What is the relationship advice you would give to your younger self?

[brandon]

I guess mine might be do not prioritize work over your relationship. What is yours?

[civic]

Hey younger me, here's some advice on the whole relationship thing. First off, it's okay to be shy. Don't let that affect you. Start with small steps, like just saying hi. You will get use to is over time and be more comfortable with it.

Don't afraid to be yourself. Trying to act like someone you're not just to impress someone else? It's exhausting and it doesn't work in the long run. Someone will like you just the way you are.

Listen more than you talk. People appreciate a good listener.

Don't rush things. Relationships take time to grow. Enjoy getting to know the other person. And don't stress too much about finding "the one" right away. It'll happen when it's supposed to.

And lastly, rejection is not the end of the world. I know it hurts, but it is a part of life you need to accept. It means you're trying, and that's a good thing. You'll be okay at the end, trust me.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Find a good set of friends first before going on dates, and date within the friend group. Community first, love second. I had it backwards when I was younger.

Also don't debate with girlfriends. Debating is a horrible form of communication. Even in its finest intellectual form careful to avoid fallacies, it's designed to persuade third-party judges and audiences, not the opposition. It's designed to prove the opposition wrong, not to persuade them. It doesn't matter who's wrong or who's right. The point of communication should be mutual understanding. So share openly and even point out ways where you could be wrong, don't debate.

[myloveforuisinfinte]

That's soo true. 💯 agree with u. Lol

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@myloveforuisinfinte Cheers! 🤝 I think those are the top two things I needed to learn most in the context of relationships.

[Keyboardkat]

They say that the first commandment really should be, "Don't be a fool." That for me would mean, don't let your heart rule your head. I always let my heart rule my head and every time I did, I wound up getting burned. It's a hard rule to follow, but a necessary one. But I wonder if my younger self would have listened. It wouldn't have been what I wanted to hear.

[Anonymous]

I don't know but I wish I knew what a relationship was or is, or that they come to the surface.
I knew nothing and ended up with an older man & had his baby, and my boyfriend before the older man gave me herpes.
The two relationships shaped my entire life forever.
I never knew about age, sex protection, diseases or anything.
Now I’m almost 40 with no libido and work my azz off full time working for my child and the father’s dead.

[velvetheart]

Stop falling for people who wamt you around only when it's convenient and don't really give a damn about you; just because it's easier not to open up, not partake in conflict and settle for someone just for the sake of an illusion that you do HAVE someone. You'll just end up getting hurt even more.

Also don't let men make you feel like you owe them something just because you two TALK lol

[OlderAndWiser]

"You've gotta take a chance if you wanna find romance!"

[handsomelad70]

Get into a boy band early, and a rock band later. (Or, perhaps even a Country group, as I happen to be a handsome black cowboy.)

[WhiteSteve]

Those Quincy girls are fun but they’re nothing but trouble….

https://www.youtube.com/embed/zf9UmB75smQ

A SCARILY accurate composite of every girl I dated as a teenager lmfao

[Telekinetic-Potato]

A woman's respect can't be regained after it's lost. There's no trustworthy avenue for that and it doesn't matter if it's your fault or she misunderstood or anything else. The moment she disrespects you, she is no longer to be taken seriously.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Telekinetic-Potato. An excellent and factual post.

[Keyboardkat]

One lesson a girl taught me was, "Never be too nice to a girl, because she won't appreciate it. She'' just think you're a wimp and she'll disrespect you!" I don't actually believe that 100% today. It's not true of the girl I married. But at the time, I was very bitter.

[HawkPerception]

I've never had an issue with communication in relationships and that's why I think I'm good at maintaining them in my opinion. However, if I had to give my younger self any advice, I'd say:
"Never compromise who you are to appease your partner. Always be true to yourself and don't try to change your partner. Look for the traits you desire to begin with."

[V_Injector]

"Just keep fucking hookers. Don't bother with relationships... they're not worth it. Hookers all day every day. You might think you're cool now with your two girlfriends, but they're just going to be a pain in the ass 3 years later.

Get your money.

Just fuck hookers.

And lift more weights and drink less alcohol you fucking party animal!"

Oh I almost forgot...

"Fuck some of those fat chicks too!"

[Account]

One that came into my mind first is this: People are exactly what they show you and they are not the spots you fill in your head in order to explain the thought behind their action (s) .

[Sofargone93]

Learn to love yourself in your darkest moments. It will save you the trouble of pissing off you wife.

[Flatmanlewis]

“You’re in this to be happy, not just to make them happy. If they aren’t reciprocating then you’re being used.”

[SolitarySolace]

I’d tell my younger send to stay single or you’ll just keep getting hurt. Stop trying or you’ll end up so pissed off at women and the world for caring more about women than men like you.

[OtterMan68]

Don't chase! If a girl gives you her number, you don't call her more than twice to ask her out if that much!

[exitseven]

UIf you have feelings for somebody you need to tell her..

[sheikalana]

Don't jump into conclusions. Do not assume anything. Take things slowly. Be more selective.

[zagor]

Don't be so obsessive. Girls like sex too. You never fail if you never try, but you never succeed either.

[KrakenAttackin]

Get over losing 'A", actively pursue "R" and don't let her go... no matter what, don't marry "A2".

[JayBones]

Trad wives are trash. You should have fucked your whore best friend.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

It wouldn't be relationship advice, but to stay on subject;

Don't do it.

[grega239]

To not get into one. To be selfish and only consider my own future

[Anonymous]

Get out of the U. S. asap. The Dating Titanic is headed for the huge berg!😦😦Abandon ship!😬

[coachTanthony]

Just stay.

[ankushjangra]

Focus on money not on honey

[laly520]

learning how to say no
not trusting so easily

[Anonymous]

Avoid American men.

[Nora_]

trust actions, not words

[MemeSupreme]

open up more

[jamesgoldman]

Propose

[Anonymous]

They're not worth it!