Should I give up on love?

[AndresPluda]

So basically i don't know if i want love (in a romantic way) in my life anymore.

Every girl i liked it has rejected me , so im not so positive about it anymore, i don't look the good aspects of love anymore, im a little fat (not completely, im a regular guy with beer belly, but i don't drink), and i get it, physical its important i can respect that but i don't care about it i would prefer to use that time and determination for other thigs (like draw, write, etc). I developed a fear of a relationship of that type i mean i don't want my happiness to be attached to someone who could leave at any moment.

I have few female friends (Actually just one to be honest, I had a fight with another one years ago, she is still in the social circle but not my friend for me at least). Im afraid of love, afraid of being rejected, i don't like to feel bad when i can do other things, i don't prioritize my physical (i mean i care about it but until a certain point), i don't want my happiness to depend on other person that's its not me, i don't want other person to know my secrets and my life so they can trow it in my face so i just don't try it anymore.

I kinda accept a life without a girlfriend or any match in that aspect (love or sexual) i just don't care anymore, i don't think i could find "The right person" (i doubt that thing even exists), and to be honest, i don't know if i want to find it anymore.

Just for clarification: i dont hate girls i keep socializing with guys and girls i can talk with girls no problem, i like having friends but to be honest the case is im tired of this loop:
i like a girl-- she doesnt---i feel bad.

What do you think about it?

[Kaamraj]

Social media and dating apps has drastically changed the sexual marketplace. The average guys doesn't stand a chance. Now it's upto you if you want to keep blaming yourself over it or live your life to the fullest. I have gone through the same thing as you, I am in my mid 30s, and when I was 28, I realized that I was probably going to be alone. I focused on myself, taught myself a new technical skill, started a new company and started becoming the best man that I could be.

I have a business of remote electrical infrastructure manufacture, installation, maintenance, and repair. It took me about 5yrs to learn the trade, and another five to set up my business. In my spare time, I learn about electrical components, even ten lifetimes are less to learn all that there is. It's only recently that with the money, more and more women are becoming attracted to me. But now that my value has grown, I just dont see them as that valuable. It's just a change of perspective that comes when you work on yourself and achieve what you can.

[MCheetah]

Yes. Join the club. Dating for men in the modern day and age is virtually hopeless. Well, for 90% of men, anyway. 10% are still considered attractive, and that's all women go for nowadays.

Also, you forgot to mention you were short (under six feet/183 cm). If you're not short, then what are you complaining about? But if you are (and it sounds like it), then yes, stop searching for love. Not to be a Negative Nancy or anything, but because it's legitimately a waste of time. I've been there and wasted my entire 20s there. Spend that time being creative, working on bettering yourself, and trying to make yourself happy WITHOUT A PARTNER. Because the same women who'll give you false hope and tell you "you'll find someone someday" are the same women who wouldn't give you a shot on a date if Hell froze over.

[PrettyPriya]

No, I wouldn't give up hope. You are the same age I was when I found "the one". Sometimes you just need to stop worrying about finding someone and let them find you.

Maybe right now is a time to better yourself and focus on you. That way, when she does come into your life, you are the best version of yourself. Don't take a let a few bad experiences close your heart and mind to finding that special someone.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Wow priya

[Heartache0405]

I gave up. It's been 7 years sense I did and it's been extremely peaceful and stress free. No one telling me how to live my own life. I don't need intimacy to be happy because it always leads to the most painful hurt that can't be treated except with time

[VanillaSalt]

Yes you should abandon love. The idea of love you cling to isn’t real. Love is built over years of trust and respect. Both men and women think it’s just something you feel one day… it’s something you realize only after you have found something worth respecting.

[Drumlin2001]

Dont give up. I know what it can be like. I was a 35yr old virgin, i had mental barriers that stopped me from pursuing things with women, I eventually all but gave up in my mid twenties. At 35 I'd had enough, wanted to change. I had a short relationship where I lost my virginity and experienced a lot of firsts. 6 month later I met my now fiancé, we have 2 amazing kids. It's never too late as long as your prepared to work for it. It took me reaching out to a shrink for help.

[Brendan24]

I'd say try to focus on your hobbies maybe add a few (especially social hobbies). Also try to increase your value and social skills. I would recommend taking care of your health cause without good health nothing else in your life matters. Love will fall into place if you do these.

[Zondahyura22]

Well maybe you choose the wrong one you must like who likes you maybe these girls out of your league the dating game is unfair the world itself is not fair you sound little bit empty inside. Hit the gym improve yourself don't Search for it it will show at the right time. Save cash save time and energy work on yourself relationship is not that great these days unfortunately however you may meet good woman

[scott04sa22]

Im 36 and I still can’t find love. My best advice is to stop looking because relationships ain’t for everybody. Just think of your single status as a gift because your probably one of the good men like us out there. Girls mostly wants assholes, jerks, darker colored guys, suger daddies or guys with the looks. Don’t go after Country girls because they’re the worst because they mostly wants boys with sexy fords or Dodge trucks with country money lol

[MrTuxedo]

If you stop searching, you'll never find ''the right person'', and I believe there is one for everyone.
Best I can advise you to get rid of fear of rejection, as it's the most common one. Your life overall will be much easier without it.

[Twalli]

I think there is a person for everyone. Yet we're talking about 1 person in about 7.9 billion people. The likelihood you'll find that person is roughly.000000000001%, so I'd bet on not finding him/her. Having said that I think my parents found that person, they never fight and never argue. When they disagree they discuss it. My girlfriend and I are in a similar situation, although I don't think we've ever disagreed, except maybe about something stupid like a favorite character.

[mrsaviour]

Having someone to share your life and thoughts is different to being alone. Yes getting into a relation might be difficult and tiresome. Give it a try as a secondary. You don't have to try every day to find someone but give some time when you can. Being alone sucks and getting rejected hurts but some day some one will find you just have faith. You don't have to lose your self respect when someone special finds you. Hope you find it soon cheers mate chill and have some faith in yourself

[Anonymous]

You'll see that what you're going through is very common for guys these days. Women are picky with high expectations, then you fall in love and get heart broken which is tough and isn't worth it. It's better to accept it and move on instead of being cheated on feel like life isn't worth living.

[FakeNIK]

I get where you're coming from, I only have a single advice for you, Start working on yourself & don't force love, When the time is right you'll find one

[WhitneySnow]

Keep trying. Eventually you’ll find a girl who likes you back.

[Staximus]

You need to re-evaluate the way you select women. Obviously you are picking the wrong ones to like because they don't like you back.

[Jltakk]

I wouldn't say give up. Just... keep your options open while seeking self improvement first and foremost. I, however have given up. Just don't be me and you'll be fine.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I kinda realized, even though 26 only and never had a girlfriend. I less and less try chasing/approaching/texting girls. I might have given up

[grega239]

Yeah, im getting myself a small house with a vineyard and a bike

[driven159]

you can't look for love it just happens when you least expect it

[Ryfyle]

Absolutely. Just give the fuck up and try to catch a truck with teeth.

[shanom]

Yeah, give up. Women are only romantically interested in two types of men. Men that look good, and men with status and money

[Mahmoud_Madyan]

Don't lose your hope... it just your time to be find your life forever partner didn't come yet!!