel about her !"

RingOfFire · Answer

Don't keep in touch with your girlfriend at 17 after you break up or she might be stalking you 50 years later.

bolverk · Answer

If I could go back and talk to my 17yo self I'd tell him to concentrate even harder than I did at that time on my education.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Good advice. I'd also add, do not try to rush things sexually like many of us had peer pressure to do so and never forget to use a condom!

glennos89 · Answer

I would advise myself to get out of my comfort zone more often when it comes to flirting

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Stop being such a wanker and go ask her out, already!!

exitseven · Answer

Be strong and do as you will and let others set for you your limits

Massageman · Answer

Be careful who you marry. You "marry" their family as well.

Wise4myage · Answer

Id tell myself to learn how to be more patient.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Don't buy that 'Tiffany' necklace and don't mention refinding your bracelet either

WowGIrl4ever · Answer

Be patient he will come and you will know immediately

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I'd tell myself to pay attention to the red flags no matter what see people for who they are not for who i want them to be

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I've never been in a relationship :( I guess I would tell myself to try to be more self-confident with girls.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Focus on your career, you were never meant to fit in

Anonymous · Answer

Don't ignore red flags just because she's hot

4ngelic · Answer

take school seriously

Gwendoline · Answer

Don't be friends with so called nice guys

MemeSupreme · Answer

sooner is better than later

slatyb · Answer

Don't date my ex-wife.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

Put yourself out there..

Raphaëlle · Answer

It's just a crush and get over it lol.

bowenw · Answer

Don't be afraid of girls.

Lottydotty · Answer

Spread that seed

Yannae · Answer

You don't go after Vicky. You'll see.

Nerdvana · Answer

Sex doesn’t mean love.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Don't F every willing female.

RossyBoi · Answer

Stay single, which is exactly what I did.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Disregard females aquire currency

msc545 · Answer

NEVER get married.

eagle1951 · Answer

stay away from the blind date

Khadiislovee · Answer

Love yourself. Be a leader.

Anonymous · Answer

Go to Russia, not look at where others go

Parthena24 · Answer

Don’t marry him.

QuietRunner · Answer

More sex

Stephanie2004 · Answer

It’ll get better.

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