I spent a night with a man during my early talking stage with another man and I feel horrible and disgusting?

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Something happened during the early talking stage I have right now with a man. I’ve been writing with a man for about three weeks who is really important to me. I've been admiring him forever and I can't believe I'm actually talking to him, he's all I ever wanted. We write regularly and are planning to meet soon. But something happened over the weekend that makes me feel awful. I was with another man, not sex, but kissing, etc. I stopped it and asked if we could just sleep, but still… It wasn’t planned, and I didn’t actually want it. I was overwhelmed in the situation, couldn’t say no because I’m good friends with him and I was scared he would hate me then (I know, dumb). I know I’m not officially with the man I want yet, but I still feel like I’ve betrayed him. In my head, we’re already together. It feels like I’ve ruined something before it even really began. I feel so bad and I don’t know how to deal with it.

BluegrassBill · Accepted Answer

Oh, Lordy, Lordy, I been searchin' high and low,
For that sweet release, that first time glow.
But every climax just can't compare,
To the preacher's daughter's, that maiden so fair.

I remember back in '98, when we was young and wild,
Kathie and me, we was just two love-struck kids.
Fingered her in the church parking lot, fogging up windows
Kissing and a' cummin, that's all them memories compose.

Now she's with a fella, as black as night,
But I still dream of makin' everything right.
I'll sober up, polish my rusty ol' knight's shield,
And maybe, just maybe, Kathie will see I ain't no fool.

Best orgasm, I'm still waitin' on that day,
When I prove to Kathie, I'm here to stay.
Trump's got my back, MAGA forevermore,
In God's great plan, I know there's a door.

I sit outside her trailer, strummin' my banjo,
While she's inside, with a man I don't know.
But every note I sing, I play it for us
Hopin' she hears and gets some cunnilingus

HungTexan · Accepted Answer

I think you’re stressing over something that didn’t happen and a relationship that hadn’t happened yet. You need to quit over analyzing your feelings, and try to relax.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the emotional rollercoaster of the early talking stage! Let's dive in with honesty and a sprinkle of self-forgiveness. You're allowed to have feelings and explore connections, especially when no "official" status is in place. The guilt shows your commitment to the man you're talking to, but remember, we all navigate this rollercoaster of emotions. Be gentle with yourself, okay? Learn from it, communicate openly when the time is right, and cherish the journey you're on. We're all human, after all, and sometimes love can be a bit like dancing in a labyrinth. 💃🕺❤️

Miristheiss · Answer

Sounds like you are trashy and promiscuous and not girlfriend material. The epitome of modern, sexually liberated, feminist women. There are millions like you.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Us that guilt to learn and change, evolve from it, it could've been worse If you let yourself go there completely, you stopped yourself and controlled yourself, a bit earlier and it would've been perfect but it still would've been worse.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Don't do this again and move on.

Horn_Hog · Answer

Pray for forgiveness and move on.

jahaims · Answer

You are too immature for a healthy relationship

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