Should I close my heart up again I don't think love is for me?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

After a heartbreak, it is common for people to write off relationships. After all, who wants to hurt like that again. Some people refuse to have pets for this same reason. They don't want to have to go through the pain of loss, when the pet dies. Though we can play it safe and not invest, look at all the great moments and memories we'll never create or savor. You can't eliminate the possibility of pain without also eliminating the possibility of pleasure.

Even though I've never gotten more than just a taste of my ideal, I'm not going to crawl into a hole and wither away. Continue to do things that add to your life. That could be volunteering your time or joining an organization that promotes an interest of yours. You could also focus on creative endeavors. You're more likely to find a special partner when you focus on a group project than when you seek an individual. People will see you in action and be drawn to you for more than just how you look. Don't close the door to relationships, but don't put all your eggs in one basket and then smother the basket. Special moments pop up when we least expect them.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Its very painful to be blocked ir ghosted. You have to take the lessons of value out of these to better yourself. If a lot of this is online with heart and hopes that is mistake one. Only know people in real life.

You have to learn and grow heal. Find Christ if you harbor deeper emotional wounds and address those.

Sweetsurprize · Accepted Answer

It's fine, my relationship just ended. Asshole left me after five months. Selfish, arrogant prick.

No one ever died from not letting yourself have relationships (the romantic kind that is). I'm currently trying to get pregnant on my own because doing it the traditional way (finding some idiot white man to love you, propose to you and then have children with you) is just WAY too taxing on my mental and physical health, so no thanks!

Jkgordon · Accepted Answer

No keep it open for the right one let love find you also I’m black no disrespect try to becareful with our kind they are the worst! Not all but most change your behavior to attract different men but if act like a hoodrat don’t expect to meet so wine from Harvard😉just keeping it real ~

Summeroflove · Answer

If you’re not ready right now. Don’t force it. Taking time to get to know someone and building that relationship and bond takes time.

NamerOfStars · Answer

"

But if in your fear you would seek only

love’s peace and love’s pleasure,

Then it is better for you that you cover

your nakedness and pass out of love’s

threshing-floor,

Into the seasonless world where you

shall laugh, but not all of your laughter,

and weep, but not all of your tears."

Billlewis · Answer

I can definitely understand where you're coming from, because I've gone through periods like this in my own life. Sometimes we end up meeting someone who's ideal for us when we least expect it, so I hope you can hang in there.

Jazzy54 · Answer

I don’t know what you’ve been through, but don’t close off your heart. You just have to be careful with the men you choose.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Don’t close it up. Just remain single and focus on you. If people can’t value you as you are, that’s on them. Don’t punish yourself for other people being idiots

ChiTown33 · Answer

No you just have to be more selective about who you give it to. Don't chase feelings. Chase substance. Don't get invested to quickly. If you're worth it, you're worth WAITING for. This goes for either gender.

I have a rule I only give women the same energy they give me. Never make somebody priority that makes you an option. It ALWAYS better to be alone than be with so. eo e who doesn't value you.

Staximus · Answer

Take a step back and look at the way you choose a guy, girl, whatever. What is the first thing that keeps attracting you to the wrong person? Why do you keep picking the wrong person? How can you change that? Seriously think about it. Don't let yourself fall for somebody until you know they are worth the emotional investment, until you know they care as much about you as you do about them. I had to learn that one the hard way.

OddBeMe · Answer

If there’s a rip in your heart ventricle…dear god yes. At least don’t stain the carpets, I just had them cleaned.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

This is so sad love is for everyone you just haven't met that right guy. Please don't give up on love I can tell you have so much to give

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No never forgive and forget and move on there will be guy or girl for you

Unit1 · Answer

Love, not all humans are deceitful monsters with ulterior motives. It is okay to keep your guard up and to protect yourself but if you build your walls high enough, you'll never invite someone, that wants to make you feel loved.

driven159 · Answer

there is a love out there for everyone they just need to cross paths I hope you get lucky and find your night in shinning armor

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Stop chasing Chad Thundercock and you will have better results.

DextroShade · Answer

As Saint Kevin used to say: "Can't make this shit up!"

swettannie · Answer

why would you say that

Emanon25 · Answer

Never give up

lphin · Answer

I can feel your situa Because i was on that situation few days ago  If you like i can be your friend so as to share stories if you like

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I HAVE... I CAN ASSURE YOU ITS NOT FUN

jimmy2 · Answer

Oh honey in time you will be surprised

Anonymous · Answer

By looking at your face I agree with you love is not for you.

Twalli · Answer

You will find the right guy.

BLP11520 · Answer

No don’t give up

Anonymous · Answer

That’s totally up to you.

dudeinohio · Answer

No... don't

Saamee · Answer

Love is for all

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