(Ladies) Does being with a man that's larger than you make you feel protected or affect your view of him positively?

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Guys feel free to voice your opinions on what a woman feels towards a larger man.

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

Primal instinct. The bigger the warrior, the better the hunting/protection his mate receives and the less likely he will be killed by another male and she will be taken as a trophy. It's stupid, but real. A shorter man would need to demonstrate his competence and wits against a physically superior opponent to win the princess, so to speak.

I've noticed taller women are less concerned with dating shorter or same height guys. You'll notice it in couples, and I think it's a combination of less available taller men and she evens out the odds physically because of her height/bone strength. But usually the more petite the woman, the larger/stronger/taller the guy. One of those boxes is usually ticked with a petite woman in a couple. He's got to be buff, tall, or "big" (read: fat). I have occasionally seen a tiny couple, but they are typically Asian or he has one fantastic personality.

As for me personally, I tend to gravitate toward taller guys (of course). I'm petite (5' 3") and I was married to a guy who was 6' 4". I'd say my cutoff would be probably 5' 8" or 5' 9", but it's hard to say because personality changes things and can more than make up for a height difference. I would not refuse to go out with someone over being short if I liked his personality, though.

ariadneR · Accepted Answer

Its not his height that makes me feel safe and/or protected but his personality. The way he carries himself on a daily basis.

My partner is a foot taller than me and about 140lbs heavier. But even if he didn't have those stats id feel safe with him

DishLady · Answer

It depends on the guy in my opinion. There's something nice about the guy being slightly taller or broader than me, but he has to have the protective instinct to match. Some guys are just big old teddybears, which is sweet, but doesn't do much to help a gal feel safe or secure.

Crimsyjo · Answer

I feel too weird if I'm like only upto the chest like in some of those pics. But I also feel weird if a guy is same height as me. Shorter would just be a no. Even my 13 year old daughter is like 4 inches taller than me. So a guy shorter than us both would feel like a kid. And in the case I said if I'm shorter like his below his chest pecs, I feel like a kid. So my idea is the classic foot taller really. I don't mind a few inches. Like 6 to 9 inches taller really. Then that makes me feel safe and protected in his arms. I love that feeling. And its not even related to age. I feel just as feminine in the arms of a 20 year old that's taller than me as in arms of a 40 year old.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

If a woman weighs more than her man she’s more than likely morbidly obese.

If a woman is taller than her man, her man will still likely weigh more, have more muscle mass, denser and more robust skeletal structures.

In the case where a woman has more height and weight than man AND she’s not morbidly obese - the guy is probably stronger and more athletic.

Now, if the guy is actually less strong/less muscle mass than her as well…this is a couple that is statically very unlikely for a myriad of reasons aside from it being probable the fact that they matched becomes a factor that decreases its likelihood unless the couple is geriatric, or at least the man is in this case.

AmazonChick171 · Answer

I wouldn’t know because I’ve never dated a man taller than me. Tall men don’t like tall women! They want the shorties. Every guys I’ve dated is shorter than me and as a 6’4, it’s tough. I got rejected by a 6’11 man because I’m too tall for him and he didn’t want giant kids and prefer short women. I’m so jealous of women having tall men or tall partners which will NEVER EVER HAPPEN TO ME! 😡

I wish I was 5’4 or 5’9 instead of 6’4.

sdjaks · Answer

I usually judge physical attractiveness based on a persons face. Not their height. I may be wrong about this but I believe it may be true the taller a man is the more muscle mass he can possible hold since their body is bigger. So if this is true I guess it can make me and other women feel more protected.

I don’t find it attractive if a man is too tall though. For example over 190cm for men is too tall for me. I much prefer a man around 180 -185cm.

I am 172cm

WhitneySnow · Answer

I feel safer with a taller guy but I wouldn’t rule out dating who was on the shorter side or even my height (very few guys are shorter than me cause I’m only 5’2”)

Screenwriter · Answer

I don't need a huge man and I understand that this has something to do with ancient biological "protection" tropes, but I'm fine with someone who doesn't take up the entire bed.

Average size is quite enough.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It doesn't make me feel protected because I seen tall guys get knocked the fuck out and the taller they are the harder they fall. I think most woman are attracted to tall guys because its for mating purposes like he will make tall kids. I know I judge men, like who will give me the best offspring so if someone is sick in his family I don't want to mate with him LOL. But I don't need really tall guys just someone taller than me at 5"3.

NicholasRedone · Answer

I'm 5 foot 11 and quite lanky (statue like / inflatable man like) and so my limbs and stature probably make 5 foot woman or shorter feel - that ancient old "protection feels" or at least "insignificant compared to, him, feels" that they crave in a male 😋☯️♂️

Valdemort · Answer

The only view it changes, is whether I have to lift my chin or bend my neck to see him.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

It's funny because women look tall guys, but don't like guys too wide and massive.. I think it's more about the aesthetic, because if it was solely about protection, 6+ PED fueled body builders would be dropping all the pants..

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

I am not a large man but I have done some crazy shit to protect a girl I hope she was feeling safe with me.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Most women may say no because they are feminists, but the truth is that women do not say no to a strong man.

MizzArtFreak89 · Answer

Honestly I’m not sure

Sinthia99 · Answer

No not really

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