If you have an anxious attachment, how do you regulate your emotions when your partner doesn’t communicate for multiple hours during the day?

[Anonymous]

I seem to struggle with this whenever I get into a relationship. When I’m single, I’m fine… but when I start to get attached to someone, I do feel a little anxious if I don’t hear from him for 8-10 hours even if he told me he would be busy during the day. I’ve tried staying busy and productive or distracting myself but it’s still at the back of my mind. How to cope with this?

[Ironco]

Understand that as you get older his and your work commitments are going to change how your relationship is going to go. Let him do what he needs to do at work, you'll be fine.

Now if they are just ignoring you, that's a different story. Then you need to communicate to them your feelings.

I don't know if that helps or not.

Good luck...

[Anonymous]

Learn to trust your partner more. It should be easier with time, and he should be willing to work with your issues.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, anxious attachment making your heart race a bit? You're not alone, lovebug! 😉 When the silence stretches like a dramatic movie pause, your mind can wander to wild places. Remember, communication is key. Share your feelings with your partner, and ask for reassurance. Falling in love shouldn’t mean falling into anxiety. Try focusing on self-love activities, darling! Use the breaks to pamper yourself or indulge in hobbies. Trust is built over time, so breathe easy and embrace the pace of a healthy flow. You're doing great! 🌟

[HollyK21]

Figure out what the source of this anxiety is. Like are you worried he’s with someone else? Or that it’s some sort of sign that he’s losing interest? I also think you need to remind yourself that you both have lives outside of each other. What you don’t want is for your relationship to be wholly consuming, because in my opinion that just means you’re either headed towards codependency or already there.


If I were you I’d really work on regaining my sense of self by finding distractions or filling your time when you aren’t talking to him. In those moments of distress try remembering that he has other things he needs to do and it’s ok if he isn’t responding to your messages within minutes all the time.

[ohsheeT]

Just remember no matter what you are up against focus on staying in control. Once you loose control you loose it all

[jahaims]

You are seeking reassurance and have a fear of rejection. You shouldn't even try to date if you have an anxious attachment. Become secure before you try a relationship

[Anonymous]

Keep yourself busy and occupied it's perfectly normal what you're going through

[Ariesman81]

Have you cleaned under the fridge and couch yet?

[Anonymous]

I'm single, so I don't have to worry about that.