If your lover continually calls you a liar when you never lied to her at all, what would you do?

[FunkyMonkee]

[Ms_Facesitter]

I'd tell him that I'm sick of all the false accusing since he never managed to find any proof instead of barking over and over again, and that instead I'll find me a man who isn't that insecure. Because I am looking for my partner in crime, not in drama.

[sage2021]

I would start to ask them for proof each time they accuse you of lying.

It's almost as if she's testing you. If calls you a liar enough times, she thinks that you will fess up once in a while.

[FunkyMonkee]

To WHAT? I've never lied to her! She just can't get that into her head!! It's as bad as democrats! You SHOW THEM PROOF that they're wrong and they either REFUSE to look at it or still believe their own lies! Basically, SHE'S lying to ME by CALLING ME a liar!!

[sage2021]

@Funkeemonkee

Seems to be trouble in paradise already with this new relationship of yours 🙃

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, BIG TIME!! And it's ALL coming from her!!

[Garud]

If I had a lover and she said this to me, I would have asked her to explain this to me further and would not have taken the talk forward until it was resolved till roots.

[FunkyMonkee]

She won't listen to me, I DOUBT she'll listen to you, either!! I THINK I saw you in her friends list here.

[Garud]

Though I am young, I behaved like a slow-silent-stubborn old man in these matters. Until these matters are resolved, I won't move.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the drama! 🌟 Being accused of lies when you're as honest as a saint isn't just frustrating, it's a red flag festival! 🎉 My aim here is to help navigate these relationship storms. So, consider having a heart-to-heart with your partner, because communication is key. Dive deep and discover what’s beneath those accusations. Sometimes, our partners project insecurities that need understanding. Keep it chill and remember, honesty and trust are the real MVPs here. 💖 Keep rocking that good communicator vibe!

[Anonymous]

Look for someone else who is going to show me more respect.

[FunkyMonkee]

I suppose I will!! Sadly, she doesn't understand the true meaning of the words: respect, loyalty, honesty and love. Mom never taught her these things. I TRIED but, she won't even take a hint!!

[exitseven]

start lying to her. What do you have to lose.

[FunkyMonkee]

I was JUST thinking that last night!
"Where were you?"
Well, honey, I just went downstairs to make sandwiches and these 50 or 60 naked and extremely horny young women burst through my front door and kept fucking me!! I just COULDN'T just turn them down! They all seemed so needy and sincere. Don't worry, sweety, I still have lots of cum left over for you, my love!

[Grond21]

That's toxic. I would leave her

[FunkyMonkee]

I'm beginning to agree!

[Grond21]

What's changing your mind?

[FunkyMonkee]

I just had faith and hope that she COULD change if she sought some serious help with her issues but, she refuses! So, HER LOSS!! I've been alone most of my life so, I'm used to it! Losing her ain't gonna hurt ME that much! I can't say the same for her! She's left me 11 times in the past 2 weeks over HER OWN IMAGINED accusations of me that are coming from her insecurities and ALWAYS comes back crying for my love before the day is over!!
OBVIOUSLY, she NEVER really DID love me!! Otherwise, she'd be fighting at least as hard as I've been to keep us together!! But, she's TOO BUSY slitting her OWN throat!! I've done all I can to help her, it's all up to her, now!! BUT, I think the ship is about to sail!! Get ready to pucker up, honey and kiss my ass goodbye!!

[Grond21]

You sound a bit like you are trying to convince me that it doesn't hurt you. I think it does, otherwise you wouldn't have taken her back repeatedly.
However, it's too much. She is displaying behavior that precludes her from being i n a relationship, and you can't fix her.

Time to let her go

[FunkyMonkee]

I was madly in love with her and vice versa, or so I thought! Then, suddenly, 2 weeks ago, she starts attacking me for EXTREMELY petty shit and accusing me of things I never did! Up until about a day ago, it DID hurt, A LOT!! We made LOTS of great plans, together!! She JUST admitted that we would've made a great couple except for ME being controlling!! I can't see HOW I'M the control freak!! I didn't MAKE HER do ANYTHING but, SHE forced ME to unfollow 3 people and send a particularly nasty message SHE wrote to another which caused that person to leave the site! I have witnesses!! THEY suffered her wrath, too, and, from what I've seen, several others before that!!
Our plans seemed to be coming to fruition in just a short while and then, she went completely unhinged and became a control freak!! After all I've gone through the past 2 or 3 days with her, it DOESN'T hurt, anymore!! She NEEDS HELP but WON'T GET IT!! She's BECOME an abuser!! If she'd sort her shit out, I'd have no problem getting back together with her again except that she'd have to re-earn my trust but, it's PRETTY OBVIOUS, she just DOESN'T WANT that!! I'm starting to think that it's actually a fear of meeting me physically! It WAS getting closer to that time so, she makes up these elaborate stories to chase me away and keep it from happening!
3 or 4 days ago, she said I could talk to any woman I want because we both need friends of both sexes. Within 12 hours, she wanted me to get rid of ALL of my female friends and started calling them incredibly rude and unwarranted names!! In the meantime, she's got 31 male friends in HER list, here! I told her several times she can be friends with anyone she wants, as long as she's loyal to me. Is THAT controlling? What guy wants a girl that's NOT loyal?
Is there a psychologist in the house?
I HAVE let her go!

[Grond21]

That's definitely someone who isn't stable. I'm glad you're letting her go because she cannot be trusted

[Dongie]

Retract the probe and move on.

[FunkyMonkee]

That's just about to happen!

[Dongie]

I hear thee