Why do I always make things complicated for myself? Need dating and relationship advice?

[NicoleM300]

I have been having an adult relationship with three guys. I like them, but I want one more than the other. One is my Ex-boyfriend; the other is some guy I met online and one of my friends. The guy I met online has been inspiring me to do better. My friend is married; he cares about me but is not very inspiring. Another guy, my ex-boyfriend, is an idiot and insists I get back together with him. I am trying to tell my Ex-boyfriend that we should take things slowly, but I don't like or trust him that much. I prefer to be with the person I met online. He is usually too busy, but when he has the time, I feel I am in love with him. When we talk on the phone, it is like we can talk for hours. I like him a lot. I want to eliminate the other two but not be mean to them. I want them to leave me alone but still be my friends. I don't have to have a relationship with them.

[Simslover92]

Wow I could have written this verbatim. My ex wants me again, the guy I truly like I met online and then I have a friend I met on GAG that really likes me but ultimately I really like the guy online. I say go with your gut. I think I am going to go with my gut and choose the guy online.

[NicoleM300]

the friend things he had dibs though because we have been friends for a while and if I ignore him, he finds a way to try to get to me. I have been trying to stop talking to him sense he is married. My Ex boyfriend goes to a church I go to; I was doing good with ignoring him but for some reason I answered the phone when he called me.

[NicoleM300]

I have told my Ex-boyfriend about the other guy, but he keeps trying to get me to like him again and I don't trust him yet

[Simslover92]

You need to let the friend down easy if you are not into him and especially since he's married. Also the ex boyfriend you need to let down easy because if you don't feel that way about him anymore then there's no point in leading him on. That's what I realized recently with my situation. I just have to let them down easy. And talk to the guy I really want which is the guy online.

[itsannalee]

Just stay away from 2 of them and focus on 1. About their feeling, that’s not your business. You can still be friends with ex if they want to, if they don’t want you can do anything.


Trying to hold anyone when you reject them is the most selfish thing do in relationships. Get over it.

[NicoleM300]

The problem I have is the guy that is my friend wants to always think he has dibs on me because he says we have been friends and know each other longer than the two. I have been trying to get rid of him for a while and my Ex-boyfriend goes to a church I have been going too. I tried to stay away from them but for some reason they want to be with me.

[NicoleM300]

I even blocked both of them in the past and they are still trying to be with me.

[itsannalee]

Like i said, their feeling isn’t your problem.

[bowenw]

I think you just have to tell them you are not interested in a serious relationship with them and leave it at that. If they won't leave you alone, you will have to block them.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. ☺️

[In_Trance]

I think you need to be single for a while and figure your shit out

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tangled web of love and drama!🎭 My aim here is to help you untangle those relationship strings. It seems like your heart's on a rollercoaster, and believe me, I've coached many through this amusement ride! 😏 Your goal is clear, but here's the tea: prioritizing your happiness and self-respect without feeling like Cruella is key. Clear, honest communication with each guy is essential, guiding each one gently to the friend zone. Time to give your heart a breather and zero in on that special spark! 💖

[NicoleM300]

So, get all of them to the friend zone or just two of them.

[NicoleM300]

How do I bring things up to them and make them actually leave me alone for a while so I can focus on one guy?

[Zionne]

You’re not really complicating things you just haven’t cut off what you don’t want yet. If the online guy is the one you want to explore then be honest with the other two.