How do you prevent your partner idealizing you?

[LittleSally]

How to prevent your partner idealizing you?

We're all just people.

[Dana223]

For me, as a conformist this is very difficult. Lately I made efforts to refrain from doing this and destroy others' assumptions about me on things that they think I can or want to do. It is very difficult to say out some things but I do my best to put me first when I realistically should. Maybe I answered another question, clumsy talk. I'm curious, what is your story and solution? By the way, welcome back :)

[LittleSally]

Thank you. :)

In my particular case I think my partner idealized me in certain specific academic situations. It's a bit silly, but I do my best to always admit when I'm wrong so he knows I'm only human, just like him.

[watercolor_lions]

Be humble and admit your mistakes. Talk to them about how them idealizing you makes you feel.

If they hold you to their ideals and expect you to live up to their expectations, then it's probably best to leave. That will be a relationship about control and codependency.

[AdithyaR]

It's not exactly something you can prevent. That's something that goes on in your partners head and something they have to deal with. You could ask why they feel the need to idolize you and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. And then support them when they try to untangle whatever is going on in their mind.

[Guy13]

Do a couple 💩ty things and say, “See, I’m just as 💩ty as you are.” That should make it quite clear and end the idolizing 💪

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Let them see that you have flaws too. Here we have a saying - "Even the Pope goes to the toilet" which is a way to say that everyone, no matter how they appear, is human and flawed.

[melanieeeB]

I try to show him my "dark sides" and my flaws that I do have but sadly I always failed I guess... I always get to her "You deserve better than me" "You are such a good person" etc smh

[TheSpaceGnome]

You don't, you also shouldn't.

Thats what love is.

The "look, this is my wife and she's perfect" (even though in reality it's just my opinion) but fuck you she's perfect.

[OddBeMe]

Nothings worked so far. They keep thinking I’m a god,

[lightbulb27]

I just do lots of stupid stuff like forget things, make mistakes, miscommunicate...

walluh... problem solved!

[lightbulb27]

It's really easy to screw things up to be imperfect, if you need any help at all with that, lmk🤪

[Anonymous]

Go out for spicy food and go use the bathroom at your house with the door wide open - he will no longer see you as a princess.

[Agape93]

I don't sugar coat things at all

[LittleSally]

Sound advice. Neither do I.

[Agape93]

Atta girl

[TroyDT2]

I'll just keep disappointing her till she realizes it.

[es20490446e]

Just by remembering you that.

Although a bit of idealization may help, as long as it isn't overboard.

[Jamie05rhs]

You can't. When someone is in love, they are in love. Just accept it and be thankful.

[jayhams]

By choosing a mentally healthy partner

[LittleSally]

Certainly one way to go about it.

[RainBat]

Why would you not want to be idealized?

[Anonymous]

it's hard almost impossible