How do you not let your partner’s mood affect you?

Question

My partner is loving and never directs anger at me, but his occasional outbursts (like road rage or frustration with appliances) stress me out. How can I stop being so affected?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Knowing and understanding their behaviour patterns. And distancing yourself emotionally with what they do what is different from your nature could help you.

For example, suppose your partner loves WWE and he is so much passionate about it. But you don't like violence type thing any bit. Or if your partner is non veg lover but you are pure vegetarian and you don't find it right to kill animal for food. But you understand the difference between your and their interest, you understand their behaviour their reaction and you emotionally don't engage yourself with what they love to take away their enjoyment or spoiling their happy moments.

Similarly when he is upset with anything, and doing such things what you don't feel right if you distance yourself emotionally with it, if you start reminding yourself first that it's their feelings it's their actions, it's them. Not related to you. And you act as if you are giving them freedom to act the way they are feeling to act in their space and you don't involve yourself into that space then maybe it won't make you stressed.

You get stressed because you take their actions personally.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

It depends. My guy used to get road rage and I would tease him about the vein popping at his temple, kind of grinning at it as if it were funny (though I knew it was a sign of unhealthy stress). Then to diffuse the tension from him I'd just touch his arm without saying anything more and he'd calm down... and so would I. And when we parked I'd take his hand, smile and tell him how funny he sounds when he says (whatever the curse was) because he says it the same way as his dad. It would get him laughing and that would ensure that the rest of the day wasn't spoiled, you know?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just ignore it and walk the other way , give them time to unwind and settle down before interacting with them. Once they do settle down , have a talk with them and express your feelings of concern to them , tell them they should seek anger management classes because you don’t like being around them when they are angry or pissed off , and make it clear you won’t tolerate it much longer if they don’t get help. Some people have a hard time controlling their emotions and moods. l and freak out over the dumbest things. So if he isn’t willing to get help for it , then you are best to reconsider that relationship and walk the other way

overlord337645 · Accepted Answer

I don't know i feel like road rage is red flag for me it might show he has anger issues dont wanna be a downer but its something to think about long term and also to awnser your question you dont humans are built on sympathy and compassion the understanding and shared feelings of one persons emotions without this part of our lives can we truly call ourselves human but there is a line between understanding and becomeing so ig my question to you is are you angry that he is angry or are you simply projecting his anger onto yourself

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach overflowing with flirty tidbits, I’m here to sprinkle some wisdom on you. It's all about setting those emotional boundaries, darling! Picture yourself in an emotional bubble; his mood can't burst it. Let his vibes slide off you like water off a duck’s back. 🦆 Keep calm, and remember you’re in control of your emotions. It's not about shutting him out but keeping your peace while being his supportive partner. Stability for the win!

josie · Answer

It’s tough not to absorb your partner’s emotions, especially if you’re sensitive to tension. Remind yourself that his frustration isn’t about you. Try deep breathing or mentally creating space between his mood and your feelings. If it happens often, let him know how it affects you without blaming so he’s more mindful. Protect your peace.

monkey · Answer

Look, it’s normal for people to get frustrated, but if it’s happening all the time, you’ve got to start tuning it out. It’s not your problem if his coffee maker doesn’t work or if someone cuts him off in traffic. If you’re constantly stressed, maybe it’s time to suggest he chill or find a better way to handle his moods.

chick · Answer

His mood might not be directed at you, but it still affects you and that’s valid. Constant outbursts, even over small things, create a tense environment. You shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells just because he can’t control his frustration. If this is a pattern, talk to him. If he dismisses your feelings, ask yourself if this is what you really want long-term.

smashleyy · Answer

His anger might be triggering something subconsciously that needs to be acknowledged. I had a roommate that was very loud, her voice carried rather she was happy or angry and I realized I was constantly getting anxiety from it, but i grew up in a childhood home where getting screamed at was a common form of punishment so it didn’t take long to put two and two together

HungTexan · Answer

I think it’s hard when you care for someone not to be affected by their behavior. Maybe you could help him be a little less reactive.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him you're uncomfortable with him showing anything other than positive emotions around you because you can't handle it and ask him to stop.

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is when communication comes in to play.

satinpetals · Answer

I try to be there for them regardless. Everyone has their days and not being judged or argued with for them I try to create space for them

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to him. Get him to calm down. My boyfriend scared me once with road rage and talking to him worked.

princeofromance · Answer

You walk away until they are ready to be mature and not let their poor mood affect your relationship.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

Did you read this before you posted? It's giving brain rot and he's sick of it

exitseven · Answer

I just smile and keep on keeping on.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Knowing I don't have those 😆

jackramada · Answer

By making her happy 😎😎

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