How did you find romantic (not self love) love after getting your heart broken by long term partner?

[Anonymous]

How did you find romantic (not self love) love after getting your heart broken by long term?

I am up for a story time. Need some inspiration and motivation that I can experience love again after getting my heartbroken twice.

[Anonymous]

It requires patience. My ex resorted to rebounds and flings and stuff and obviously that turned out to be a huge mess. On the other hand I waited. I kept looking but maintained my standards and didn't date just for the sake of it. I've met someone new on a dating app now. We're still on the talking phase but hopefully things will go forward. Wish me luck.

[Asker]

I hope it’ll turn out good for you. I met one of my ex on dating app. It was a good relationship. But the timing wasn’t right and he had to go to abroad for further studies and career opportunities. I wish you so much luck.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. I also felt exactly like you are feeling before I met this new girl. Maybe it's a sign that she's the right person for me while the other girls I met in between were not. Again it's too early to tell but let's see. But this will happen to you as well some day. Wishing you luck.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I just hope I find my forever ever after.

[HighValue]

Don't ruin your value to a potential future partner by becoming promiscuous and doing hook ups.

My advice would be don't date the same/similar type of person next time. Try someone with different personality traits and different life habits.

[Asker]

My exes weren’t toxic though. It’s just circumstances didn’t favour me both time. For example having to move to different country for further career opportunities.

[Rei13]

It honestly takes time and there is no timeline on grief. The most you can do is take it one day at a time, throw yourself into doing the things that you enjoy, spend time with friends and heal. You might not meet anyone right away but you will fall in love again even if it doesn’t seem like you’re able to right now.

[provokeesmokee]

Just take your time and love again when you're ready. Forcing yourself is a great way to end up more hurt and making mistakes.

[overthinker85]

I agree. Also, do not focus to ‚find love‘. When you focus on yourself (and loving yourself), it‘s more likely that love will find you (in my experience). Good luck!

[Asker]

Would you like to share your opinion?

[Asker]

experience I meant*

[overthinker85]

I was once painfully rejected by a girl I really liked. So I decided to train for a marathon with the - stupid, I know - idea that this would ‚prove myself to her‘. Of course it didn‘t change her mind or heart, but through the process my goal changed and it was more about proving myself what I could achieve and that I was worth caring about myself (I hope you know what I mean). By focussing on my own goals, I became stronger with each mile. And without realising it at first, this strenght and sense of self-love started to show, so all of a sudden some other likeable girls were interested in me. Good luck, I‘m sure you will find the one who appreciates you for who you truly are!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s been a year. So far, I have found self love.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I came to terms with what I could have done better, what she could have done better, what was and wasn't my fault and what the red flags were. And I think you also need to accept that there's always a chance things can end sideways. Dating is a high risk, high reward type of deal.

I get that it's hard, I also think spending some time to yourself, going out and meeting some new people helps.

[cnj421]

I’m still working on it to be honest. Sometimes we need more self healing than we think. Sending good vibes to you! ❤️

[Nikki1989]

I am very good at starting over. It has never been a big deal.

[Nifrayu]

I didn't do it in a healthy way. I dived right into another relationship that I wasn't emotionally ready for. I don't recommend that.

[karekaaaa]

I did more dates and hook ups 😅

[Asker]

But aren’t those casual. I meant something more of a real thing. I do know how to move on but the thing is about finding love afterwards.

[karekaaaa]

By dates u will find one

[Anonymous]

I didn't I learned to embrace singlehood.

[Miristheiss]

NOOOOOOO!