How do you deal with a conflict avoidant potential partner?

[LittleSally]

[caring__1]

Disagreements and differences in preferences will always exist, yet conflict is due to dysfunctional communication skills. There's no reason for allowing dysfunctional communication skills. People who get off on conflict rarely make healthy partners. Find someone qualified to teach the two of you how to communicate effectively. Quality communication leads to relationships thriving.

[LittleSally]

You misunderstood my point. The point of conflict resolution is to resolve conflict between the two parties. If we avoid that then all is lost...

[caring__1]

By allowing disagreements and differences to get to the conflict stage is what is dysfunctional. It's generally much easier to avoid conflict by addressing things when they are small rather than wait till the conflict develops and then attempt to deal with it. Do you wait till your septic system backs up into your home before addressing the need for maintenance?

It's like parents who feel they don't need to learn how to parent till the child becomes an adolescent, as patterns the kids show are cute when they are little. Many problems can be avoided if people have the tools from the start. People generally find it easier to focus on what the other person is doing rather than what their role in the issue might be. You'll never see positive results from accusing, assuming, blaming, criticizing, demanding, rationalizing, yelling or telling others what they should or shouldn't do.

[pervertedjester]

I've always enjoyed this method

https://youtu.be/8CAlQma2CE4?t=70

[Anonymous]

I thought you were dead lol. You back on gag long?
Depends what you mean, if they don't want to fight with me but will not let others walk all over them is fine

[LittleSally]

Haha I'm alive, but barely :)

[Agape93]

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. If they can't handle it, break it off.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well said

[HawkPerception]

You don't. That's a child that doesn't know how to effectively communicate in a relationship. It's one thing to brush your partner off once in a while due to stress or the fact that there's too much conflict in which case you're likely not compatible with them in the first place. But if they're just avoiding communication altogether, that can't really be resolved.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Damn that's a hard one cause sometimes conflict is needed. You have to find a way to communicate and if you can't it might be time to move on

[Fireguy17]

Either you have to work things out or at least for me it would be time to move on.
Over time things would just keep building up and that would not be healthy for the relationship.

[Guanfei]

Avoiding it is just pushing it under the carpet, but it will come back later.

[NathanDavis]

nope... I'm not ready for that lack of commitment to things

[Rockstarrrrr]

NO... those are the worst lol.. Run