What do you do if you suspect your partner is lying to you?

[gayesblog]

Choose your side: Would you confront him/her or discreetly investigate the issue?

[BadApple69]

Confront him only if you have undeniable proof. Otherwise it'll just cause him to lie more even though that might not be what he wants to do.


I recently lied to my girl about something... It's eating me up inside. This week we will have a talk about it. I fear she won't trust me anymore which is my only hesitation. But a relationship built on a lie is no relationship at all.


Good luck in your situation.

[AviatorTom]

Is the lie about an important topic? If so, I would talk with her about it. I wouldn't blatantly call her a liar but our discussion should let both of us know the truth.

If it's a lie about something not so important, I'd do nothing, just ignore it. Let her have her opinion.

[FreyaRed]

I analyze what can be the reason for a lie and choose proper strategy. Confronting a liar is mostly not the smartest strategy, because it's better they reach the point of no return and your reaction no matter how harsh it might be, is justified.

[Raeannox]

Talk to your partner or depending on what they are lying about, leave the relationship (your partner shouldn’t feel comfortable lying to you).

[coachTanthony]

I would ask them hey you lying to me sucka?

[OfMiceandMen]

That's a tough one, if I call her out on it and she lied the first time, what's to stop her from lying again to cover her tracks.

If I discreetly investigate it, find she's telling the truth, and she figures out I was looking into it, then I'm screwed trying explain why I don't trust her.

If its a harmless lie, let it go. If she's lying about being somewhere when she wasn't then I would have to ask.

[JDAC092299]

I would ask direct questions about what I suspect but wouldn’t label it till given enough indication for example (if we always go on each other’s phones because it’s a rule she made for us to be open) and then one day she asks to revert that rule and starts getting messages late I’d ask who it is and can I see? If I’m denied I have my answer

[msc545]

You start looking for proof either way on their phone or their computer without their knowledge. Keep in mind that in most places this sort of thing is against the law and I'm not advocating that anybody actually do it. The only way I can see to do it that might be reasonable and legal would be with their permission and even that could be a problem.

[inhua]

if they can't properly explain a situation, their bags go out the door

[slatyb]

I've been with them for many years. It's not something they would do.

[jojoiwiwbwjo]

Fibd out whats up then say nothing and let then live in a lie they think they own.

[exitseven]

I would make sure she really was lying before I would accuse her

[Anonymous]

It depends whether it's a lie I can live with or not. All women lie! So if you can't accept a lie then you better not date. But the frequency and what she lies about is the determinant.

[jahaims]

What I do depends on what I think they are lying about and why.

[Hot_bots22]

Shouldn’t have to lie to your partner? Causes trust issues

[FunkyMonkee]

Find proof and then drop her fat ass!!

[Lokiion]

Gaslighting (this is a joke)

[LavLavLuv]

I’d talk to him about it

[Kristierose]

That is were trust comes in to play

[eagle1951]

prove it than kick them to the crub

[Anonymous]

Id call her out on it.