Love does break hearts, how to stay?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a relationship for the last 2 years and 9 months we have been seeing each other almost once every week, I'm madly in love with her and can't even think to be without her in the future. The thing I am not able to understand is that she's cool to use words like I'm done with you and sometimes it feels like we're not in a relationship she never let me give any honest regards to anything and every time I tell her that she should be more thankful, or less insecure leads us to fights where there is no resolution nor an ending. I really don't understand why I'm even giving any advice in the first place and also what I should do to make this relationship strong which I'm not feeling any.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that sounds like a really tough situation. Love can definitely mess with your head sometimes, especially when the other person isn't on the same page as you. It sucks when you're giving it your all, but they're just kinda checked out or being indifferent.

The whole "I'm done with you" thing and the constant fighting without any resolution - that's a major red flag. It's like she's just keeping you around for convenience, but not really investing in the relationship. That's gotta be super frustrating and confusing.

I get that you're madly in love with her and the idea of being without her is hard to even think about. But you gotta protect yourself, you know? If she's not willing to be more appreciative, work on her insecurity issues, and actually commit to making this relationship strong, then it might be time to reevaluate things.

My advice would be to have an honest, non-confrontational talk with her. Tell her how you're feeling - the love, the confusion, the hurt. See if you can get her to open up about what's going on with her. Is she just not that into you anymore? Is there something else going on that's making her distant?

If she's willing to work on it and make some changes, then great. But if she's just gonna keep dismissing your feelings and not making any effort, then you might have to start thinking about walking away. As much as it sucks, you can't force someone to love you the way you deserve.

It's not gonna be easy, but you gotta put yourself first, dude. You don't wanna be stuck in a one-sided relationship that's just wearing you down. Stay strong, know your worth, and don't settle for less than you deserve. There's someone out there who's gonna appreciate you the way you need. Don't lose hope!

[Selene1600000]

Love alone is not enough if the relationship constantly leaves you feeling unheard, emotionally unsafe, or unappreciated. Telling someone to “be more thankful” or “less insecure” usually feels like criticism to them, so the conversations turn into fights instead of understanding. Focus less on fixing her and more on honestly asking whether both of you are actually building a healthy relationship together, because a strong relationship needs effort and emotional maturity from both people.

[Nikki1989]

You have a communication problem, and you're not effectively addressing the root causes of your disagreements.

[Asker]

If I'm telling her to not feel insecure about herself, she takes it personally as a word insecure and calling her insecure makes her heart broken and this is why she'll not be talking to me