How do you deal with a partner that has anxiety?

[Anonymous]

Been with my partner a year and a half. I'm coming to the conclusion that my partners anxiety is to much for me to handle. Some examples for context. When were out she can't make decisions for herself, she'll be hungry but won't know what to eat, or where. If where on a busy street she won't know where to park and will drive around aimlessly while passing open spots. I called her timid because she rarely speaks up for herself and it led to a fight. Her anxiety makes me anxious and I immediately detach. I don't mean to place blame on anyone but how do I know this will get better. I have been patient but there seems to be no improvement. When we try to communicate about these issues she says she feels attacked. What else can I do to help our anxiety ridden relationship?

[Anonymous]

Maybe try communicating about her issue with a different approach? Talk about how her anxiety makes YOU feel as to avoid making her feel attacked so use “I” statements maybe go like “I want to help you overcome your anxiety and I want to blablabla”.

If all else fails then it might be best to leave for the sake of your own mental health.

[OddBeMe]

Sounds like depression. Anxiety is a common symptom. She could be slightly bipolar if her mood changes. Nothing you need to worry about. Try to talk to her about it, get her to see a doctor. Mild meds could cure her- as it did me.

Or break up if you don’t really like her. Not your responsibility.

[dudeinohio]

see about getting her on medication.