Is a broken heart a good enough reason not to try and find love again?

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Keyboardkat · Accepted Answer

No. But it does mean you don't jump into the next relationship too soon. The loss of a love relationship, especially if you were very close with your ex, is experienced like a death. And the person whom you've lost is the one who has "died" to you. You must give yourself time to grieve and to mourn the loss, and to allow yourself to heal. And this process cannot be rushed. If you try to rush it and jump quickly into a new relationship, trust me, it will come back to bite you! You are not yet emotionally available to a new person. Rebound is a real thing, and you can end up using someone for a "comfort person," or in other words a band-aid, and when you're feeling better you may discard the band-aid. It's not fair to do that to someone. Better to wait and not date until you have healed and are really ready to commit to someone else. In the meantime, don't date anyone. Rather, explore new interests. Work on your abs, take a course, learn a new language, join a club, take a trip, take up a musical instrument, but don't date. You'll know when you're ready. When you can hear your ex's name without feeling a punch in the gut, etc. you'll know.

BarryLiverstone · Accepted Answer

Yes for the short term while In the healing process. However after all the stages it’s not an excuse to not try again

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Depends on the circumstance. Some people don't heal well after having their hearts broken (ie: death of a spouse or partner that meant a lot to them), and cannot imagine being with anyone else. Or imagine being hurt so much, you're just over love and rather not deal with the pain of a broken heart again. With the latter, I much rather said people stay single until they've healed because otherwise, they just go from relationship to relationship, or sleep around and wind up hurting others in the process of trying to heal themselves.

I can see some people being so cynical or broken by trauma, they don't want to risk love again. Because love isn't something like in fairy tales or movies that everyone is lucky enough to stumble upon... we're not all that lucky. Some people are broken, bruised, or have to suffer before they find love- assuming they do.

So yeah, I'd say for some people? Absolutely. At least until they heal properly. Otherwise, I see no harm in someone with a broken heart just... being left alone (no pun intended) and taking a break from relationships and dating until/if they choose to get back out there again.

OldWomanBySoul · Accepted Answer

No. If your phone breaks you don't not buy a new phone because one broke and it's a sign that having a phone isn't for you or it would be too hard to watch another phone break so you just don't have any phones ever again. No, you get a new phone and try your best to take care of it so it wouldn't happen again and if it does happen again you try your best to repair it and if it's beyond repairable you get rid of it and look for a new and better one

Obviously you have to mend your broken heart before trying to find love again and not go for a rebound but being bitter forever over a broken heart is worse then not trying at all...

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Yup. That's what I did. Women are basically parasites. They need us we don't need them for anything but sex. Go enjoy your life without a$$hole in-laws who treat you like scum, kids nickel and dimeing you to death, an eventual divorce where you loose pretty much everything you've worked for your entire life, save your cash and go to the bunny ranch or Amsterdam or Germany to get laid. Prostitutes aren't picky and they won't lure you in with falsehoods a out love. Plus you can do them in almost any way you want. Love and marriage are dead. Live your life for yourself and only yourself.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nope. I might be hurt but I’m never heartbroken. Take a little break and then on to the next

Anonymous · Answer

It depends what you mean by broken heart.

At my age most women are simply too angry and toxic. I've dealt with heartbreak but I do my best not to take it into a relationship with another woman. But that doesn't stop most women from doing it. I simply have no desire to try to make up for some other guys mistakes anymore. Life is too short to be unhappy. And if I can't be with a woman who seeks happiness I'd just rather be single.

So I guess to answer your question. If a person cannot work towards happiness then they should remain single rather then destroy someone else's life.

nolabels · Answer

It always seems to feel that way, at least until that flutter once again trills through the chest when seeing or thinking of that particular lady that just won't let you go on living in peace unless you at least make a try at winning her heart, win, lose, or draw.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Its all about perspective. A lot of friends and peers say im "wealthy" because of having many skills and hobbies.

What they dont know is that behind each skill or hobby was a broken heart. A desire to overcome by channeling that pain into something constructive.

I've had my heart broken several times coach. And because I've learned and overcome, i welcome and value what each of those women taught me. Lifes too short to be sad and butthurt

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I once said that. I had support from real life friends and some gag friends…we all have to learn and grow. Time heals…as well as chainring our mindset.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t think so, it means you let your painful experience control your whole life and you don’t allow yourself to be happy again, just because you got hurt last time.

electromagnetic · Answer

No. I think it’s the fear of picking up and trying again with the hopes that your heart doesn’t get shattered again

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I don't think so. The old saying "if you don't succeed the first time, try... try again." comes to mind.

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s a major setback. It takes a long time to heal from something like that and people don’t want to get destroyed one more time. Some people can’t come back.

Keishio · Answer

Is a scuffed knee a good enough reason not to stand up again? No, life will throw you curve balls relentlessly. Disease, misfortune, death and loss are things you will encounter in some form or another so take your time to recover then buck up and press on or you'll be left behind

exitseven · Answer

yes, when you burn your hand on the hot stove you tend to never touch it again.

stepyo99 · Answer

Refusing to try to find love again is just keeping an old wound from healing and will make you bitter and resentful. Sure, take some time off, but you've got to put yourself back out there again.

Sparkie460 · Answer

No it's not. The quickest way to mend a broken heart is to get back out there and find a new partner.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It's a good enough reason to date down and never allow yourself to be consumed by a woman again.

slatyb · Answer

No one needs a reason to do what they want to do. But if that's the only reason someone is afraid to seek a partner, I would advise them to get some counseling so they can move forward.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It wouldn't be for me, but I cannot speak for others.

marish01 · Answer

Yes. If I ever have a breakup chances are very high that I will die as a virgin

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

No  A broken heart is a reason to date seriously

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope, it fades over time and someone's daughter in a short skirt will catch you eye, and you will hear your inner voice tell you buckle up sparky, we're going in again.

Matt-G · Answer

Time to heal is a good enough reason pal. I'm there myself.

inhua · Answer

there's no legal obligation to find love again

DermalPunch · Answer

No, but you need to take the time and analyze your mistakes.

SolitarySolace · Answer

One broken heart? No.  Multiple, followed by false accusations, hate for being born male (being called a mysoginist and incel?) absolutely

BoobMan · Answer

Not really. It's analogous to letting a terrible meal turn you off from food forever. Not really a good plan.

Jazzy54 · Answer

No, but that’s why a lot of people are hesitant to fall in love again.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, but you don’t need a reason. If you don’t want to then that’s that. It’s not mandatory.

najekim · Answer

Nope. One never knows until they try again. As many times as needed.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Don't let that ---hole ( /trick ) make A difference in your life. So No.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. I think it's a valid reason.

msc545 · Answer

Once, no, several times, yes.

Minahh · Answer

A broken heart can heal

BLP11520 · Answer

Dude move on there’s so many ladies out there

Christoff92 · Answer

Yeh sometimes

grega239 · Answer

It is.

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