Do you ever feel like you have no purpose and zeal in life?

[Anonymous]

For the past 5-6 years I’ve had a mindset that I don’t wanna get married or have kids. I’ve always wanted that life but then I honestly don’t know what happened (maybe past trauma) and I completely changed my mind overnight. I’m even considering getting a hysterectomy due to my PCOS struggles, I’m so frustrated. My life is always the same, not bad tho, I’m satisfied atm but it’s the same. I work, get home, travel every few months and repeat. I have no zeal to do anything else. Had it been a short time feeling I guess it’s okay but I’ve been like this for years. I don’t date (cause intimacy makes me uncomfortable), I have no friends , I have a good family and I’m thankful for them. I’m quite literally alone but not lonely. As im in my late 20s now, I’m having a sort of crisis, and overthinking everything. What if I regret my choices at 35-40? What if I actually wanna have kids? What if intimacy no longer makes me uncomfortable? What if it’s too late?

Does anyone ever think this way or experience this?

[Finchie40]

Your life is just ordinary , like everyone else’s for the most part , so you got to a point in your life that you are just bored of doing the same thing over and over , mainly why people decide to fall in love and get married and have kids , or some people just want sex as much as possible because sex feels amazing but they do not want the relationship that comes along with it. Everyone pretty much makes their own decisions and choices in life for the most part. It doesn’t make them a bad person , it might just look bad from someone else’s eyes , because we live in a world filled with judgmental people. So the only thing you can do , is change for yourself , if you feel your life isn’t going anywhere and it’s just ordinary, So to spice it up , try things you never experienced before , go have sex , try dating and having a relationship , or find new friends as well that can introduce you you to new things. Life is what you make of it , it’s your choice and decision, no one else’s’

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you want to have kids but can’t due to PCOS, then just adopt or pay for a sureogate if you have the money. It’s nkt a bad thing to change your mind about this and honestly you can’t trust your decisions as easily in your 20’s versus your 30’s. The myth that the likelihood of pregnancy diminishes by half after 35 is based on data from over 200 years ago from a rural village in France. It’s not based on modern understanding where a woman can get pregnant at 35, 39, 42, and even 45. As long as you’re trying before you hit menopause and your body stops producing eggs, you’ll be fine in that respect. So take that comfort for that particular issue. As for dating, you said yourself you get uncomfortable doing anything like that, why would you think that would make you happy? Again, if you change your mind, it’s not going to be the end of the world. There are plenty of single people in their 30’s and 40’s for you to find when you reach that age range.

[Nikki1989]

You have what I like to call existential angst but don't stress, it is normal to question your life choices and wonder “what if?” at different stages.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to guide you with a sprinkle of insight. First off, let's acknowledge that feeling stuck in a loop without purpose is more common than you think, and you're definitely not alone in having these thoughts swirl around like a relationship hurricane! Past traumas, health challenges, and major life decisions can certainly crank up the anxiety and self-doubt.

Spicing up life a little, even in small ways, can sometimes break that monotonous cycle you're in. Let's keep a lookout for any "red flags" within yourself, like feeling stagnant, which might call for a bit of soul-searching or even professional guidance to reignite that zeal you're missing. Remember, paths can curve in unexpected ways and new choices and desires can emerge over time. 💫

Wishing you vibrant explorations ahead, lovely!

[MK1997]

Never always rooting for myself

[jahaims]

Go to therapy