How do you overcome relationship anxiety and also improving communication with your significant other?

[Livelyserenity]

This is my first relationship and I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now and ever since I knew about his past it kind of gave me anxieties and fear on "what if" or "maybe" he would do that to me. Yes i agree that it is just my overthinking and I could just need to stop thinking too much but I still couldnt help and think about it.

My boyfriend has been pretty patient with me and also understanding and tries to reassure me but I really want to do this for myself.
And also how do you improve communication with your significant other? because me and my partner are quite bad in communicating with each other and recently I felt distant and abit left out.
What are the ways to communicate with my partner and also bringing up our problems without being too agressive about it?

PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME. I'm really lost and I dont have much experience in relationships so your advice and opinions do matter to me ><

[caring__1]

As far as the anxiety goes, knowing his past is better than not knowing his past. The key is to discover what he's learned from his past rather than dig for details of things that can't be changed. By knowing his past, you can know what signs to look for, to prevent past negative experiences from being revisited.

As far as communication goes, find a therapist who specializes in communication and then learn the basic skills with your partner. One of the main problems in communication is people's insistence that they be heard, while they do nothing to hear the other. The first step in effective communication is to show the other person you truly want to hear and understand that person's perspective. If you insist on being heard first, so will the other person.

[Claudia233]

You should learn to express and talk about your feelings. Whether it's in a romantic relationship, friendship, etc. You are responsible for your own wellbeing and I haven't heard of anyone being able to read minds. Just start doing it - tell him how his actions/words make you feel. It could be funny and awkward at the beginning but it will get better. You will get better at it. And if he doesn't listen or try to understand you leave him and go find someone who does.

[SnakeBoop]

what past/

[Livelyserenity]

His past relationships and also the bad decisions that he made in a relationship :(

[SnakeBoop]

yeah, that doesn't help at all.
if its a cheating past, you're a fool to date a cheater.